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to absolutely hate the how people are speaking English!

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exse24Londoner · 03/02/2026 16:35

I really hate how we have "suddenly" starting gifting presents rather than giving them as we did only a couple of years ago. Vacations - when did we start having vacations instead of holidays?????? The other day I saw an advert for pants - turned out to be trousers. Apparently when I speak to someone it is now liaising & if I call or text, I am reaching out..... the other day someone was talking about the front end, or as I prefer to call it - the beginning!!🙄

Dont get me wrong, I love the evolution of language & that generations make it their own but this isn't that this is not teenagers or cultures developing own language its...... weird management/pop psychology speak

is it just me??

OP posts:
TheGrimSmile · 03/02/2026 17:39

OvernightBloats · 03/02/2026 16:47

Saying 'pissed' instead of 'pissed off' is something that grates. More and more people are using it and I get confused with what they mean. Pissed will always mean drunk to me.

I came on to say this. Somebody started a thread recently about her friend "being pissed" and it turned out they meant pissed off. Just stop it! It's so irritating.

Runningismyhappyplace50 · 03/02/2026 17:38

We are watching more American Tv and seeing American and young influencers.

My DC use a lot of American vocabulary so I think we probably need to get use to it.

Northerngirl821 · 03/02/2026 17:37

YANBU. “Gotten”, a “slither” of cake, being “unphased” by a situation, “step” foot rather than set foot, off my own “back” instead of bat. There were even people on here the other day arguing that it’s “can’t be asked” instead of “can’t be arsed”.

I find it sad that people don’t seem to care or want to improve their English and any attempt to correct errors gets you screamed at because “they could be dyslexic!!!!”

Oh, and what is this trend of using “males” and “females” instead of “men” and “women” FFS?!

P0loGirl · 03/02/2026 17:37

Oh God, all the American-isms are bloody awful.

HoppityBun · 03/02/2026 17:37

Everyone should speak like what I speak

ThejoyofNC · 03/02/2026 17:36

I can't stand how everything is now a "she."

Clothing, cars, appliances, cups, hairdos. You name it, "she's" something.

Toddlerteaplease · 03/02/2026 17:36

@ImlyingandthatsthetruthI think it might be but frowned on. And would mess up the off duty as well as need a rather long Datix form. 😂😂

HopeJacob · 03/02/2026 17:36

I am usually a very tolerant individual who has ample loving kindness to dust on those I meet, but I properly bristle when people in the queue in front of me say 'can I get.....?' This is not standard British English!

If I worked in Starbucks and was on the receiving end of that all day, I doubt I'd last the shift.

PuppyMonkey · 03/02/2026 17:36

CeciliaMars · 03/02/2026 16:38

I think if you're going to complain about incorrect English, you should proof-read your title.
Other than that, most people I know wear trousers and go on holidays.

It’s proofread. Wink

BatsInHibernation · 03/02/2026 17:36

Goldenbear · 03/02/2026 17:26

If my DC used Americanisms I would correct them as we are not American. They are older teens now and none of their friends use Americanisms, in fact it is something that would joke about and do an impression of.

I don't love it myself. My child says 'trash can' instead of bin which baffles me..
But OP said she wouldn't mind it if it was language evolution. But I think it is just language evolution.
It made me think of oldies saying 'its not music it's just noise' when it very much is music, it's just not music they like. Lots of Americanisms have crept in over time, largely accepted now, these are just new ones. The 'psychobabble' speak that OP is talking about is culturally relevant right now but much of the language might stick around.

TheBogPeople · 03/02/2026 17:35

LastnightIdreamtIwenttoManderleyagain · 03/02/2026 17:31

My (least) favourite is ‘passed’. I don’t particularly like passed away, though I understand why some people prefer it, but ‘passed’. Passed what? Their driving test? The salt?

These ones with the missing words are the ones that make my teeth itch.

Passed (away)
Pissed (off)
New years (eve, day, what?)

And could care less (but I don’t?)

