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to absolutely hate the how people are speaking English!

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exse24Londoner · 03/02/2026 16:35

I really hate how we have "suddenly" starting gifting presents rather than giving them as we did only a couple of years ago. Vacations - when did we start having vacations instead of holidays?????? The other day I saw an advert for pants - turned out to be trousers. Apparently when I speak to someone it is now liaising & if I call or text, I am reaching out..... the other day someone was talking about the front end, or as I prefer to call it - the beginning!!🙄

Dont get me wrong, I love the evolution of language & that generations make it their own but this isn't that this is not teenagers or cultures developing own language its...... weird management/pop psychology speak

is it just me??

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LiftAndCoast · 03/02/2026 18:50

My latest pet peeve is 'shop' as an imperative. Shop our new range! I don't know where it came from but I'm suddenly seeing it everywhere online and it looks very wrong to me.

PhaedraWas · 03/02/2026 18:48

Aphroditesangel · 03/02/2026 18:40

Homicide is an unlawful death. It covers manslaughter and murder and is used legally in the Uk

The Homocide Act 1957. Applies to England, Wales and Northern Ireland but not Scotland.

LizzybugMeeting · 03/02/2026 18:48

@persephonia , yes I've seen lots of Americans saying positive discrimination is normal in the UK. I believe employment laws make it difficult to remove people within certain protected.characteristics but I don't think women, people of colour etc are routinely appointed to jobs purely because of what's between their legs or their skin colour. happy to be corrected if I've missed it though.

Sorry if off-tangent.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 03/02/2026 18:46

TomvJerry · 03/02/2026 18:33

Not everyone follows the trend of self identifying. I think you will find it more in the public sector than the private.

No they don't. But it is sufficiently common that if you want to refer to sex, then you need to use male/female.

It's just as common in the private sector as the public sector I think.

TheIrritatingGentleman · 03/02/2026 18:46

It seems that adults who've said "pissed off", "got" and "holiday" all their lives, are suddenly saying "pissed", "gotten" and "vacation".

Who are these adults who say this? I don;t know any! Except for gotten, but a lot of people in Scotland have used that word as long as I can remember (in my 40s)

Cathmawr · 03/02/2026 18:46

Badatmostthings · 03/02/2026 16:39

Always been pants for trousers in the NW

Agreed, I grew up in Lancs in the 90's and it was always pants or kecks. Pantaloons was used in English a long time ago derived from Italian pantolone so I contest the pants thing.

Agree with the rest of your list though!

LizzybugMeeting · 03/02/2026 18:43

I'm late to this party but I want to add " can I get (something)". I realise I'm an old fart but I hate, hate, hate this way to ask for something.

PhaedraWas · 03/02/2026 18:43

Astra53 · 03/02/2026 16:47

The use of the word 'homicide' has crept in. I thought we had 'murders' in the UK!

Culpable homicide is and always has been roughly, although not exactly, the Scots Law equivalent of English Law crime of manslaughter.

CaptainSensiblesRedBeret · 03/02/2026 18:42

exse24Londoner · 03/02/2026 16:42

in the NW?? North West?? Lancaster or Cumbria?

DH is from Manchester. He wears pants rather than trousers

SpringTimeIsRingTime · 03/02/2026 18:41

exse24Londoner · 03/02/2026 16:35

I really hate how we have "suddenly" starting gifting presents rather than giving them as we did only a couple of years ago. Vacations - when did we start having vacations instead of holidays?????? The other day I saw an advert for pants - turned out to be trousers. Apparently when I speak to someone it is now liaising & if I call or text, I am reaching out..... the other day someone was talking about the front end, or as I prefer to call it - the beginning!!🙄

Dont get me wrong, I love the evolution of language & that generations make it their own but this isn't that this is not teenagers or cultures developing own language its...... weird management/pop psychology speak

is it just me??

yes - get a life

Yarboosucks · 03/02/2026 18:40

Gifting/gifted and overuse of myself are Mrs Bucket affectations. Trying too hard and failing

Aphroditesangel · 03/02/2026 18:40

Astra53 · 03/02/2026 16:47

The use of the word 'homicide' has crept in. I thought we had 'murders' in the UK!

