So in summary DS is 17 in a few weeks. Decided will get a car as sibling did so only fair. Last time DH chose car after viewing a few but did consult me on a lot, however cars are more his thing so left to him. With DS did say to him "you sort it" but by that I meant come up with a few options lets discuss as has always been the way with any big purchase. I found a couple of suitable cars on line today to show him and so texted links to them to receive a text back saying he'd already bought one!!! I went nuts wondering why he could not have even had the courtesy to tell me he had found one he thought was ok and what did I think. Apparently I am unreasonable! It is such a huge milestone and big expensive gift I am absolutely gutted to have been totally left out.I was in the house when he bought it literally in the next room I have no idea what he was thinking not to wander in and mention before paying.