To think perimenopause is an overused buzzword?

You seem strangely bothered that a women's health issue is getting more awareness.

Get yourself a cup of tea and a biscuit and maybe ask yourself why you give such a shit about this.

There are people who are indeed in perimenopause.

There are people who genuinely have ADHD.

There are people who have suffered at the hands of narcissistic abuse.

Just because these things are being openly discussed more on public forums and social media does not reduce the suffering and experience of others down to a simple buzzword.

In times gone by, many of these people would have suffered alone in silence, I’m glad people no longer have to do that and can much more easily find resources and coping mechanisms and community.

If it’s too buzzy…remember we all have the option to just scroll on by.

I was advised by rheumatologist who made no effort to explain my vaginal dryness and other classic perimenopause symptoms, to stop doing nights and go part time. The only way to do that at the time was to go on the bank (zero hours contract), it was career suicide. By the time i started hrt i was down to one 12 hour shift a week and struggling to even do that.

Nearly 3 years into HRT, and 7 months on mounjaro to clear the 6.5 stone weight gain (all centrally on my trunk) i am now trying to rebuild my career, but how successful I'll be i don't know.

It makes me really sad.

Aargh, I can’t even spell correctly anymore, nor punctuate!!

I had to leave my job.

Dont be so ficking judgemental.

I’m so sorry to hear that. Unfortunately, I can relate. It just takes the rug from right under your feet. I have had to leave my job and my relationship is really suffering. And people on here are calling it a bandwagon.

I wish I could get the fuck off it!!

So there are thankfully some doctors who listen.

So what you're saying is that women have historically described difficulties around this age but called it different names, and now we have a medical term to describe those experiences?

The article i shared showing that many women have symptoms in their 30s and 40s wasn't made up. Unless you think I am a journalist and also two doctors?

And? I'm now on HRT but my marriage almost ended and I nearly took my own life this time last year. It was hell.

Bandwagon? again, fucks sake.

YANBU
apparently older ladies used to say “my nerves” for everything then I recall it being “my hormones” now it’s “peri” for everything 😶 it’s hard to speak to a HCP about an actual problem without them scapegoating to “peri”
I have not jumped on that incredibly commercialised bandwagon
YANBU

A friend's colleague has just swung six weeks off work, claiming peri.

The fact is women must be heard and so what if they are not actually in peri? I mean why do you care @Furning . The fact they women are talking about it matters hugely.

Good for you

this is a little bit like saying “I breezed through pregnancy, so everyone should”
or “my periods are light, I don’t know what the fuss is”

your experience is your experience.

Are you getting help, @theiblis ?? I definitely have had a few ups and downs on HRT but my mental health improved as soon as I started on estrogen patches.

46, my symptoms started may be a year ago. I’m full blown mental now, hospital and everything… not even at menopause stage. It’s horrifying and terrifying at the same time. Women in your 30’s just fucking enjoying them as much as is possible, I would not wish this horror on my worst enemy.

This is it isn’t it.
I had so many arguments with the doctor.

No I’m not menopausal. I know I’m not menopausal. But I am having symptoms due to diminishing hormones.

You seem quite angry about this, are you scared of ageing?

skewed because of years of ignorance and dismissing women as too young.
@anotheruser345

your absolutely spot on. Because we didn’t talk about it, didn’t associate all the random symptoms with it. Just thought we were going mad.
give it another 15/20 years and the data will look very very different.

there’s also a level of embarrassment, few 38 year olds are going to say “it’s menopause starting”. Calling this period Peri menopause allows younger women to talk without embarrassment of feeling old.

As someone who is post-menopause I’d say I was in peril from late 40s when my periods started going haywire and my periods stopped at 51.

I do know someone who went in to meno early 40s, but it’s usually hereditary and pretty rare. She would’ve been peri in late 39. They say if you’re experiencing symptoms pre-45 then blood tests to check hormone levels are needed.

Thry say you can be in peril 10 years prior to your menopause (which is the day you reach a year since your last period, then its post-meno), but that doesn’t necessarily mean you’re having symptoms all that time, just that your body is starting to produce fewer hormones.

I think it’s great that all aspects of menopause are now being taken seriously, but there is a danger of overuse, and then there may be backlash.

I’m actually having more issues post-menu - skin like a teenager and some horrible health issues to boot. HRT didn’t help so that was binned off.

Not at all. In fact, we should all be talking about it more until the medical profession catch up and start taking it seriously.

I’d be really interested if they actually are though.
if it’s recognised that your fertility drops due to diminishing hormones etc it stands to reason that your heading or in perimenopause.
if the average menopause window starts at 45 and perimenopause is the bit leading up to that. Then yes for many (not all) that will be late 30’s.

I was 36 when I first had symptoms. I now have bowel, and continence issues that could have been prevented by recognising vaginal atrophy that was my first symptom really. 8 years on my periods are still perfectly regular and no sign of actual menopause just a growing list of symptoms.

this is a little bit like the advent of the teenager in the 60’s, suddenly realising there’s actually a period of time between fertility dropping and menopause.

this just shows you don't get it.

Menopause is an absolute event. The day of your last period.

All the symptoms are associated with the period running up to that absolute event, or after it.

I certainly agree that some people make menopause their personality. Just as they do baking, sourdough, cycling etc etc.

Extremely tedious,