Why are people so determined for me to pull out in front of them?

No really, I don’t know a single person IRL who gets so easily wound up. If anyone moaned about this IRL I’d think “WTF”. But people come on MN to complain about people letting them out, not looking where they were going when walking for 0.2 seconds, not holding the door open, brushing their arm because they were close etc. Surely these intersections of other people are a part of living as a human in public and we just have to put up with it and accept we all dot hi ba to piss people off

On a serious note, being annoyed that other people don’t go about their way in a completely perfect way, a way that’s pleasing to everyone around, never doing one thing wrong, is really is something that only exists in MNland. IRL nobody gets so clenched about somebody <gasp> letting them out of a street.

I’d also stop to look at a bride in the street. Is she always there?

I agree with you, @smelliecat . It is really annoying when drivers 'let you out' when there are no cars behind them. Its especially annoying if they simply slow down a minimal amount and expect you to dart through quickly.

It just creates a new set of road safety calculations, displacing the calculations you were already making about your planned and problem-free manoeuvre.
And on top of the new calculations you also have the etiquette issues on your mind - the need to thank them while simultaneously being pissed off with them.

All minor concerns and calculations, but totally unnecessary and distracting ones .

ALSO, these numpties have clearly not checked their rear mirrors before slowing down - otherwise they would have realised how pointless their self-indulgent chivalry was. And that's dangerous. A couple of months ago, a driver slowed down really abruptly to 'let' me make a right-turn in front of her. A lorry was close behind her. It had to brake very sharply and the lorry driver was beeping and furious with her.

There was me, a vulnerable cyclist in a mid-road position, with a near-crash in front of me just because of her misplaced and badly executed generosity.

@smelliecat As others have said it's not really clear what is going on:
it's a usual road; does that mean you drive it often or its a normal road, what kind?
It reaches a road where visability is low and there is a bride; how does it meet this road T junction? cross roads? how does the bride (bridge?) fit in?
distance and a in front of a hatched; is there an object of road furniture missing here?

Generally I think people should drive predictably and get on with their journey so agree with that, if that is your position. And the errors and omissions in the OP don't change that I suppose.

I sympathise with this. I have noticed a lot more drivers giving way at mini roundabouts when it is their right of way. This causes confusion and I imagine accidents. The Highway Code is the rule.
Theres a mini roundabout at the end of my steady and drivers seem continually confused about whose right of way it is and this has really increased recently.
i think its about wanting to be seen and being nice but who knows

It's not just one other poster who can't understand your opening post. It's garbled and makes no sense. What do you mean by a "bride"? I thought bridge was a good guess but you've dismissed that, so what is it?

I know exactly what you mean, OP. For some reason there is a lot of this sort of behaviour where I live now (recently moved) and I don’t find it polite at all, it is arrogant and unhelpful. I have to turn right across a lane of traffic to go up the road near my house. Not a problem, it is a quiet enough street and there are always gaps in the traffic to let me turn. Have never had to wait more than say, a minute. Except when an arsehole with the road clear empty behind him ostentatiously stops, flashes his lights and ‘lets’ me out. They are always abusive if you don’t immediately take them up on it (eg if it isn’t safe to turn just at that moment because someone is crossing the road on foot) and it can then lead to more nastiness, eg honking from someone impatient behind me etc. I no longer think of it as ‘nice’ it is just another flavour of assholery on the roads.

At risk of stereotyping I find it is often men who do it and expect me to be swooningly grateful for their intervention.

Oh, you're one of those.

Some irony here, I feel seeing as my initial post specifically said, "With respect, your post is all but impossible to follow to me"

Perhaps your reading comprehension might also use some work?

Yeah I know exactly what you mean. I have this situation daily at a particular junction. It’s super dangerous and annoying. I cannot see the other lane of traffic properly and if I hit someone it would be my fault. But because they’ve stopped ‘for me’ all traffic on both sides thinks I should risk it. Which I don’t want to do. Because I don’t want to kill a cyclist. If anyone reading this does this kind of shit please stop. It isn’t at all helpful.

Mumsnet has always been pretty rude. I used to be on here a lot when mine were tiny (13 years ago) and it was very robust.

What’s funny to me is how CROSS they get when you don’t gratefully take up their offer!

God people are so rude on MN these days.

The overly 'helpful' brigade get on my wick @smelliecat . They get some weird kick out of letting people out even though it means they are stopping everyone behind them.

And, no, not when we're already in a queue of traffic. The ones who will drive along in flowing traffic and hesitate every time they see a car at the junction on a side road and often stop or slow right down. Driving behind these numpties is tedious. And I agree, also tedious as the person being let out or as a pedestrian.

I remember people waving me across the road and looking irate when I didn't go, as a mum with a pushchair, totally oblivious to the other lane or cars driving around them on their inside, which I couldn't see clearly.

With respect, your post is all but impossible to follow to me (missing words, incorrect words, general lack of clarity as to what is where in this scenario). No judgement, autocorrect frequently gets me too, but I wonder if you can ask Mumsnet to amend?

From what I did understand, if you're sitting having a "good look" I wonder if this is appearing as undue hesitation to other drivers who are wondering why you're not just joining the road in a normal, timely fashion. If so, they may therefore a) be trying to help you out by giving you a very clear, unambiguous slot to join and letting you know it's safe/alright; or b) thinking, "I don't want a nervous, unsure driver behind me - better let them go in front"?

Are your driving skills anything like your communication skills? It may be a you problem.

I agree overall and would never stop on a roundabout, but if I'm driving say behind a car that is in another lane that ends soon and they aren't making any effort to merge then I'm concerned about their driving ability and spatial awareness and if they are just going to merrily pull across into my car when they actually notice so in that case I will slow down to let them in, or at least slow enough to ensure they are safe to pass.

People should just follow the highway code. People being "courteous" are also behaving unpredictably, and therefore increase the likelihood of an accident. The worse example is people who stop on a roundabout to let people in. Utter madness.