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How can I make a comfortable income from home

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Sweetly1 · 02/02/2026 13:28

Hi Ladies I want to find out what ladies are doing to make a comfortable income around their primary school children and still have time for family? Kindly advise?

OP posts:
Zov · 03/02/2026 16:13

AliceRose1971 · 02/02/2026 20:56

Friend to women and mothers you are! She’s probably been raising her own children not sitting on her arse as you suggest. No wonder women aren’t having so many children these days. Society f’ing hates mothers! Yes she might have to lower her initial salary expectations but she’s asking for help not to be smashed down by you.

On the contrary, I agree with @TillyTrifle Bit of a harsh with her words, but I largely agree. Some people work very hard in the workplace, and get trained, and acquire extra qualifications, and work their way up the career ladder, and after 10 years in the job they are often still not on the £50K a year the OP is demanding.

Society does not 'f'ing hate mothers,' but expecting to be a stay-at-home-mum for 15 years, and then drop straight into a £50K a year job with fuck-all experience in it, (or qualifications) is farcical. Stay at home mums contribute to society, and they do a valuable job raising the next generation, but it's just insulting to people who have been constantly in the workplace for 2 or 3 decades, racking up experience and qualifications, to suggest a stay at home mum of 15 years should just walk into a £50K a year job.

Whilst I don't want to berate stay at home mums, I have to say once the children are at school, it is NOT a hard life. It's an easy life for many, and I think those who are able to do it should count themselves very lucky. Many women have to pretty much do everything they do, AND go to work!

And I have every right to say a stay at home mum is an easy life once the children are at school. I have been a stay at home mum (was for 9-10 years,) a part time working mum, and a full time working mum. I can honestly say being a stay at home mum (once the kids were at school) was an easy life.

As has been said though, I was quite glad to start earning my own money again. You make yourself very vulnerable if you are a stay at home mum indefinitely/for many years.

Statsquestion2 · 03/02/2026 15:44

MiddleAgedDread · 03/02/2026 15:13

I earn well over £50k and don't have any managerial responsibilities! Private sector, masters degree, professional qualification, 20yrs+ experience in a STEM based technical role.

Edited

Same 👍

Putthewashingout33 · 03/02/2026 15:17

Whether the OP comes back or not, this post should be read by all parents deciding whether or not to SAH.

MiddleAgedDread · 03/02/2026 15:13

Statsquestion2 · 03/02/2026 10:20

Not every 50k role is managerial no…

I earn well over £50k and don't have any managerial responsibilities! Private sector, masters degree, professional qualification, 20yrs+ experience in a STEM based technical role.

AbbaDabbaDooh · 03/02/2026 14:49

@Statsquestion2 @Nourishinghandcream in what industries or sectors please?

I'm not sure I've seen many officer roles in the public / non profit sector that are 50k and not managerial, possibly if you started on a lower salary and work up a pay spine.

In any case OP would have to train and get experience- by the time OP gets to 50k, the desired salary is actually 70k etc. due to inflation.

Nourishinghandcream · 03/02/2026 11:33

AbbaDabbaDooh · 03/02/2026 07:59

A 50k role will have managerial level responsibilities.

Not at all.

When I took early retirement 3yrs ago, my salary was £45k and the same role is now paying £50k.
Definitely not a management role, just a specialism which required training & experience.

During COVID we were WFH quite successfully and it was the unnecessary return to the office that made me decide to leave.

Statsquestion2 · 03/02/2026 10:20

AbbaDabbaDooh · 03/02/2026 07:59

A 50k role will have managerial level responsibilities.

Not every 50k role is managerial no…

Stompythedinosaur · 03/02/2026 08:07

For a salary of that size, you need to pursue a career based around your training and skillset, and consider using wrap around childcare.

I'm a nurse, and I do project work for NHS England developing services and undertaking research. I have an awful lot of flexibility in my role and a good salary, but it took me many years of work and training to get here.

oncemoreuntothebeachdearfriends · 03/02/2026 08:05

ThatCyanCat · 02/02/2026 19:40

Midwifery doesn't pay that well.

It's not midwifery.

