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Is this benefitting her or women in general? I’m really unimpressed

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CoffeeMumForever · 03/02/2026 13:09

nb: this post is about Emily atack and her latest extremely sexual photos in the press

Why why why!!!!! She’s already successful, lots of money, seemingly intelligent and has a child and partner. Why why why do women keep wanting to come across as sex dolls? I really don’t understand especially as she has spoken about her experience of sexual assault before. Do so many women feel like the most important thing to them in life is still being classed as a ‘wanted, needed by men, sexual being’ above everything else? This can’t be for money purposes.

Is this benefitting her or women in general? I’m really unimpressed
OP posts:
minou123 · 03/02/2026 20:43

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 20:34

Yes of course I do, but I don't think this is an appropriate place to spell it out.

I'd also like to know why it is strange to advertise underwear after being sexually assaulted?

I can't think why it would be inappropriate for you to spell it out.

ShakyFridge · 03/02/2026 20:37

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 20:34

Yes of course I do, but I don't think this is an appropriate place to spell it out.

Yes, and we know why.

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 20:34

GalaxyJam · 03/02/2026 20:12

Don’t you have an answer?

Yes of course I do, but I don't think this is an appropriate place to spell it out.

kittensinthekitchen · 03/02/2026 20:22

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 19:30

Well known lesbian dresses for men to look at her 🤣🤣🤣

She obviously just hasnt found the right man yet 😉

GalaxyJam · 03/02/2026 20:12

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 19:46

I’m afraid you’ll have to figure that out for yourself.

Don’t you have an answer?

PollyBell · 03/02/2026 19:57

There is endless examples on here about women desperate over men and whatever attention is thrown their way? And women who stay with awful men because 'he loves me' it is delusional but is anyone really surprised she had done this

But also why can't a women decide for herself what she does? She is an individual who can think for herself? I am sick of this 'sisterhood' nonsense

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 19:51

ShiftingSand · 03/02/2026 19:51

Sizzling in pvc🙄
Didn’t she complain about all the sexually motivated trolls that wouldn’t leave her alone just a few years ago?

And?

ShiftingSand · 03/02/2026 19:51

Sizzling in pvc🙄
Didn’t she complain about all the sexually motivated trolls that wouldn’t leave her alone just a few years ago?

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 19:48

PevenseygirlQQ · 03/02/2026 19:25

she said it was strange to do this after being sexually assaulted.

Why is it strange to dress however you wan’t after being sexually assaulted??

I never said that.

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 19:46

GalaxyJam · 03/02/2026 19:28

Why is it strange to advertise underwear after being sexually assaulted?

I’m afraid you’ll have to figure that out for yourself.

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 19:44

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 19:33

No she definitely did say women shouldn't do it

Look at her other posts

And linking what a woman wears to being assaulted is misogyny

I have looked at her other posts.
Saying you personally dislike something is not the same as saying people “ shouldn’t “ do it.

As for “ misogyny “, I’m an old school feminist and honestly don’t look at it in the same way.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 19:44

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 19:30

Well known lesbian dresses for men to look at her 🤣🤣🤣

It’s hilarious.
The idea that women exclusively dress for the male gaze it utter nonsense. I’m bisexual and my experience has been that women are far more interested in lingerie and dressing up. There are groups of women who dress exclusively for the female gaze and actively seek out female spaces to be able to indulge this without men being present.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 19:33

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 19:10

But she didn’t say anything about what women SHOULD be doing. She said she didn’t understand WHY someone would behave like that.
She didn’t say it would invite sexual assault; she said it was strange to do this after being sexually assaulted. This is different.
There is nothing misogynistic in any of this..

No she definitely did say women shouldn't do it

Look at her other posts

And linking what a woman wears to being assaulted is misogyny

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 19:30

kittensinthekitchen · 03/02/2026 18:56

Haven't read the whole thread as I hated the insinuation that women must only act in a way beneficial to other women....

... but I LOVE the thought that Chappell Roan dresses the way she does for the male gaze 😂😂

Some Mumsnetters really do live in a bubble 😂

Well known lesbian dresses for men to look at her 🤣🤣🤣

GalaxyJam · 03/02/2026 19:28

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 19:10

But she didn’t say anything about what women SHOULD be doing. She said she didn’t understand WHY someone would behave like that.
She didn’t say it would invite sexual assault; she said it was strange to do this after being sexually assaulted. This is different.
There is nothing misogynistic in any of this..

