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Parking when there are dogs around

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TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 08:05

I was in our local park yesterday, talking to another dog owner, when an SUV swept in right beside us, halted, and reversed into a parking space. As it reversed, I slapped it on the roof. The driver jumped out, angry, and I think was ready to give me a slap. I said the car park was empty (it was, it serves about 200 cars) and he had no need to park next to us and potentially hit a dog. He said he was parking near the skate park for his children, and our dogs should be on a lead (they weren't). They are elderly, obedient little dogs, and don't need to be on a leash but they are little and could be hit by a car.
I told him to "F--- Off" and felt okay at the time but couldn't sleep last night for worrying who was in the right.
Was I the unreasonable one?

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Fulmine · 02/02/2026 23:12

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:00

Collies can be little- my dog is. She was off leash because the car park (which is large) was empty! It was a huge, empty, car park and an SUV pulled in and reversed so close I could hit it- which I did! SUV drivers are so safe and entitled they think road rules don't apply to them. Just so they didn't have to walk a few yards to the skate park! They could have hit one of us! Really, I should have taken their number and reported them.

Please tell me you didn't assume that, because a car park was empty when you got to it, it would remain empty? Surely no-one is that dim?

Fulmine · 02/02/2026 23:08

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 09:23

Everybody is entitled. No one has responsibility. We can do whatever we want. Who needs to work or get an education- it is all on TikTok, know what I mean?

Yeah, who needs to take responsibility for their own dogs when putting them on a lead is too much bother? Why not swear at random inoffensive drivers if you want to take your bad mood out on them?

Fulmine · 02/02/2026 23:05

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:00

Collies can be little- my dog is. She was off leash because the car park (which is large) was empty! It was a huge, empty, car park and an SUV pulled in and reversed so close I could hit it- which I did! SUV drivers are so safe and entitled they think road rules don't apply to them. Just so they didn't have to walk a few yards to the skate park! They could have hit one of us! Really, I should have taken their number and reported them.

Yes, you should. It would have given the police a laugh. I can just imagine them solemnly writing down the alleged offence of "Parking near complainant's car in a car park".

How could they have hit one of you? As people have pointed out, they were almost certainly using the screen in their car to park, and obviously they did so, perfectly safely.

Fulmine · 02/02/2026 23:02

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 09:08

She was somewhere safe, until he decided to drive 2 feet away from us, needlessly. What idiot would decide, in an empty car park, to park bang next to the only 2 cars there? 150 empty spaces on the way in, 50 empty spaces past us, an almost totally empty car park, and he decides to stop and reverse in the space next us? So close I could slap his car.
I'm getting flack but he was a cunt.

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By the same token, why did you choose to park near the skate park and let your dogs off the lead, knowing that other drivers wanting to use the skate park were likely to want to park there?

rainbowsandraspberrygin · 02/02/2026 22:56

You can dislike his choice of parking space but it’s mad to bash his car!!! He’s just parking.

Hoardasurass · 02/02/2026 22:45

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:10

You don't get it. It was a large empty car park. Two people were loading dogs and chatting in two spaces out of 200. If you can't see he was entitled cunt I expect you have an SUV which you straddle parking spaces with.

Nope they only entitled person is you.
You're also a violent and abusive person who if you don't reign in your attitude and obnoxious personality is going to wind up in jail or hospital

21ZIGGY · 02/02/2026 22:45

DotAndCarryOne2 · 02/02/2026 19:34

Does it really ? I’m a disabled driver and park as close as I can to my destination because I have to get my wheelchair out. The father in OP’s scenario could possibly have had a child with a hidden disability or SEN, or possibly just been protecting his children by parking as close as possible to the skate park so his children didn’t have to spend any more time than necessary in a car park with moving and reversing vehicles. Or is the safety of a dog paramount to the safety of children ?

Yes it does drive me nuts. By definition, someone who squeezes his car between mine and a trolley bay such that I can't access my car cannot be disabled requiring additional access

Bluddyellfire · 02/02/2026 22:42

OP is clearly not ready to let it go just yet. Despite the lack of sleep wondering if she was out of line effing and blinding at him and umpteen people saying her aggression then and since was/ is completely unwarranted, she now think she sees a missed opportunity to have smashed his car up. That would have been a good one. Bloke parked his car next to mine so I put his windscreen through and he called the police, was he being unreasonable 🤣🤣🤣

NoWordForFluffy · 02/02/2026 22:40

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:27

Well, it is a well known dog park with parking spaces. It also has a skate board park and a children's play area- which we take our grandchildren to. My original point was, in an empty car park, why does someone come in with their SUV and reverse park in touching distance of people with dogs? Why? We often take them off lead to jump in a car, dogs are easily distracted, why reverse 3 feet away? The car park was fucking empty. Reading all these responses makes me feel I should have smashed his windscreen!

So it's 3 feet now, not 2 feet? 🤔

Sounds like you'd have had to walk over to his car to hit it, as that wasn't close enough to hit without moving.

I note you're also now saying you were loading the dog into the car, which is another change of story.

Not that you have much any credibility, but all these changes just make you an unreliable witness.

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:38

dadtoateen · 02/02/2026 22:36

Yeah, think you need professional help to be honest.

no one of a sound mind would act or think like you are doing.

You have grandchildren? Do you tell them to fuck off too?

you really have anger issues/alcohol issues.

i wish you well on the quest to recovery

You didn't read the OP.

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Grammarnut · 02/02/2026 22:36

Manxexile · 02/02/2026 17:07

"... it is a driving offence to hit a dog..."