For the record my DH is American but rarely used Americanisms as he’s lived here since he was 25 and has made an effort to use British English. He does sometimes lapse when he’s tired though and shouts ‘Cold Beverage!’ when he wants to annoy me.

RedToothBrush · 03/02/2026 17:34

LastnightIdreamtIwenttoManderleyagain · 03/02/2026 17:31

My (least) favourite is ‘passed’. I don’t particularly like passed away, though I understand why some people prefer it, but ‘passed’. Passed what? Their driving test? The salt?

A large plop!

Toddlerteaplease · 03/02/2026 17:34

Badatmostthings · 03/02/2026 16:39

Always been pants for trousers in the NW

I didn’t know this until I went on Pilgrimage with a group from Liverpool. I thought they’d lost the plot. 😂

MO0N · 03/02/2026 17:34

CeciliaMars · 03/02/2026 16:38

I think if you're going to complain about incorrect English, you should proof-read your title.
Other than that, most people I know wear trousers and go on holidays.

I wholeheartedly agree with you Cecilia!

RedToothBrush · 03/02/2026 17:33

Goldenbear · 03/02/2026 17:26

If my DC used Americanisms I would correct them as we are not American. They are older teens now and none of their friends use Americanisms, in fact it is something that would joke about and do an impression of.

Not so secret wanker calling...

Northernladdette · 03/02/2026 17:33

Hilarious that your title doesn’t even make sense 🙄🤣

Ilovepastafortea · 03/02/2026 17:33

It grates on me when someone in a café or similar asks 'Can I get a....'
I so want to butt in & correct them by saying 'yes, if you have the skills, I'm sure that it's possible for you to make a....but you would have to do that at home; the staff here are paid to make it for you'

The other Americanism is when someone refers to their dog 'using the bathroom' I was walking my dog recently when the wife said to her partner/husband 'darling do you have a poo bag, the dog has just used the bathroom'. DH had to restrain me from asking exactly how did you teach your dog to use a bathroom as mine poos on grass' If I could teach her to use the bathroom I could just flush it & save money on poo bags.

Don't get me started on young people using 'like' every other word eg: 'I was 'like' really tired' Me: 'so how were you feeling that was 'like' really tired?'

godmum56 · 03/02/2026 17:32

Badatmostthings · 03/02/2026 16:39

Always been pants for trousers in the NW

I think its the singular use that the poster objects to. I must admit that I find the phrase "a red lip" odd as though someone has only used lipstick on one lip

Lovelynames123 · 03/02/2026 17:32

BigAnne · 03/02/2026 17:27

In the NE of which country?

England, Newcastle specifically

LastnightIdreamtIwenttoManderleyagain · 03/02/2026 17:31

My (least) favourite is ‘passed’. I don’t particularly like passed away, though I understand why some people prefer it, but ‘passed’. Passed what? Their driving test? The salt?

DoubleDoubleDown · 03/02/2026 17:28

How do we feel about Canadian language/vocabulary. You know they use pants, cookies, diapers, vacation, soda. Basically all the same as the States.

BigAnne · 03/02/2026 17:27

Lovelynames123 · 03/02/2026 16:48

Definitely been using pants in the NE for trousers for years, jogging pants, ski pants, pyjama pants...my pet peeve is " can I get...." when ordering, although do sometimes hear myself say it!

In the NE of which country?

AncoraAmarena · 03/02/2026 17:27

Everythink

Nothink

I spend so much time screaming at the radio or TV.

Goldenbear · 03/02/2026 17:26

BatsInHibernation · 03/02/2026 17:21

IT IS just the evolution of language though. You say it's not, but it really is. American culture affecting our language in the way Western culture has affected the language and behaviours of a great many countries. You will notice it is largely younger people adopting this language so it IS evolution and it is annoying because it makes you (us) feel left behind. It's ok that you find it annoying but YABU.

If my DC used Americanisms I would correct them as we are not American. They are older teens now and none of their friends use Americanisms, in fact it is something that would joke about and do an impression of.

25mini7 · 03/02/2026 17:25

Wait list is another, when did it change from waiting list 🤔