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AIBU to cancel appt after she moved premises at short notice and ask for my deposit back?

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fluffandfaff · 02/02/2026 09:41

I use a dog groomer who was lovely and very local in my small village. – less than 5 minutes away, loads of parking right outside, no faff. I could drop dog off, come home for an hour, then pop back to collect. Perfect.
When I collected last time I booked my next appointment (for tomorrow, 3rd Feb) and paid a £25 deposit. I have no issue with her cancellation policy generally – 72 hours for refund minus £5 admin, after that full groom payable.

We have a personal email account we check a couple of times a week (mostly full of newsletter rubbish). Early Sunday morning (1st) I checked emails and found one from the groomer sent late Thursday evening saying she had moved premises.
New premises are about 6 miles further away, in a slightly dodgy part of a town, no parking directly outside. I’d have find somewhere to park somewhere else a way a way, in a very busy residential and industrial area and walk my nervous dog there. No chance of popping home either... I’d have to sit in the car for an hour waiting.
Worth saying: my preferred contact method is phone, which I’d selected, not email.
I messaged her on Sunday morning as soon as I saw the email, very politely, saying I’d like to cancel as travelling to the new premises is not viable, thanked her for her service and wished her luck. I also asked for my deposit back, accepting I was technically outside the 72 hours, but she had changed the terms by moving at short notice.
She replied very quickly saying she’d miss us but I was still liable to pay for the appointment, and that I’d had “plenty of time” to respond to the email (there was about 24 hours between her sending it and the start of the 72-hour window).
I replied saying I’d chosen phone contact and that less than 2 working days’ notice of a premises change didn’t feel reasonable. She then got quite rude, said I was being unreasonable, that it’s “only a 15-minute drive”, (realistically it is longer that with traffic etc and then finding parking) and that she told me at my last appointment she was moving. I genuinely don’t remember this and absolutely wouldn’t have rebooked if I’d known – I only used her because she was so local. The booking confirmation definitely still shows the old address. There were a lot of messages sent back and forwards, her saying her terms are perfectly clear and i was not getting a deposit refund and she would be invoicing for the entire appt. I told her that her t's&c's couldn't apply as SHE had moved the terms (address) outside of my control. She got quite arsey and she said she didn’t have time to argue as she’s stressed moving an entire business, then refunded me £20 and kept £5.
I mentioned it to a friend (very “don’t rock the boat” type) who said I should have just let her keep the whole deposit, but maybe argue the appt fee.
AIBU to think I was reasonable to cancel and ask for it back given she changed the location at short notice? Or should I have just sucked it up and let her keep the £25 AND paid for the rest of the appt?

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lovelyweatherforasleighride · 02/02/2026 12:58

She sounds very poor at organising. Short notice of change of location. Contacting you by email - and not by your stated contact preference. Then making sure she loses you as a customer permanently with her squabbling about the deposit refund, when she really didn't have a leg to stand on. Keeping five pounds is just weird! Maybe she was so cross she mis-entered the amount.

reluctantbrit · 02/02/2026 12:54

I agree the groomer was very short with her changes but I would always expect such changes communicated in writing. A phone call can never be re-checked.

I use my personal email all the time, medication re-ordering, utilities, any ticket/flight/holiday booking, banking, credit cards, DD's hobbies.

I get invoices from services I use, updates from my yoga class like last minute cancellations or new invoices.

I am not allowed to use my work email for any private reasons.

Jaxhog · 02/02/2026 12:51

sandyhappypeople · 02/02/2026 12:31

I am totally with you on not checking personal emails, my work ones ping up on my phone, my personal one is a lot of non-important junk coming through.. BUT if I missed an email because I hadn't checked my personal email then that is on me, she gave you plenty of notice about the location change, plus she said she told you in person last time she saw you.

I think you are being unreasonable because of the reason you have given for not going to the appointment! It's 6 miles away, I'd have kept the appointment this time, and then not re-book if her location doesn't suit you or your dog anymore. I think you are being massively snooty and judgmental about her new premises and you haven't even been there!

Demanding your deposit back is ridiculous IMO, when YOU didn't bother to check your emails and its YOU that doesn't want to keep the appointment because of your preconceived notions.

Seriously?

Jaxhog · 02/02/2026 12:49

Totally unreasonable of her. I hope you post this on your local Facebook, as she deserves to be outed.

Comefromaway · 02/02/2026 12:47

I, like many class a phone call or text as immediate and an email as something that isn't time critical. Many people don't check daily.

You are absolutely not being unreasonable. That is no where near enough notice. I'd be wanting at least 7 if not 10-14 days notice of a change of venue like that. Send a formal letter before claim or do a chargeback on your card if you paid by card.

