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What should I say to my 19 year old daughter who has already decided that she hates men?

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JMSA · 03/02/2026 22:36

I don’t know, I guess it just saddens me that she holds this negative view of the world already. I received this text from her tonight:

I feel so enraged by the Epstein files. It is like documented proof men are evil. This is what men will do when they have power and think they will get away with it because that’s their nature. The poor woman and kids, it’s sick.

I’m fed up of saying ‘it’s not all men’.
She really hasn’t known many nice teenage boys. I daresay social media has heavily coloured her view too. I don’t want to dismiss her feelings but don’t want to encourage the notion that all men are evil!

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JMSA · 03/02/2026 22:43

GallonHat · 03/02/2026 22:41

Lucky her. Most women don't come to this realisation until they're much older.

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TeenLifeMum · 03/02/2026 22:42

I’m happy dd1 is gay - her girlfriend is lovely. Her younger sisters aren’t gay but find all the boys at school revolting except one who is a friend. The levels of misogyny are off the scale. I feel the world has gone backwards.

JMSA · 03/02/2026 22:42

Arlanymor · 03/02/2026 22:40

Why is she not allowed to express the opinion that she did to you?

Nothing in it says she hates all men.

Yes, but I’m not going by this text on its own. She will say that she hates men.
And I never said that she wasn’t allowed to express her opinion.

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GallonHat · 03/02/2026 22:41

Lucky her. Most women don't come to this realisation until they're much older.

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 03/02/2026 22:40

I think she’s right.

Arlanymor · 03/02/2026 22:40

Why is she not allowed to express the opinion that she did to you?

Nothing in it says she hates all men.

VoiceFromThePit · 03/02/2026 22:38

Tell her about Myra Hindley (and others) and say it’s like saying she hates Muslims etc.

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