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Sharing bath water

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UltimateLuxury · 04/02/2026 19:41

Just that really.
For what it is worth we have a massive roll top bath which takes 15 minutes to fill
I usually offer out to rest of family when I am done.
is that okay or grim?

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NorthXNorthWest · 05/02/2026 22:37

Jane143 · 05/02/2026 22:20

No worse than sharing same bed and having sex!

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There is a world of difference.

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/02/2026 22:29

And I think if water is that scarce, just have a shower!

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 05/02/2026 22:28

I think small children sharing bath water is fine, or a parent getting in after their small children (usually with a hot top up!)

I think it’s a bit odd to share with anyone outside of these circumstances unless there’s a drought or something.

Jane143 · 05/02/2026 22:20

NorthXNorthWest · 05/02/2026 19:11

3rd party nasties: fecal matter, dead skill, sweat, athletes foot for starters

Do you share towels too? 👀😱

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No worse than sharing same bed and having sex!

Jane143 · 05/02/2026 22:18

suburburban · 04/02/2026 19:54

Yes I will go in bath after DH

Yes we do this too

Glitchymn1 · 05/02/2026 21:50

DH has gone in after me, but I rarely bother. I’d rather shower. He will eat after me, use my cup, glass, fork, towel, nothing is safe. 😬I don’t like using anything after someone else, even DD.

Gribouille · 05/02/2026 21:46

Ruined by Saltburn...

99pwithaflake · 05/02/2026 21:45

Bubbles90 · 05/02/2026 19:23

Nothing grim about this. A lot of families do this. Perfect fine unless you are particularly dirty in which case you wouldn't offer your bathwater anyway.

Of course it’s grim! You’re sitting in a tub full of dirty water and someone else’s dead skin cells and bodily excretions 🤮

99pwithaflake · 05/02/2026 21:44

S4uk · 05/02/2026 21:02

Yup!
it still happens here - mum first (likes it hottest) then dad then me!
yes, I am of a certain age, but still live at home.
often my 2 children will get in with mum…

🥴🥴🥴

Rattai · 05/02/2026 21:43

S4uk · 05/02/2026 21:02

Yup!
it still happens here - mum first (likes it hottest) then dad then me!
yes, I am of a certain age, but still live at home.
often my 2 children will get in with mum…

Really???!!

Newyearawaits · 05/02/2026 21:05

Seems fine to me

S4uk · 05/02/2026 21:02

Yup!
it still happens here - mum first (likes it hottest) then dad then me!
yes, I am of a certain age, but still live at home.
often my 2 children will get in with mum…

houseofisms · 05/02/2026 20:55

We do that… adult first then offer to the kids. They spend hours in the bath

TheActualQueen · 05/02/2026 20:02

Currently lounging in DHs bath water right now 🤣
I wouldn’t use anyone’s bathwater if they were sick BTW.
But a healthy husband - meh?!

Hankunamatata · 05/02/2026 19:49

Depends

Myself and dh often share a bath as these so long to fill but we have showers every morning and don't have mucky jobs. If waters dirty nope

Lollipop81 · 05/02/2026 19:46

Growing up in the 80’s our family did it, I wouldn’t dream of doing it now personally.

tedibear · 05/02/2026 19:36

I’m just about to get out and DD8 wants to go in. I’ve literally just washed my hair and body. No shaving or anything, it’s absolutely fine. If the water ever looks a bit grubby I’ll tip it out and refill.

When I was growing up it was the norm as once they hot water had been used it would take hours for it to heat back up again (immersion).

Bubbles90 · 05/02/2026 19:23

Nothing grim about this. A lot of families do this. Perfect fine unless you are particularly dirty in which case you wouldn't offer your bathwater anyway.

Morepositivemum · 05/02/2026 19:17

Personally think it’s grim but then baths and paddling pools would be the things I personally think should be banned because of wasting water so I kind of feel like I should just leave!!

TittyGajillions · 05/02/2026 19:15

Proccy · 04/02/2026 21:41

Never thanks. Very grim. My dp told me when they'd had a particularly bad fallout with their ex they pissed in the water, then their unknowing ex partner got in and washed their hair etc. So no, I certainly wouldn't 😁

And you're happy to be with someone who did that? That's abusive and disgusting 🤢

99pwithaflake · 05/02/2026 19:12

Eurgh, I think it's disgusting to sit in someone else's filthy water. How can you get clean? 😩

CollieModdle · 05/02/2026 19:11

Yuk.

But I don’t like baths anyway, and always shower.

I consider big deep baths environmentally non-ideal so if you must do this, better run one bath shared than two, I suppose.

NorthXNorthWest · 05/02/2026 19:11

3rd party nasties: fecal matter, dead skill, sweat, athletes foot for starters

Do you share towels too? 👀😱

NorthXNorthWest · 05/02/2026 19:09

UltimateLuxury · 04/02/2026 19:41

Just that really.
For what it is worth we have a massive roll top bath which takes 15 minutes to fill
I usually offer out to rest of family when I am done.
is that okay or grim?

Grim.

GreenChameleon · 05/02/2026 19:08

I get in after the DCs. Wouldn't get in after anyone else, not even my DH!