AbbaDabbaDooh · 03/02/2026 07:59

A 50k role will have managerial level responsibilities.

sorryIdidntmeanto · 03/02/2026 07:23

Why get a TA qualification if you want £50k working from home? The two don't add up.

InfoSecInTheCity · 03/02/2026 07:01

Peoplecoveredinfish · 02/02/2026 17:18

The thing that is frustrating about these threads is the way people are so vague. I know people don’t want to be identified. I know I am very out of touch (worked in health, pre kids, which is a world of its own) job adverts are the same. They give no clues as to what people actually DO, so I’ve no idea if I could do them. I run a business, so I’m not clueless. I’ve had a professional job and got two degrees, so I’m not stupid and I feel like I could aim higher than customer service. But aim for what? It feels very exclusive and I need a map and interpreter. I think that’s what people are asking.

I would honestly pay good money to have a kind of graduate recruitment thing for post kid-mums or have someone explain to me how to decode things like what phrases like “niche business administrator’ or ‘freelancer in a creative profession’ actually do. I know what the words mean, but they don’t convey any useful information to me. I don’t mean to pick on those people and I don’t want to pressure anyone to say, but it still leaves me at a complete loss - how the fuck do I find out? They’re like cryptic crossword clues. They make sense when they’re explained, but they don’t give me any tools to decipher any more of them. The whole business seems like another language. Perhaps that means I’m deeply unsuited to them, but we’ll never know if unless I find an interpreter!

I’m considering being a climbing arborist. That seems FAR easier to get to grips with from where I’m standing. And if I’ve go to start at the bottom anyway, why not? 😂

I do Governance Risk & Compliance.

i started as a call centre agent taking orders for a catalogue and moved through Supervisor > Team Leader > Team Manager > Call centre manager. Then moved companies and went into IT Service Desk management which led me to ISO20000 compliance and I volunteered to be the lead in maintaining certification for that. That led me to learning about ISO27001 and I implemented that and got the company certified. I developed a team structure around Governance, Risk & Compliance, got it all approved and budgeted, recruited some people to the team and implemented ISO9001, 14001, 22301, cyber essentials and SOC2 T2.

So now I’m part of the Senior leadership team, head up GRC function, WFH, set my own hours and my salary is more than 4 times what it was 10 yrs ago. I never finished Uni had to leave part way through 2nd year due to personal circumstances, have no professional qualifications and do all my self-learning through books, free online courses, conferences/networking and doing stuff till I figure it out.

Iocanepowder · 03/02/2026 06:51

I wfh op and i am able to pick my eldest up from school every day. But i don’t quite earn £50k because i’ve had to reduce my hours in order to do this.

I have also always worked apart from my mat leaves, and i have been working in my industry for 14 years.

metalbottle · 03/02/2026 06:42

Apply for a job which pays what you want to earn and fits your skill set @Sweetly1

AnneBoleynsNecklace · 03/02/2026 06:38

Sorry op but that is totally unrealistic

Touty · 03/02/2026 00:55

A lot of customer service jobs have gone to India.

HoskinsChoice · 03/02/2026 00:07

AliceRose1971 · 02/02/2026 20:56

Friend to women and mothers you are! She’s probably been raising her own children not sitting on her arse as you suggest. No wonder women aren’t having so many children these days. Society f’ing hates mothers! Yes she might have to lower her initial salary expectations but she’s asking for help not to be smashed down by you.

Oh come on, the OP is a troll taking the piss. Don't take it so seriously!

SmallandSpanish · 02/02/2026 23:37

Peoplecoveredinfish · 02/02/2026 17:18

The thing that is frustrating about these threads is the way people are so vague. I know people don’t want to be identified. I know I am very out of touch (worked in health, pre kids, which is a world of its own) job adverts are the same. They give no clues as to what people actually DO, so I’ve no idea if I could do them. I run a business, so I’m not clueless. I’ve had a professional job and got two degrees, so I’m not stupid and I feel like I could aim higher than customer service. But aim for what? It feels very exclusive and I need a map and interpreter. I think that’s what people are asking.