Why is it strange to advertise underwear after being sexually assaulted?

PevenseygirlQQ · 03/02/2026 19:25

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 19:16

No one is saying that at all.

she said it was strange to do this after being sexually assaulted.

Why is it strange to dress however you wan’t after being sexually assaulted??

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 19:16

PevenseygirlQQ · 03/02/2026 19:14

So after being sexually assaulted she should dress like a nun forever?

No one is saying that at all.

PevenseygirlQQ · 03/02/2026 19:14

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 19:10

But she didn’t say anything about what women SHOULD be doing. She said she didn’t understand WHY someone would behave like that.
She didn’t say it would invite sexual assault; she said it was strange to do this after being sexually assaulted. This is different.
There is nothing misogynistic in any of this..

So after being sexually assaulted she should dress like a nun forever?

SixtySomething · 03/02/2026 19:10

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 18:21

Telling women they shouldn't dress certain ways and shouldn't be sexual because it might tempt the menfolk definitely is misogynistic

But she didn’t say anything about what women SHOULD be doing. She said she didn’t understand WHY someone would behave like that.
She didn’t say it would invite sexual assault; she said it was strange to do this after being sexually assaulted. This is different.
There is nothing misogynistic in any of this..

ShakyFridge · 03/02/2026 19:08

minou123 · 03/02/2026 17:55

Britney was 16 years old.

She was. Being corrected on this by a PP really annoyed me. I do fact check and I said Britney was 10 years younger because Sabrina is 26 and Britney was 16 in a visible bra under a school shirt! It's important because by and large the age of consent in the US is 18.

ShakyFridge · 03/02/2026 18:59

mikado1 · 03/02/2026 18:13

Definitely see it differently knowing and the age and tbh reflecting on what I thought them Vs now. I've just googled pics and even my memory of it was v different and much more innocent ie school kids dancing in the school..

So now I can see the issue with that and still don't see the need for Sabrina in lingerie at work. Her choice of course but not doing women any favours imo.

Anything to offer on Justin Bieber performing in nothing but boxers at the Grammy's yesterday?

kittensinthekitchen · 03/02/2026 18:56

Haven't read the whole thread as I hated the insinuation that women must only act in a way beneficial to other women....

... but I LOVE the thought that Chappell Roan dresses the way she does for the male gaze 😂😂

Some Mumsnetters really do live in a bubble 😂

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 18:46

mikado1 · 03/02/2026 18:30

I have said I wouldn't post anymore so I won't again, and I've probably derailed OP's quite different thread.
I did post already what I meant by this - which is that I remember feeling the need to be hot, thin etc because of seeing people like Sabrina etc growing up and like or not it does impact young girls and their own self image etc. I feel that so much of how girls and women are portrayed now in the media is in tight clothes with perfect bodies etc.

I'm bowing out now tho. I have no problem with an underwear ad. I do have a problem with having had a lifetime of feeling that women are how they look or obliged to always present attractive/sexily etc.

Edited

It hasn’t derailed the thread. It’s all part of how women are criticised, judged and blamed for making decisions other women don’t like.

mikado1 · 03/02/2026 18:30

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 18:23

Sabrina Carpenter is an adult choosing to portray herself as a pinup girl while performing her show.

why is that ‘not doing women any favours’ . What favours is she supposed to be doing for women?

I have said I wouldn't post anymore so I won't again, and I've probably derailed OP's quite different thread.
I did post already what I meant by this - which is that I remember feeling the need to be hot, thin etc because of seeing people like Sabrina etc growing up and like or not it does impact young girls and their own self image etc. I feel that so much of how girls and women are portrayed now in the media is in tight clothes with perfect bodies etc.

I'm bowing out now tho. I have no problem with an underwear ad. I do have a problem with having had a lifetime of feeling that women are how they look or obliged to always present attractive/sexily etc.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 18:23

mikado1 · 03/02/2026 18:13

Definitely see it differently knowing and the age and tbh reflecting on what I thought them Vs now. I've just googled pics and even my memory of it was v different and much more innocent ie school kids dancing in the school..

So now I can see the issue with that and still don't see the need for Sabrina in lingerie at work. Her choice of course but not doing women any favours imo.

Sabrina Carpenter is an adult choosing to portray herself as a pinup girl while performing her show.

why is that ‘not doing women any favours’ . What favours is she supposed to be doing for women?

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