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To think perimenopause is an overused buzzword?

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Furning · 03/02/2026 20:10

My friends and I are mid to late 30s. A lot of them are now claiming they’re perimenopausal, and if I mention I’m hot, or I've forgot something, or cant concentrate, they rush to tell me it’ll be perimenopause.

If they are struggling to lose weight, or forget what they’re saying, or anything at all negative happens, it’s because they’re perimenopausal.

I know some women might be in their 30s, but surely not most? Why is everyone suddenly obsessed with it?

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Henriettafromdablox · 03/02/2026 20:40

You’ll probably get some stick for saying it but you’re right. It’s almost the new undiagnosed ADHD.

EmeraldRoulette · 03/02/2026 20:39

StrawberrySquash · 03/02/2026 20:20

It's obviously a thing, but it's noticeable that there's much less talk about plain old menopause. It's all the new shiny perimenopause.

It's partly because it's more profitable for them - they target their stuff to sell at a wide age range now

Also, I think workplaces have seized on it as a reason to discriminate

So now they don't want to employ anyone of child bearing age which is 16 to - well 56 in my family 😱 but for most people I don't know, 48? Though the world seems to be thinking that this is impossible. No wonder abortions are high in that age group.

And now they don't want to employ perimenopausal women

And now they don't want to employ post menopausal women I presume - I don't know

I didn't think that women would embrace it so much. If you have a health problem, wouldn't you want it to be between you and your manager? I've said this before on here - people were furious.

So thank you, and I agree with you.

tiredlazydoesntmatter · 03/02/2026 20:38

I had never heard the word until I came on MN . I genuinely cannot remember giving menopause much thought even when going through it,Perimenopause is very over used and it could actually cause someone to miss an important symptom for a serious illness.
Yes in hindsight I generally struggled mid to late 40s with MH ,heavy periods which all stopped late 40s etc but I never joined any dots together.

Furning · 03/02/2026 20:32

vincettenoir · 03/02/2026 20:20

My understanding is that you’re in peri as soon as your oestrogen levels start to drop. So I think women in their late 30s are typically in peri.

I can see why it seems like a buzzword invented by TikTok when it’s on everyone’s lips all of a sudden. But I think there’s more to it than that. It’s taken a very long time for it to be recognised and it is still poorly understood. Just like endometriosis, menorrhagia and and an tonne of other women’s health issues.

I don’t think so. The NHS and BUPA say it’s usually between 45 and 55. The NHS also says the first sign tends to be irregular periods. No one mentions this particularly symptom though.

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vincettenoir · 03/02/2026 20:20

My understanding is that you’re in peri as soon as your oestrogen levels start to drop. So I think women in their late 30s are typically in peri.

I can see why it seems like a buzzword invented by TikTok when it’s on everyone’s lips all of a sudden. But I think there’s more to it than that. It’s taken a very long time for it to be recognised and it is still poorly understood. Just like endometriosis, menorrhagia and and an tonne of other women’s health issues.

StrawberrySquash · 03/02/2026 20:20

It's obviously a thing, but it's noticeable that there's much less talk about plain old menopause. It's all the new shiny perimenopause.

schopenhauer · 03/02/2026 20:16

I agree op, my younger sister is like this and thinks she is in perimenopause, attributing various random ‘symptoms’ to it! I am nearly 42 and don’t think I am yet, possibly the odd thing but it could be any number of things!

i just think it’s a fashionable thing these days and all the influencers and podcasters have found something to convince women they have to fork out for. Various supplements etc that they need for their perimenopause. I don’t think it’s helpful to constantly focus on this and I prefer to think I am young enough not to be in perimenopause quite yet! I may be delusional but I prefer that overall 😂

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