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Is this benefitting her or women in general? I’m really unimpressed

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CoffeeMumForever · 03/02/2026 13:09

nb: this post is about Emily atack and her latest extremely sexual photos in the press

Why why why!!!!! She’s already successful, lots of money, seemingly intelligent and has a child and partner. Why why why do women keep wanting to come across as sex dolls? I really don’t understand especially as she has spoken about her experience of sexual assault before. Do so many women feel like the most important thing to them in life is still being classed as a ‘wanted, needed by men, sexual being’ above everything else? This can’t be for money purposes.

Is this benefitting her or women in general? I’m really unimpressed
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SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 15:37

TheInkIsBlackThePageIsWhite · 04/02/2026 12:36

If you haven't noticed any victim blaming then I think you need to read the thread again. There's been plenty.

Why should anyone have respect for people who's viewpoint is misogynistic?

No one who dislikes these pictures is victim blaming or being misogynistic. They just don't like the pictures, or such behaviour.

No one has said that women bring assaults onto themselves by wearing sexually provocative clothing. I'm sure everyone here agrees that sexual assault is a crime and should never be excused or condoned.

OP simply said she was surprised that this woman, whoever she is, promotes herself is such a sexually explicit way, when she has been the victim of sexual assault.
It's the same as saying it's surprising that someone who nearly drowned chose to work as a sailor. You would think the experience would put them off working in the mileu. It's nothing like saying she has brought assault on herself. I think you should stop and think before attacking others who think differently from yourselves.

Sadly, the women who are so busy shouting insults don't have time to reflect and realise that they are genuinely liable to be considered misogynistic for defending clothing which is promoted by the patriarchy and exploits women for financial gain.

Just so much hot air and so little reflection!

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 04/02/2026 15:00

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 14:57

Indeed. God forbid women embrace their sexuality, enjoy sex or enjoy feeling sexy.

That's the devil's work

PevenseygirlQQ · 04/02/2026 14:58

CoffeeMumForever · 04/02/2026 14:36

You have hit the nail on the head.. thankyou.

Do you judge men who get paid to model underwear in the same way?

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 14:57

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 04/02/2026 14:48

Obviously expecting everyone to agree and join in with the slut shaming

Indeed. God forbid women embrace their sexuality, enjoy sex or enjoy feeling sexy.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 04/02/2026 14:48

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 14:46

It's a written forum. You write. You don't need to wait to 'get a word in'.

You made a post with the sole purpose of generating misogynistic abuse towards a named and pictured individual. A number of people, myself included, have called out your blatant misogyny, victim blaming and slut shaming.

How did you expect the thread to develop? What responses were you expecting?

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Obviously expecting everyone to agree and join in with the slut shaming

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 04/02/2026 14:48

CoffeeMumForever · 04/02/2026 14:40

who else can get a word in with your dominating and accusatory posts?

Well the same way anyone does?

By making a post...

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 14:46

CoffeeMumForever · 04/02/2026 14:40

who else can get a word in with your dominating and accusatory posts?

It's a written forum. You write. You don't need to wait to 'get a word in'.

You made a post with the sole purpose of generating misogynistic abuse towards a named and pictured individual. A number of people, myself included, have called out your blatant misogyny, victim blaming and slut shaming.

How did you expect the thread to develop? What responses were you expecting?

CoffeeMumForever · 04/02/2026 14:40

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 14:39

@CoffeeMumForever are you only willing to engage with posts that agree with you despite the vast majority of posters finding those posts ( and yours) misogynistic in tone and content?

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who else can get a word in with your dominating and accusatory posts?

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HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 14:39

@CoffeeMumForever are you only willing to engage with posts that agree with you despite the vast majority of posters finding those posts ( and yours) misogynistic in tone and content?

CoffeeMumForever · 04/02/2026 14:36

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 13:25

There is no misogyny here.
Many people quite reasonably feel that such pictures cheapen women.
secondly, that this is kowtowing to the patriarchy by adopting patriarchal behaviour and calling it ‘freedom’, when in reality it’s subservience.

Thirdly, there are many ways to make a living. Some are dignified, some are not. Reducing oneself to a sexual object with the intention of titillation is, in many people’s view, not a dignified way to make money.

None of these opinions are connected in any way with misogyny, quite the reverse.

Name calling does no favours to your pov.

You have hit the nail on the head.. thankyou.

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GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 04/02/2026 14:21

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 14:19

Yawn.

Yes

A considered and reasonable response there

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 14:19

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 13:54

No it is not ‘slut’ shaming.
Yes it is. Perhaps you might want to look up the definition.

It is a considered and reasonable point of view.
It is YOUR point of view and is considered by many to be misogynistic.

You POV, unfortunately, relies on insults and name calling.