I would honestly pay good money to have a kind of graduate recruitment thing for post kid-mums or have someone explain to me how to decode things like what phrases like “niche business administrator’ or ‘freelancer in a creative profession’ actually do. I know what the words mean, but they don’t convey any useful information to me. I don’t mean to pick on those people and I don’t want to pressure anyone to say, but it still leaves me at a complete loss - how the fuck do I find out? They’re like cryptic crossword clues. They make sense when they’re explained, but they don’t give me any tools to decipher any more of them. The whole business seems like another language. Perhaps that means I’m deeply unsuited to them, but we’ll never know if unless I find an interpreter!

I’m considering being a climbing arborist. That seems FAR easier to get to grips with from where I’m standing. And if I’ve go to start at the bottom anyway, why not? 😂

Freelance in creative could be copy writing, graphic design, web design, editing, proof reading, creating content for social media etc.

NoKidsSendDogs · 02/02/2026 23:17

Burningbud1981 · 02/02/2026 14:20

WFH jobs are becoming increasingly rare. Which most companies going to hybrid which requires office attendance. Some companies have gone fully back to the office. My company for example hired 100% homeworkers 3 years. It hasn’t gone well and they won’t be offering it again.

Not the case if you work in tech. I haven't stepped foot in an office since 2020 and earn well over 50k.

AmIHumanOrAmIAYeti · 02/02/2026 23:00

M103 · 02/02/2026 22:52

Civil service is a good choice if you have been out of work for a long time. Some roles are still hybrid, although full homeworking contracts are no longer available. My department offers flexible hours and part-time contracts - I'd imagine others would be similar. You won't start with 50,000k, but if you keep applying to higher jobs 50,000 k is a realistic possibility after some years, although admittedly everyone I know at that salary in the civil service has a degree...

If they are actively recruiting, maybe share the roles that OP would be suitable for…….

M103 · 02/02/2026 22:52

Civil service is a good choice if you have been out of work for a long time. Some roles are still hybrid, although full homeworking contracts are no longer available. My department offers flexible hours and part-time contracts - I'd imagine others would be similar. You won't start with 50,000k, but if you keep applying to higher jobs 50,000 k is a realistic possibility after some years, although admittedly everyone I know at that salary in the civil service has a degree...

Pusstachio · 02/02/2026 22:37

As a lady I have generated a most comfortable income writing an anonymous society column about the marriages taking place in the tonne. I of course cannot have a bank account or own my own property but I save the shillings at the local costumier

Lauralou19 · 02/02/2026 22:20

AliceRose1971 · 02/02/2026 20:56

Friend to women and mothers you are! She’s probably been raising her own children not sitting on her arse as you suggest. No wonder women aren’t having so many children these days. Society f’ing hates mothers! Yes she might have to lower her initial salary expectations but she’s asking for help not to be smashed down by you.

I’ve written an encouraging post above but she does have to be realistic about what you can earn in primary hours (especially if she has had a long time out of work). 50k isn’t a salary you can expect from many primary hours roles.

You can get more doing night shifts in a supermarket than alot of really busy admin jobs.

redskydelight · 02/02/2026 22:12

AliceRose1971 · 02/02/2026 20:56

Friend to women and mothers you are! She’s probably been raising her own children not sitting on her arse as you suggest. No wonder women aren’t having so many children these days. Society f’ing hates mothers! Yes she might have to lower her initial salary expectations but she’s asking for help not to be smashed down by you.

OP needs to know that £50K is unrealistic after so many years out of the workplace and a limited set of skills.

Better to be realistic than give her false hope that there are loads of jobs she can do from home that will be rushing to employ her with the flexibility she needs for the inflated salary she wants.

Lauralou19 · 02/02/2026 22:11

ThedaBara · 02/02/2026 19:42

It sounds like OP is maybe going through a divorce and has turned around after 15 years of being a SAHM and realised that her lifestyle is quite expensive. Assuming this is real.

This is why we read how important it is for everyone to have their own finances. Not to mention the mental health benefits of going to work, the social side, not losing skills etc.

I stayed home for the first few years which I loved but so glad I went back.

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