FunnyOrca · 02/02/2026 12:45

She was being cheeky. YANBU.

I bet the resistance is because she will be losing a lot of customers. I’m not a dog owner or a driver, but I would guess most dog owners will want parking at the groomers.

Viviennemary · 02/02/2026 12:43

She is a cheeky chancer. Of course you should have got all your deposit back. But at least you are only £5 out of pocket.

Wakemeupinapril · 02/02/2026 12:34

Maybe just review her honestly in her website....
She's dodgy as hell.

Springisintheairohyeah · 02/02/2026 12:33

I don't think you're being unreasonably (surely she would have known about a premises change well in advance of when she sent the notice out, as she would have had to arrange changes to leases, set up the grooming space etc. )

Secondly - I also only check personal e mail two or three times a week. The only things I ever get through that require checking are invoices for deliveries which come at the same time every month, or when I've specifically set something up ( a new insurance policy or subscription etc.) Other than that my personal e mail is 90% junk. Totally different to how I deal with work e mails

Boohoolol · 02/02/2026 12:32

sandyhappypeople · 02/02/2026 12:31

I am totally with you on not checking personal emails, my work ones ping up on my phone, my personal one is a lot of non-important junk coming through.. BUT if I missed an email because I hadn't checked my personal email then that is on me, she gave you plenty of notice about the location change, plus she said she told you in person last time she saw you.

I think you are being unreasonable because of the reason you have given for not going to the appointment! It's 6 miles away, I'd have kept the appointment this time, and then not re-book if her location doesn't suit you or your dog anymore. I think you are being massively snooty and judgmental about her new premises and you haven't even been there!

Demanding your deposit back is ridiculous IMO, when YOU didn't bother to check your emails and its YOU that doesn't want to keep the appointment because of your preconceived notions.

Nah, she changed location with less than a weeks notice.

Boohoolol · 02/02/2026 12:31

Seeline · 02/02/2026 09:56

I don't think you were unreasonable to ask for your deposit back, and I think, given the short notice she should have refunded.

However, I can't get my head round only checking your email twice a week!!

Twice a week for checking email sounds fine to me. Some people aren’t wedded to their phones and have lives

sandyhappypeople · 02/02/2026 12:31

fluffandfaff · 02/02/2026 12:05

If the expectation is now that clients must monitor inboxes constantly in case a business relocates overnight, that feels a bit unreasonable to me. Especially when phone was my stated contact preference. The issue isn’t how often I check my email, it’s that the business changed a fundamental part of the agreement (location) with very short notice and didn’t use my stated preferred contact method. If she’d phoned or texted, I’d have responded immediately. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect urgent changes to be communicated appropriately, and in the manor in which she was asked to contact me.

I am totally with you on not checking personal emails, my work ones ping up on my phone, my personal one is a lot of non-important junk coming through.. BUT if I missed an email because I hadn't checked my personal email then that is on me, she gave you plenty of notice about the location change, plus she said she told you in person last time she saw you.

I think you are being unreasonable because of the reason you have given for not going to the appointment! It's 6 miles away, I'd have kept the appointment this time, and then not re-book if her location doesn't suit you or your dog anymore. I think you are being massively snooty and judgmental about her new premises and you haven't even been there!

Demanding your deposit back is ridiculous IMO, when YOU didn't bother to check your emails and its YOU that doesn't want to keep the appointment because of your preconceived notions.

YippyKiYay · 02/02/2026 12:30

You are well within your rights to get a refund. She has changed the contract between you by moving and not advising you of the change until an unreasonable timeframe (probably hoping you would just suck it up). I check my email every day and still miss stuff cos it goes to my junk mail. Nothing urgent should be emailed, it is a respond when you can style of messaging (the clue is the 'mail'). Urgent items are a text and followup call. End of
The PP who keeps insisting otherwise is def a dog groomer....

SparklyGlitterballs · 02/02/2026 12:27

StrangerThingsHappenRoundTheTwist · 02/02/2026 10:59

It does change it though

She sent an email giving you time to cancel within her terms of "acceptable"

Because you decide your email aren't worth checking every day (most people check them multiple times a day and some even have them to their phone so pick them up immediently) you missed an important email and didn't reply for FOUR days

I'm on her side. She gave you chance, you not knowing was your own fault

You're being ridiculous. 24hrs notice before entering the "no refund" period is not sufficient. Just because you have time to check emails daily, doesn't mean everyone does. I have a busy life and don't check my personal email daily either.

In this case the groomer was unreasonable. She should have given much more notice (she would have known way before that Thursday), and sent a text (preferred method f communication) so OP had it in writing.

ThejoyofNC · 02/02/2026 12:26

Personally I can't believe she had the cheek to try and invoice you for the appointment.

