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How to be ok with care?

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ToadRage · 04/02/2026 15:50

At this moment I only need my carers to come in and make me lunch. If i have a different carer to my usual, they always ask if they can help me go to the toilet or wash. I understand these are things they are probably doing regularly for their other charges. I do not need this level of care yet but no doubt I will one day but I really am not comfortable with the idea of this.

I am not used to anyone other than husband seeing me naked, with the exception of a doctor or nurse who does my smear.

Does anyone else need to use carers for these things and how did you behind comfortable with such things or was it a case of neccessity overcoming?

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Octavia64 · 04/02/2026 15:53

I’m disabled.

one of my friends is in a wheelchair all the time and needs significant assistance to have a shower and change her bag etc (she is incontinent).

it’s that or never wash.

most people put up with it. Or they smell.

them’s your choices.