Husband didn’t celebrate my ‘win’

Thatpunkjumper
First of all big Congratulations and Well Done!
You've worked so hard and truly deserve it
Jealousy, arrogance and belittlement plus resentment are not traits a caring sharing partner should have when their other half have achieved something wonderful
Just saying..........

Ugh, I'd be telling him 'yeah, x's Dad is on 200k so why is our DC Dad not on that? Work harder!'

My ex was like this. I worked hard to get to uni after being a stay at home parent because I had to work round his shifts as he refused to change to a job with set hours so we could both work. I was so excited to have gotten in to my top choice, but his reaction deflated me. Then he continued to complain because he was having to do some childcare and wasn't happy with his own job - after me having aid for years I would work evenings and weekends so he could retrain!

Anyway, some people are just like that. Ignore him and don't let it ruin anything...that's what he wants! Congratulations and well done to you and your team. More financial stability for when you finally get fed up with him and get rid.

I find the focus on money really strange - from both of you. Is it something you often talk about around your kids?

Honestly I feel so sad for you. He does sound a jealous bastard.

Sounds familiar.

Post your name and address, and we will all inundate you with congratulatory cards, flowers, balloons etc.

Only kidding, obviously. But I have such a burning desire to irritate your DH....

Why is he comparing you (who I assume is a woman?) to another man's earnings? Has he not heard of the gender pay gap. Also are your jobs even comparable? And how would he feel if you said the same to him? After he is on £50k and not £200k!

BTW congratulations!

Me neither, even if I eventually forgave….i would never forget….anyway enough about that miserable fecker…well done you OP….excellent result and delighted all your hard work has paid off….🙂

I haven’t seen others tbh, it just works for me….

Firstly @Thatpunkjumper a massive congratulations to you and your team!!! The vast amount of time, hard work and dedication put in by you all is definitely reason to celebrate, so my advice would be to organise a night out with your team to celebrate your success. Dad can stay home and look after the kids and tell him seen as he didn't have decency to champion you on your success like you've always done to him, he isn't invited. Take a leaf out of his book next time. I'm so sorry, you don't deserve it. Look forward to the future prospects xxx

My ex husband was like this. One of the many reasons he's an ex.

I don't understand why you're not telling him how this made you feel rather than us.

He may be feeling insecure and unsure how to express that. Its coming out sideways. Maybe he needs reassurance as when you said mummy has more money, perhaps he has ideals of where the man is the breadwinner?

Look into BPD. He's made a choice to not make you feel seen.

Well done on your bid @Thatpunkjumper

Really sorry that your DH is being a dick about this and he's not recognizing your achievement.

Is he always like this. Does he consistently belittle people when they've achieved something brilliant. Is he a mood hoover?

Are you sure he likes you?

He's jealous. Jealous that you're doing so well (well done btw!!) and also jealous that you're earning more than him.
What an absolute arsehole.
I'd be disgusted if my husband reacted that way. How crushing for you.

Wow he’s a knob

Oh what a shitbag he is. He’s so jealous of you that in his rush to trample on you, he also put himself down even more. Urgh how can you even look at him knowing he is so pathetic.
massive well done to you op.
I would be deeply angry as well that he did this in front of your kids.

I find it really interesting reading everyone’s responses.

this was very much how my parents treated any success of mine. It was diminished (but jokingly, so that if I got upset I was told that I took myself too seriously and that only humourless people can’t laugh at themselves.)

the aim was to always take me down a peg or too ( and to shut down any challenge to this). I stopped telling them of my successes except the ones I really couldn’t avoid. I guess they preferred this.

It’s eye opening to see the wide spread commendation of this, albeit with a spouse.

He's quite simply not happy that you are the one that earns more, not him.

He's jealous of your success.

Congratulations on your huge achievement!! You’re obviously really good at your job.
Your husband is being pathetic and is most likely jealous of your success which begs the question…. If he truly loved you would he just be very proud and not resentful?? You have some thinking to do.
Don’t let him drag you down - do something fab with your kids to celebrate!

What a mean-spirited thing to for him to say, and a good example of how NOT to treat someone for your children. I'd have come back by saying I bet xxx's Dad's family are supportive of him and don't compare him to others!

He’s intimidated. Continue to win and crush his pathetic little ego.

don’t be surprised if he starts acting up now.

he's a twat. Ask him why HE isn't earning more, not xxx’s dad (why the fuck does it matter what a random dad makes?)