Sorry, but what law says it is a driving offence to hit a dog?

If I'm driving along within the speed limit and with due care and attention and a dog runs out in front of me giving me no opportunity to avoid hitting it, what driving offence have I committed?

Seriously - it isn't a driving offence if you just hit a dog.

It might be an offence if you don't report it, but that's a different matter

I worded that point badly - as you say it is an offence if you don't report hitting a dog as they are classed as domestic animals and hitting one must be reported (cat owners get very cross about this because cats are only classified as semi-domesticated and you don't have to report hitting one). Same as if you hit a cow (though I think you might have more problems than reporting an accident in that case 😃).

dadtoateen · 02/02/2026 22:36

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:27

Well, it is a well known dog park with parking spaces. It also has a skate board park and a children's play area- which we take our grandchildren to. My original point was, in an empty car park, why does someone come in with their SUV and reverse park in touching distance of people with dogs? Why? We often take them off lead to jump in a car, dogs are easily distracted, why reverse 3 feet away? The car park was fucking empty. Reading all these responses makes me feel I should have smashed his windscreen!

Yeah, think you need professional help to be honest.

no one of a sound mind would act or think like you are doing.

You have grandchildren? Do you tell them to fuck off too?

you really have anger issues/alcohol issues.

i wish you well on the quest to recovery

Grammarnut · 02/02/2026 22:34

ApartFromAllThat · 02/02/2026 16:55

And I said children are property?

Someone did i.e. that the only property damaged would be the children in the car that was hit - not sure how a dog hits a car and damages it without itself being hit and damaged. I thought it was you. Sorry, must have got my quotes mixed up.

Blueskiesandrainbows · 02/02/2026 22:33

I think you need to enrol on an Anger Management course OP, you are being so irrational about someone parking next to you, which they are completely entitled to do.
You were the one out of control, banging on their car and swearing, and you’ve become worse as the thread has progressed.
You’re very fortunate he didn’t report you.

WearyAuldWumman · 02/02/2026 22:30

Yes, dogs are easily distracted. It's your job to keep your dog safe. That means keeping her on a leash when she's in a car park.

The fact that a public park has a dog-walking area (as well as a skate park and other amenities) is irrelevant.

eastegg · 02/02/2026 22:30

ConnieHeart · 02/02/2026 21:33

The OP hasn't said that she was driving

That’s why I said ‘apparently’. I’m reading all of OP’s posts and reading between the lines.

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:27

Megirlan123 · 02/02/2026 22:16

The clue is in the name! Car park. Not dog park.

Well, it is a well known dog park with parking spaces. It also has a skate board park and a children's play area- which we take our grandchildren to. My original point was, in an empty car park, why does someone come in with their SUV and reverse park in touching distance of people with dogs? Why? We often take them off lead to jump in a car, dogs are easily distracted, why reverse 3 feet away? The car park was fucking empty. Reading all these responses makes me feel I should have smashed his windscreen!

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WearyAuldWumman · 02/02/2026 22:26

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:10

You don't get it. It was a large empty car park. Two people were loading dogs and chatting in two spaces out of 200. If you can't see he was entitled cunt I expect you have an SUV which you straddle parking spaces with.

The best gloss that I can put on this is that you're so worried about your dog's health that you're not thinking clearly at the moment.

WearyAuldWumman · 02/02/2026 22:25

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:00

Collies can be little- my dog is. She was off leash because the car park (which is large) was empty! It was a huge, empty, car park and an SUV pulled in and reversed so close I could hit it- which I did! SUV drivers are so safe and entitled they think road rules don't apply to them. Just so they didn't have to walk a few yards to the skate park! They could have hit one of us! Really, I should have taken their number and reported them.

That's a bit illogical. You have to expect that someone might want to come into a car park. It's really not worthwhile risking your dog by having her off the leash there.

LJ125 · 02/02/2026 22:22

Your dog was off the lead in a carpark? Yes, of course you’re being unreasonable.

properidiot · 02/02/2026 22:22

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:10

You don't get it. It was a large empty car park. Two people were loading dogs and chatting in two spaces out of 200. If you can't see he was entitled cunt I expect you have an SUV which you straddle parking spaces with.

You're right OP - we don't get it ... night

dadtoateen · 02/02/2026 22:21

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 22:12

Irrelevant to this thread. And you might recognize recovery may have been mentioned.

Very relevent as you are responding like someone who is not of sound mind, as in been drinking…

how can you still defend your actions?

please explain why you think you were justified to tell him to fuck off infront of kids?

and to keep calling him a cunt on here? Really hope you don’t talk to your children like this, you are not a nice person after what has been heard on here.

TheNightingalesStarling · 02/02/2026 22:20

Hitting the car is more likely to make him lose control and crash into pits a massive distraction.

Stop wasting energy on being a plonker and go and enjoy special time with your dog.

Livelovebehappy · 02/02/2026 22:19

Oh dear…. I’m normally #teamdog on MN, but I’m afraid yabu here. I might have inwardly thought it was bizarre that they were parking right next to me in an empty car park when I was standing next to my car, but I wouldn’t have voiced it or hit his car.

angelikacpickles · 02/02/2026 22:18

TheQuirkyMaker · 02/02/2026 08:18

I don't agree. Of course he can park where he wants, but his children could walk 50 meters to the skate park if they were physically able to use it. Run over a dog to make a point that he doesn't like them?

He didn't run over a dog though, did he?