She also made the decision to only email people a few days before, probably on purpose because it's winter and people can't really miss a dog groom and she didn't want to give them time to go elsewhere.

When are business makes a big change such as changing premises they should be bombarding all of their clients with the information so nobody misses it. It should have been sent by text email and plastered all over their social media.

As far as I'm concerned she owed you a full refund.

Cosyblankets · 02/02/2026 12:19

My groomer doesn't even have my email.

PluckyChancer · 02/02/2026 12:19

StrangerThingsHappenRoundTheTwist · 02/02/2026 10:59

It does change it though

She sent an email giving you time to cancel within her terms of "acceptable"

Because you decide your email aren't worth checking every day (most people check them multiple times a day and some even have them to their phone so pick them up immediently) you missed an important email and didn't reply for FOUR days

I'm on her side. She gave you chance, you not knowing was your own fault

That’s not how a contract works in English law.

In contract law, the general rule is that silence or a lack of response to an email does not constitute acceptance of an agreement.

Sending an email notifying of a change is simply advisory and you cannot take a lack of reply as agreeing to the revised terms.

The contract was confirmed when the client paid a £5 deposit.

Now that a significant change to the contract has been made by the service provider, (by moving the premises some distance away) unless the other party makes it clear that they agree to this change, then the contract is no longer valid.

In fact, the client could sue for damages for breach of contract!

Iocanepowder · 02/02/2026 12:19

Op just in relation to your checking email every few days, do you not have any accounts you manage online such as utilities?

If you do, they will email you with changes to any direct debits. If you’re unhappy with the amount, you do need to act fast on those, otherwise it can be too late to change the instruction with bank.

Itsmetheflamingo · 02/02/2026 12:18

The move can’t has been planned and as a small business most of the reasons for that lack of planning are highly stressful. I’d imagine she’s really going through it right now.

it was right that you were refunded - the fight and update was probably related to the stress she’s going though- not ideal but it’s done now, I wouldn’t give it a seconds thought

Iocanepowder · 02/02/2026 12:17

StrangerThingsHappenRoundTheTwist · 02/02/2026 10:59

It does change it though

She sent an email giving you time to cancel within her terms of "acceptable"

Because you decide your email aren't worth checking every day (most people check them multiple times a day and some even have them to their phone so pick them up immediently) you missed an important email and didn't reply for FOUR days

I'm on her side. She gave you chance, you not knowing was your own fault

What utter bollocks.

Her terms changed. Any other business would give a 14 day cooling off period for someone to change their mind. Not one working day.

Cosyblankets · 02/02/2026 12:17

This is ridiculous
She will have had plenty of notice for moving as she will have had to give notice herself on her premises
Stick to your guns

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/02/2026 12:09

PS - she may be getting this stroppy because she’s had lots of people cancel due to venue, and not have anticipated that. If she’s moved location to find a cheaper rent and now is losing business she may be getting panicky

PluckyChancer · 02/02/2026 12:07

Nope, in your shoes I’d argue that she’s changed a fundamental part of the contract terms without checking that you agree to those changes so the contract becomes voidable.

Therefore, she has to refund you.

She’s obviously hoping most people will simply cave.

fluffandfaff · 02/02/2026 12:05

StrangerThingsHappenRoundTheTwist · 02/02/2026 10:59

It does change it though

She sent an email giving you time to cancel within her terms of "acceptable"

Because you decide your email aren't worth checking every day (most people check them multiple times a day and some even have them to their phone so pick them up immediently) you missed an important email and didn't reply for FOUR days

I'm on her side. She gave you chance, you not knowing was your own fault

If the expectation is now that clients must monitor inboxes constantly in case a business relocates overnight, that feels a bit unreasonable to me. Especially when phone was my stated contact preference. The issue isn’t how often I check my email, it’s that the business changed a fundamental part of the agreement (location) with very short notice and didn’t use my stated preferred contact method. If she’d phoned or texted, I’d have responded immediately. I don’t think it’s unreasonable to expect urgent changes to be communicated appropriately, and in the manor in which she was asked to contact me.

OP posts:
GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/02/2026 11:58

I think overall you are in the right to ask for the deposit back.

I think getting hung up on your “preferred contact” being phone is a non starter- it’s preferred, not the only means by which she may contact you, otherwise why provide an email address at all?

However I think by moving premises so shortly before the event, she has to give you reasonable time to confirm if you still want the appointment or not. She’s in effect changed the terms of your contract, or tried to do so, and so morally and possibly legally (but don’t quote me on that as not sure!) she should really be flexible on cancellation time - and could be seen as having cancelled the contract herself. Depends on whether the venue is seen as core element of your agreement I think.

However, I wouldn’t get hung up on the £5 and would leave it there as not worth the hassle.