Need help asserting myself with my resignation from a committee I'm on

YY to the absolutely basic resignation phrasing. It screams, ‘DON’T EVEN START ME, RICHARD.’

Have you posted before @FlyBy2026 , it sounds very familiar 🤔

I like this.

Or ‘I don’t feel the need to discuss it, thanks’.

I wish to resign from my role on the committee on x date when the blah blah project is completed.
I have other interests I wish to give my time to now.
best regards
me

if you give criticism the wrong people may think it’s directed at them. Keep it v brief

Sometimes it’s not what you say, it’s what you DON’T say!
How about “I resign with immediate effect”?
Simple, direct, deliberately to the point and intentionally curt.

I’ve been in a similar situation. You don’t need to justify why you are leaving, your mind is made up. The people pleaser part of you might feel uncomfortable with this, but keep it factual. If they push , shut it down and don’t engage. Don’t do what I did and agree to carry on til they find a replacement etc. Good luck, I expect you’ll feel relieved.

This is really well balanced and cleverly understated..😆 providing you leave out the fuckitybye

You should go with cold hard facts, especially in writing.

"I wish to inform you that I will be stepping down from my position (title) effective from X date".

If queried "surely you can't be surprised" and leave it at that.

Haha. You reckon? Fair enough 😂

You don't have to formally resign, they don't employ you, she isn't your boss.

Tempting as it is I suggest a formal, politely curt resignation letter stating resignation effective from x date.

Then if asked if you'll reconsider state that you are no longer willing or able to do so.

If asked why THEN you can state that you have increasingly felt that the way you have been communicated with and treated has been unpleasant and disrespectful, to the point that you are no longer willing to tolerate it despite having enjoyed the positive aspects of the role in their own right.

Be ice cold rather than blow your top - it will get the message across more clearly.

This is just as bad as the OP's first version 😆

In the spirit of personal development you might want to consider how to avoid this next time.

Did you give the leader feedback?
Did you call out perceived rudeness?
Did you have regular reviews/catch ups?
Did you set (and maintain) clear boundaries?

Yeah I wouldn't send your one. Tempting as it may be. It sounds too hot headed.

I'd say something like-

'I've decided to step down from my position.

While I am proud of what I achieved I don't feel as if I was sufficiently supported by you.

Your style of working seemed to be to treat me as a subordinate. Leading me to conclude it is not beneficial for me to continue spending so much effort and time on this role.

This might be something for you to think about when finding a new chair.'

This is brilliant advice. Only speak your mind if they challenge you or tell you they don’t accept your resignation.

I agree with others - the cold, no info, formal response is way better.

Don't mention stress as they will likely see your resignation as being down to a) unable to cope or b) mental health issues. Keep it brief, factual and measured.

I think it’s a bigger fuck you to give zero detail, zero padding. Just say I hereby resign from X Committee, effective immediately’. If anyone contacts you, just say as of x date, you are no longer a member of the committee.

I’d give the most basic resignation. It’s what you do after thats more important, don’t engage with them further and no more help.

I agree with those saying to keep it short, cool and minimal - never put a weapon into your enemies' hands - they WILL twist it and use it against you! Just grey rock 'em.

But you can take some satisfaction in how they will flail and fall apart without you... Miss Management there will realise that she is not, in fact, the boss of you... 😏

May I just say how lovely it is to see someone standing up for themselves and not taking it any more! Your strength and dignity become you! 😄

Absolutely! It's like one of those letters we are advised to write, to get it all out, but to never send to someone.

I actually think less is more in instances like this.

I would say that having given your position careful consideration you are resigning effective xyz and not elaborate any further.

If any questions raise from the person concerned I'd simply say that they seem unaware about the kind of environment they've created for volunteers at the organisation, but it doesn't sit well with you and you don't want to spend any more time there. Let them either stew or reflect on that, it won't be your concern.

It's never a good idea to burn bridges unless absolutely necessary. Actions speak louder than words - you're leaving. If you don't give waffly reasons and just send the simple resignation, that will have an effect.