Does it? If you are offended by being called a misogynist then maybe you should stop posting misogynistic comments.

I am, and have always been, a feminist.

How is victim blaming and slut shaming feminist behaviour?

Unfortunately, it’s not possible to have a meaningful discussion with people who deal in cliches and stereotypes, resorting to abuse when challenged.

What cliches and stereotypes do I deal in exactly? And how have I abused you?

So what was that about freedom?
Please allow me my freedom!

You have the freedom to be misogynistic. Just as I have the freedom to challenge it.

Yawn.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 04/02/2026 14:10

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 14:05

I don’t believe anyone said that, though.

You've literally been shown quotes of people saying that 🤦‍♀️

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 14:05

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 04/02/2026 13:35

Saying these photos and being overtly sexual mean you should expect men to assault you IS misogyny though

I don’t believe anyone said that, though.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 13:54

No it is not ‘slut’ shaming.
Yes it is. Perhaps you might want to look up the definition.

It is a considered and reasonable point of view.
It is YOUR point of view and is considered by many to be misogynistic.

You POV, unfortunately, relies on insults and name calling.

Does it? If you are offended by being called a misogynist then maybe you should stop posting misogynistic comments.

I am, and have always been, a feminist.

How is victim blaming and slut shaming feminist behaviour?

Unfortunately, it’s not possible to have a meaningful discussion with people who deal in cliches and stereotypes, resorting to abuse when challenged.

What cliches and stereotypes do I deal in exactly? And how have I abused you?

So what was that about freedom?
Please allow me my freedom!

You have the freedom to be misogynistic. Just as I have the freedom to challenge it.

LoftyPlumLion · 04/02/2026 13:54

51% versus 49% too close to call.
definitely need to vote again with that margin. No meaningful decisions of any sort should be made unless a proper majority is reached.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 04/02/2026 13:49

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 13:45

No it is not ‘slut’ shaming.
It is a considered and reasonable point of view.

You POV, unfortunately, relies on insults and name calling.

I am, and have always been, a feminist.
I don’t feel the need to insult people who think differently from myself.

Unfortunately, it’s not possible to have a meaningful discussion with people who deal in cliches and stereotypes, resorting to abuse when challenged.

So what was that about freedom?
Please allow me my freedom!

It is slut shaming - you are shaming them for being more overtly sexual than you like

It's telling women they are responsible for men's actions too

You are absolutely not a feminist if you hold any stance that makes women responsible for the action of men and that implies women should "cover up" around them. Or that women can't be sexy and wear certain clothing off their own decision and are only doing so to please the men (of which they might not even be attracted to!)

No one is being abusive or using insults

Boomer55 · 04/02/2026 13:47

If she’s happy, then good for her. No one else’s worry.

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 13:45

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 13:33

What you have just posted is known as slut shaming. Which is a form of misogyny.
Blaming women for being responsible in some way for their sexual assault and harassment is also considered misogynistic.

So yes, there have been multiple misogynistic comments on this thread, yours included.

No it is not ‘slut’ shaming.
It is a considered and reasonable point of view.

You POV, unfortunately, relies on insults and name calling.

I am, and have always been, a feminist.
I don’t feel the need to insult people who think differently from myself.

Unfortunately, it’s not possible to have a meaningful discussion with people who deal in cliches and stereotypes, resorting to abuse when challenged.

So what was that about freedom?
Please allow me my freedom!

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 04/02/2026 13:35

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 13:25

There is no misogyny here.
Many people quite reasonably feel that such pictures cheapen women.
secondly, that this is kowtowing to the patriarchy by adopting patriarchal behaviour and calling it ‘freedom’, when in reality it’s subservience.

Thirdly, there are many ways to make a living. Some are dignified, some are not. Reducing oneself to a sexual object with the intention of titillation is, in many people’s view, not a dignified way to make money.

None of these opinions are connected in any way with misogyny, quite the reverse.

Name calling does no favours to your pov.

Saying these photos and being overtly sexual mean you should expect men to assault you IS misogyny though

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 13:33

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 13:25

There is no misogyny here.
Many people quite reasonably feel that such pictures cheapen women.
secondly, that this is kowtowing to the patriarchy by adopting patriarchal behaviour and calling it ‘freedom’, when in reality it’s subservience.

Thirdly, there are many ways to make a living. Some are dignified, some are not. Reducing oneself to a sexual object with the intention of titillation is, in many people’s view, not a dignified way to make money.

None of these opinions are connected in any way with misogyny, quite the reverse.

Name calling does no favours to your pov.

What you have just posted is known as slut shaming. Which is a form of misogyny.
Blaming women for being responsible in some way for their sexual assault and harassment is also considered misogynistic.

So yes, there have been multiple misogynistic comments on this thread, yours included.