Homicide is an unlawful death. It covers manslaughter and murder and is used legally in the Uk

cramptramp · 03/02/2026 18:39

Some people here say pants instead of trousers. I think it’s a working class term. I’m not from here so I say trousers.

persephonia · 03/02/2026 18:36

Ramblethroughthebrambles · 03/02/2026 18:01

I think it's symptomatic of something more worrying - the blurring of British & USA culture or, more accurately, the absorption of the former into the latter, particularly online. My UK young adult children don't really distinguish between the two for social media, advertising, streaming, websites... They're not aware that some of the expressions they use aren't British English. It didn't use to bother me - language evolves, some new phrases are indeed 'neat', but ....language shapes the way we think about the world and with what's happening in the US at the moment I now find it worrying.

Agree 100%
And the way US political talking points are copied and pasted over here when often the traditional political fault lines are different, the political issues are different etc. I follow US politics, but increasingly some UK political commentators seem more embedded in American Political drama than UK politics and just carry over the same grievances.

E.g. "bathrooms used to be segregated by race" not in the UK we didn't. There was racism, but it was different. Also, we don't put baths in public toilets.
"DEI and affirmative action woke blah blah". The UK has EDI. Maybe that's bad too. But the laws on what you can do in terms of positive discrimination are completely different yet some people are angry at American things for happening in the UK when they aren't happening in the UK and aren't legal here

TomvJerry · 03/02/2026 18:33

OchonAgusOchonOh · 03/02/2026 18:26

Gotten is correct. It's just not used in some dialects anymore.

The trend for female and male instead of woman and man is, I assume, due to the fact that woman and man now seem to refer to gender identity rather than sex.

Not everyone follows the trend of self identifying. I think you will find it more in the public sector than the private.

Goldenbear · 03/02/2026 18:32

Womaninhouse17 · 03/02/2026 18:07

I try to tell myself not to be annoyed - it's just our natural dislike of change. It's the evolution of language (which you say you love). Changes originate in all sorts of places and with all the access to media we have nowadays, we maybe see more changes more quickly than we used to.

I don't think it's a fait accompli- why does evolution equate to 'American English'? Personally, I don't see this with the young people I know.

OchonAgusOchonOh · 03/02/2026 18:31

Hollyhobbi · 03/02/2026 18:11

Where do you live in Ireland? I'm Irish and have lived in 5 different counties and had a dad from Donegal and mum from Cork and not once have I ever heard pants used for anything except knickers! And trousers are trousers

I'm in the west. The only person I know who uses pants for knickers is from NI. Although I will accept that trousers is replacing pants.

LoveWine123 · 03/02/2026 18:31

ABeerInTheSunshineMakesMeHappy · 03/02/2026 18:27

The main expressions that I dislike are ‘boils my piss’ and ‘makes my teeth itch’. Phrases I have seen only on MN.

Same. Also “It gets on my tits” - how did that even come about?

DuchessofStaffordshire · 03/02/2026 18:31

Not entirely sure of the origin, but I'm sick of hearing about people being on journeys that aren't, in fact, journeys.

Hellohelga · 03/02/2026 18:31

Actually I quite like bathroom instead of toilet - it sounds genteel. I might be going to do a giant poo but it sounds like I’m going to touch up my lipstick.

RobinGoch · 03/02/2026 18:31

‘Gotten’ was common in Middle English and was used in Britain until around the 18th century when it began to be shortened to ‘got’. However early settlers in America took the word ‘gotten’ as the past participle of ‘get’ where it has survived as part of modern American English. So in fact it is more ‘original’ or ‘correct’ than ‘got’ if you want to think like that. But it’s just language isn’t it…… and my DH is from Lancashire and has always called trousers ‘pants’……

OchonAgusOchonOh · 03/02/2026 18:30

BeaRightThere · 03/02/2026 17:55

Not in my part of Ireland. Here pants also means knickers and trousers are... trousers.

What part of ireland is that? I do accept trousers is replacing pants in a lot of ireland but the only person I know who uses pants for knickers is from NI.

LoveWine123 · 03/02/2026 18:29

A pant, a tee, a knit, wearing something with a red lip - all give me the rage. And it’s never just a knit - it’s a chunky knit, it’s a quiet hero, it’s elevated and it’s effortless. My eyes and ears hurt.

But then again, eating tea (instead of drinking it and eating a meal) kills me too. I’m not British so this could be why 😆

TomvJerry · 03/02/2026 18:29

Namechangefordaughterevasion · 03/02/2026 18:23

As you quite rightly say, language evolves. It's a natural and organic process. You can't police the reasons for that evolution.

We must not question the inevitable

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ABeerInTheSunshineMakesMeHappy · 03/02/2026 18:27

The main expressions that I dislike are ‘boils my piss’ and ‘makes my teeth itch’. Phrases I have seen only on MN.

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