Husband didn’t celebrate my ‘win’

Small minded jealous prick.

Such a shame, you didn’t reply with, it far exceeds you though doesn’t it, mr big man.

I know you wouldn’t want to say that in front of your DCs, but he deserved it.

How are you feeling @Thatpunkjumper now that you’ve had time to reflect? Have you spoken with him?

That’s incredibly hurtful @Thatpunkjumper. It will take a long time to get over that

You should shake yourself off and take the opportunity to teach your kids without putting him down that the extra money will be nice and success isn’t measured by how much you earn as a person / no point spoiling your week that’s also your choice - stand tall be proud and show them how to not let another person’s insecurities or poor behaviour towards another derail you or them … well done on the win

my husabnd wasn't supportive when I was finishing my phd research some of which id already published and was getting a lot of acclaim. at the end it was almost like he was sabotaging it. well it worked. for various reasons he put me under immense stress at the end and I went into psychosis from anxiety and lost everythign even my physical health. I am like a husk now and sucidial everyday becasue I have nothing. I dont know if it was intentional or not but I even have disabilities now from thins that happened during the psychosis. it rough back childhood trauma too. its horrendous - im completely deranged now. and nothing like my old self. I look back and see other controlling behaviours too. I dont tihnk he meant it but like you my career was beyond my wildest dreams especially coming form a background of poverty and trauma and now im back there again and even worse

Oh yessss!
Bloody love this idea!!
Count me in!!

Congrats OP 🥇🏆💐

Go out and celebrate with your kids and family, don’t invite him.

I would fight this if not for you then for the children, this is shitty behaviour and shouldn’t be allowed in your home.

He actually sounds a bit jealous.

It's a nasty comment which he should not have said, but he likely wants you to do even better. The reality is that most men nowadays are dependent on their wives as the high earners. Women are able to progress more easily due to being more likeable and having better interpersonal skills, whereas men simply get stuck at the average salary level.

So I don't think he doesn't want you to succeed, but maybe next time he won't be a dick about your successes.

There’s more to this story than meets the eye. What he is quoted as saying makes absolutely no sense at all. Anyone who repeatedly compares themself to other children’s fathers is seriously messed up.

OP feck him. Understand you were taken aback but good on you for not replying and isn’t it a shame your Dad doesn’t earn the same as xxx.
This is your wake up call. What an absolute cad not celebrating the win that wouldn’t of happened but for the efforts of you and your Team.
Check out and dry those tears. You rock. They rock. And what an absolute coup to pull it off. If he can’t celebrate your wins and be there through worst of times what is the actual point. Find a way to do something you love. You deserve it and any time you wobble just mind if it had been him you’d of got down with the vibe and given credit where it was due.

My husbands mum used to do this to my husband constantly. Its horrible, and im not surprised you feel how you do. Just remind yourself that what you achieved is amazing. I can barely get the kids out the house in matching shoes. You're incredible.

A few good suggestions above... I liked "but its more than you earn dear". But realistically I would just have to have it out with him in the same fashion as this PP. Honesty is always the best policy.

I find your comment strange. Additional money coming in is important to most families. Out of all the subject matter available, I'd say talking about additional money as household income in front of kids isn't a bad thing, unless it's accompanied by other subjects within a conversation. The husband talking about xxx dad earning 200k isn't an interest shared by OP

Congrats on your achievement op! And I'm sorry that this was the response you were met with.

How were things today? I think if it were me I'd be sitting down with him and stating exactly what was said verbatim and then asking him to explain why he said it before explaining the impact it had on you. I'd be setting out clearly your expectations from him as a husband and partner and reminding him of the times you've had his corner and celebrated his wins. I'd also be pointing out the impact on your kids.

If it happened again I'd be looking into marriage counselling in a last ditch attempt to salvage.

I'd also just say it's important to surround yourself with people who do champion you, especially if he's not one of them.

Has it always been this way or is this new behaviour for him?

Well at least you can support yourself.

I out earn my DH and he couldn’t be happier 😂 Your DH is a jealous twat.

Wow op congratulations go you,
So tomorrow treat you and children to dinner out leave him a note to say your out celebrating your win, and pick up a nice bunch of flowers on your way home, sod him op, and again bloody congratulations 👏👏
You celebrate with your family and leave him out

Stop ever cheerleadering him again. Take a day out alone this weekend meet a friend, get away from him. If your marriage is ending, you have so much power now to move on. Personally I wouldn't live with a person like this. Think carefully.
Your children will start copying hix put downs, then you'll know its time to leave,
My exh was awful in many ways. I got away.
Be strong

I'm sorry OP, what a knob he is. My dh would probably be similar in this situation. I tell him I've had a bad day and his has always been worse. No sympathy. No empathy. No joy for stuff for I've achieved, inc when I finally got a job after 10 months of being unemployed due to redundancy.

It's why I refer to him in my head as my first husband (better things are coming, I hope).

Massive congratulations on your huge success at work - focus on the positive people around you who are proud of you 💐

Well done OP 👏 and I'm sorry about your husband's misogynistic attitude, you deserve better but don't let that reaction from him put you off.
Sadly some men still struggle with successful women. 🙄

He feels threatened so had to cut you down to size to make himself feel better.
That's easier than working his ass off to get a promotion or to earn more than you.

All I ever think when I read these threads is how mumsnet has a high percentage of posters whose households have a £200k plus earner.

He's a jealous pathetic loser. I'd be questioning the relationship too. Doesn't take much to big you up and make your night special. He had to cut you down. Massive prick.

I think he might feel threatened. By this 200k guy and now you have proved you can provide better than him, too.

Well done💐💐💐👏👏👏What an achievement.

How incredibly, unequivocally cunty