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Is this benefitting her or women in general? I’m really unimpressed

370 replies

CoffeeMumForever · 03/02/2026 13:09

nb: this post is about Emily atack and her latest extremely sexual photos in the press

Why why why!!!!! She’s already successful, lots of money, seemingly intelligent and has a child and partner. Why why why do women keep wanting to come across as sex dolls? I really don’t understand especially as she has spoken about her experience of sexual assault before. Do so many women feel like the most important thing to them in life is still being classed as a ‘wanted, needed by men, sexual being’ above everything else? This can’t be for money purposes.

Is this benefitting her or women in general? I’m really unimpressed
OP posts:
ChurchWindows · 03/02/2026 15:18

@lsmith6767 is -
a) Matt Hancock
b) someone who really ought to be getting on with their revision
c) merely a twat.

500daysofspring · 03/02/2026 15:18

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 15:09

Comments like this are far more detrimental to women...

Nope. Women making a career of sexualising themselves is not only horrendously damaging but only benefits men.

I don’t subscribe to the notion that I need to unthinkingly support every choice every woman makes, even when they’re actively harmful.

KarriTreeSullivan · 03/02/2026 15:17

Good lord, it'll be linked to the show she is in - Rivals - which is all about sex, show jumping and media in the 80's. Maybe it benefits her - she looks amazing, and probably got paid a lot of money to wear expensive underwear in a rather nice looking posh house. It just popped up on my Instagram on her own page, and my first thought was, 'Ooo is Rivals back on the TV, she looks amazing, and I'd love to prance about a posh house in those undies too'.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 15:17

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 15:15

What I’m saying is if we fancy someone how do we show that?

There are multiple ways. What exactly are you getting at? Your coded messages are just confusing everyone.

minou123 · 03/02/2026 15:17

I think this might be useful to the Op, and perhaps to another poster.

Susan B Anthony exhibit "What Were You Wearing?"
https://sbaproject.org/what-were-you-wearing/#:~:text=The%20What%20Were%20You%20Wearing,not%20equate%20to%20their%20consent.

The exhibit is extraordinarily powerful. It shows what women were wearing when they were sexually assaulted.

Take a look. You might learn something new.

Idontspeakgermansorry · 03/02/2026 15:17

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 15:15

What I’m saying is if we fancy someone how do we show that?

You're not making any sense. I don't think you have the capacity to engage with this thread. Maybe try another one?

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 15:16

Allseeingallknowing · 03/02/2026 15:15

She looks tacky and vulgar in those outfits imo.

More slut shaming...

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 15:16

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 15:11

I think she can find plenty of guys to do the deed with let’s be honest

That has nothing to do with what I said?

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 15:15

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 15:14

And? You're not making any sense.

What I’m saying is if we fancy someone how do we show that?

Allseeingallknowing · 03/02/2026 15:15

She looks tacky and vulgar in those outfits imo.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 15:14

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 15:13

How do most people show this tho. Clothing obviously

And? You're not making any sense.

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 15:13

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 15:11

And that's slut shaming

Women are allowed to enjoy sex

There's nothing wrong with enjoying sex or looking sexy or being sexual

How do most people show this tho. Clothing obviously

Idontspeakgermansorry · 03/02/2026 15:13

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 15:11

I think she can find plenty of guys to do the deed with let’s be honest

What are you even on about? Your posts are incoherent.

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 15:12

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 15:11

I think she can find plenty of guys to do the deed with let’s be honest

Again, what are you going on about?

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 15:11

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 15:09

Comments like this are far more detrimental to women...

I think she can find plenty of guys to do the deed with let’s be honest

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 15:11

CoffeeMumForever · 03/02/2026 14:39

Absolutely not the case. I just wouldn’t want my own daughter growing up seeing women like her in the spotlight clearly selling herself via sex and normalising this behaviour. Surely there’s more to life? Come on women, move past the obsession of sex, regardless of it it’s for yourself, other women or men.