PevenseygirlQQ · 04/02/2026 13:31

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 13:25

There is no misogyny here.
Many people quite reasonably feel that such pictures cheapen women.
secondly, that this is kowtowing to the patriarchy by adopting patriarchal behaviour and calling it ‘freedom’, when in reality it’s subservience.

Thirdly, there are many ways to make a living. Some are dignified, some are not. Reducing oneself to a sexual object with the intention of titillation is, in many people’s view, not a dignified way to make money.

None of these opinions are connected in any way with misogyny, quite the reverse.

Name calling does no favours to your pov.

How is being paid to advertise underwear for an underwear company not a dignified way to make money?
Is David Gandy undignified for his modelling roles?
Are the cast of Bridgerton undignified for filming sex scenes?

YOU think it is undignified which is your prerogative I suppose, but bashing a woman for taking an opportunity is ridiculous.

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 13:25

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 13:17

There have been multiple instances of victim blaming/misogyny/ slut shaming Here are a few examples:

Why why why do women keep wanting to come across as sex dolls? I really don’t understand especially as she has spoken about her experience of sexual assault before.

This is what I was alluding to when I mentioned earlier how it’s strange she’s choosing to court sexual attention after making a point of disliking this kind of attention previously

Because she must know the reaction it will have? I’m not condoning this, just pointing out the reality

Will leave you all to your fantasy world which you seem to prefer to the harsh realities of life. Denial gets you nowhere but angry whereas acknowledging the dangers arms yourself in how to avoid much of this.

Come on women, move past the obsession of sex, regardless of it it’s for yourself, other women or men

She has always been like this - posts certain thing publicly then complains about it . Yes I agree women can get vulgar comments despite how they are dressed but it seems to be a pattern for her. Waaah they're commenting on my tits.

I didn't say she deserves it but if she were not doing it then there would certainly be a lower chance of it. She's made her choice.

I don't have respect for misogynists. Why should I? There is a huge difference between an opinion on the aesthetics of the photo shoot and slut shaming EA for doing it in the first place. The former deserves respect. The latter doesn't.

There is no misogyny here.
Many people quite reasonably feel that such pictures cheapen women.
secondly, that this is kowtowing to the patriarchy by adopting patriarchal behaviour and calling it ‘freedom’, when in reality it’s subservience.

Thirdly, there are many ways to make a living. Some are dignified, some are not. Reducing oneself to a sexual object with the intention of titillation is, in many people’s view, not a dignified way to make money.

None of these opinions are connected in any way with misogyny, quite the reverse.

Name calling does no favours to your pov.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 04/02/2026 13:17

SixtySomething · 04/02/2026 12:24

I haven't noticed anyone victim blaming.
The antagonistic posts are takin 6 and 6 and making 6006.
I would have time for your arguments if there was any real logic to them, or any respect for people who think differently from yourself.

There have been multiple instances of victim blaming/misogyny/ slut shaming Here are a few examples:

Why why why do women keep wanting to come across as sex dolls? I really don’t understand especially as she has spoken about her experience of sexual assault before.

This is what I was alluding to when I mentioned earlier how it’s strange she’s choosing to court sexual attention after making a point of disliking this kind of attention previously

Because she must know the reaction it will have? I’m not condoning this, just pointing out the reality

Will leave you all to your fantasy world which you seem to prefer to the harsh realities of life. Denial gets you nowhere but angry whereas acknowledging the dangers arms yourself in how to avoid much of this.

Come on women, move past the obsession of sex, regardless of it it’s for yourself, other women or men

She has always been like this - posts certain thing publicly then complains about it . Yes I agree women can get vulgar comments despite how they are dressed but it seems to be a pattern for her. Waaah they're commenting on my tits.

I didn't say she deserves it but if she were not doing it then there would certainly be a lower chance of it. She's made her choice.

I don't have respect for misogynists. Why should I? There is a huge difference between an opinion on the aesthetics of the photo shoot and slut shaming EA for doing it in the first place. The former deserves respect. The latter doesn't.

GreenIsTheColourOfMyHoliday · 04/02/2026 12:57

tellmewhenthespaceshiplandscoz · 04/02/2026 12:51

Haven’t fully caught up with the thread yet but FFS I could scream at many of the attitudes on this thread …

THERE IS A WORLD OF FUCKING DIFFERENCE IN CHOOSING TO EXPRESS YOURSELF SEXUALLY AND TO BE UNAPOLOGETIC ABOUT IT AND FOR A MAN TO SEND YOU UNINVITED SEXUALLY EXPLICIT MESSAGES, PICTURES OR ANY OTUER ATTENTION.

If you believe otherwise then you are letting men off the hook for their actions and are part of the problem.

Our poor daughters are screwed with such nonsense still alive and kicking

This