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AIBU?

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Would you think these people liked you and your family?

30 replies

firstofallimadelight · 02/02/2026 07:15

Spent the afternoon with them, food was laid out couple of people helped themselves , I got some for dd then me. One person asked why I didn’t serve everyone and then got someone else to get my dh food. (Dh said no he’d get himself) They then asked would I serve everyone at my house I said I didn’t know probably (we were not at my home we were at her home) Everyone else served themselves or their kids and she never said a word to them.
later she made a comment about a health issue I have saying I need to “try harder” to get better. She has no idea how hard I work to improve my health issues yet she assumes I’m doing nothing/ not enough.
My son (who is disabled) was singing to himself (quietly and not near anyone/at the table) dn (who was running around) kept running up to adults say DS was singing they told him ‘he’s just being annoying’ and to ignore him.
This was all in the space of a couple hours I really don’t enjoy going and find it stressful but dh says they don’t mean anything. Aibu to find this stressful or should I just put up?

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Gizlotsmum · 02/02/2026 07:24

So her expectations of you are different to others? Wild guess but are you the only daughter in law? I would be ignoring and visiting as little as possible

LivingTheDreamish · 02/02/2026 07:24

YANBU. Are they your in-laws? I wouldn't want to spend time with these people and yes the woman who made the comments does seem to have a problem with you. You need to give us more information about the relationship but I'd give them a swerve if you can.

Bringemout · 02/02/2026 07:21

She sounds horrible, why do you need to serve anyone else? Also your husband can clearly take care of himself. Are you asian and is this your in-laws?

Thesofathatwas · 02/02/2026 07:19

Fuck that.
I would not be spending a second with them again.
You heard all of that, what if kids are exposed to that and can hear it?
Nope, absolutely no time for that shit.

Mulledjuice · 02/02/2026 07:16

This is all the same person? They sound rude and mean