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To feel awful for my sister, i don’t know how to help her?

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DurableMatts · 02/02/2026 19:54

My sister is a primary school teacher. She has been Job sharing her post for the last 3 years (2days 1 week and 3days the next) she is now ready to go back full time from sept as her dd will be in school. ( and will be attending the school she teaches in) she is so nervous to notify her school because the woman who has been doing the job share with has had a really tough time lately and has had to leave her dh. Now I know this woman probably will be able to find another job but it will be a drive away and you guesses it (she doesn’t drive) she lives a short walk from the school. She knows this other woman is very emotional and has herself all worked up over how she will react to the news. When she renewed the job share last year the other teacher made a flippant comment about how after all this time she considered the job share a given. She is sick at the thought of it all kicking off this week and I’m so worried about her.
We are in Ireland and this is how the system works here, a job share usually is a post shared by someone who owns the full time post as such.

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Crunchymum · 02/02/2026 20:00

This sounds like a shit deal for the secondary person in the job share - very insecure. Does this mean the main teacher can decide to go back to full time on a whim or will your sister need to wait until they renew the next contract?

What notice will the other teacher get?

Butterflywings84 · 02/02/2026 19:59

im not sure what you’re hoping for from the post. It is nice your sister isn’t heartless enough to not care about this lady, but her and her family need to be her priority. She can’t just not move jobs because it might cause her a problem. Be there to reassure her but she’s just going to have to get on with it.

ADayAwayFromYourHeart · 02/02/2026 19:56

Well your sister just needs to toughen up. Would the other woman hesitate to take the job full time, if your sister was somehow indisposed? No she would not.