And that's slut shaming

Women are allowed to enjoy sex

There's nothing wrong with enjoying sex or looking sexy or being sexual

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 15:10

CoffeeMumForever · 03/02/2026 14:34

Because she must know the reaction it will have? I’m not condoning this, just pointing out the reality

Uh ye

That's gross victim blaming

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 15:09

500daysofspring · 03/02/2026 14:30

She has nothing else to offer and no talent to speak of so she resorts to taking her clothes off. It’s what she’s always done 🤷‍♀️

Comments like this are far more detrimental to women...

tinytinyviolin · 03/02/2026 15:08

CoffeeMumForever · 03/02/2026 14:34

Because she must know the reaction it will have? I’m not condoning this, just pointing out the reality

What do you mean ‘the reaction it will have?’

She’s not wearing much so men will want to assault and rape her? She’s putting ideas in their weak impressionable little heads?

I’d love you to explain the correlation between how a woman dresses and having been sexually assaulted.

BriefEncountersOfTheThirdKind · 03/02/2026 15:07

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 14:11

What about women who buy underwear? Or women who find other women sexually attractive?

As a woman who likes sexy lingerie and who likes other women

I can certainly see the benefit from multiple angles

Everlore · 03/02/2026 15:04

Ohnonononotagain · 03/02/2026 13:43

Having just seen this thread I have just seen Chappell Roan at the Grammy ceremony.

I'd never even heard of her. But there she is topless and with nipple rings. Is she any good as an artist ? Who cares? So long as she gets her kit off for the attention she will do ok.

How can any one say it's is doing women any favours when women artists only get noticed by how little clothing they wear.

Feminism lost it's way many years ago.

With respect, if you had never heard of Chappell Roan before today then I imagine you must have been living under a proverbial rock. She is one of the biggest pop stars in the world and is very talented. I would usually recommend giving her album 'The Rise and Fall Of A Mid-West Princess' a listen as it is superb, but, given your 1950s attitudes to female sexuality I fear that some of the lyrics may cause you to have a fit of the vapours!
Seriously though, it might be worth actually finding out more about Chappell, her work and her image before making ill-informed assumptions based on a couple of photos of her at the Grammy Awards.
I find your comments about modern female pop stars in general pretty ignorant to be honest. I am a huge fan of contemporary female pop stars, my favourite is obviously Taylor Swift, but I also love Sabrina Carpenter, Olivia Rodrigo, Gracie Abrams and many others. Your comments are very far from representative. Contemporary female pop stars are far more likely to write their own music and play instruments than most of their predecessors were and have far more control over their art, career and image than would have been the case in the past. If they wish to present themselves in a more saucy way, like Sabrina, or a little more conservatively, like Taylor, it does not detract from their talent. It is also worth remembering that the vast majority of their fanbases are comprised of women and girls, so, the idea that they are trying to appease the male-gaze through their presentation feels counter-intuitive.

Lifeomars · 03/02/2026 15:00

TheInkIsBlackThePageIsWhite · 03/02/2026 14:42

The reaction?

From men?

Men who will sexually assault any women or girl they want regardless if she's a nun wearing a full habit, or a woman on the beach in a bikini, or a child wearing dungarees?

Your attitude is abhorrent.

The 'reaction' from men to her modelling underwear is entirely on them and NOTHING to do with her.

Absolutely this. I was seriously sexually assaulted in the street on my way home from work by a stranger. I am not young, and I was wearing trousers, a high neck jumper and a winter coat. I was attacked because I was a woman on her own and there are a lot of men out there who just see woman and girls as objects, how they are dressed is irrelevant

Coffeeishot · 03/02/2026 14:59

Flamingojune · 03/02/2026 13:49

Could she not advertise knickers without brandishing a riding crop and riding the back of a sofa

It is reference to Rivals which is all about the sex and horses,

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 14:58

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 14:57

These Gina Coladengelo type woman who want to shag the guy they fancy in the office

WTF are you talking about?

lsmith6767 · 03/02/2026 14:57

HighLadyofTheNightCourt · 03/02/2026 14:56

Have they? In what way? Which 'people'?

These Gina Coladengelo type woman who want to shag the guy they fancy in the office