Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Do friends of rich people have no shame?

239 replies

NotDarkGothicMama · 01/02/2026 21:43

Reading about the Epstein files, the first thing that struck me was the awful photo of Andrew kneeling over what looks like a very young woman, looking extremely pervy.

The second thing was the emails from people like Fergie and Peter Madelson's husband asking for money. "I need 20 grand for rent, today." "I need 10 grand for an osteopath course." Have they no shame whatsoever? Surely if you're friends with a rich person, you're very careful not to mention financial needs so they don't think you're only after their cash? Let alone actually ask for handouts!

OP posts:
BundleBoogie · 01/02/2026 23:23

Fergie and Mandy always were the epitome of crass.

We have some very rich friends and wouldn’t dream of taking a penny from them. In fact we probably overcompensate with our contribution to things.

JacknDiane · 01/02/2026 23:22

SF and AMW did all this whilst raising 2 young girls.

Did they never equate the girls being trafficked as similar in age to their daughters?

What kind of low life are they?

Fullmoan · 01/02/2026 23:22

Gahr · 01/02/2026 23:11

It's all one big grift. I despise people who bow and scrape to the Royal Family. All those idiots who queued to see the Queen! What a lot of delusional, braindead sheep.

Agree!
It's grim and those who worship wealth and royalty sustain it

Gahr · 01/02/2026 23:17

MidWayThruJanuary · 01/02/2026 23:16

@Gahr
And the weirdos at Sandringham on Christmas Day asking a 10 year old child for selfies.

And that. Fucking freaks, the lot of them!

MidWayThruJanuary · 01/02/2026 23:16

@Gahr
And the weirdos at Sandringham on Christmas Day asking a 10 year old child for selfies.

NotDarkGothicMama · 01/02/2026 23:13

Fingalscave · 01/02/2026 22:57

Many years ago, my aunt was a friend and neighbour of one of Mandelson's relatives. The relative told my aunt he was fed up of Mandelson asking for loans. He wanted to borrow enough for a deposit for a house. He's obviously used to begging.

When he was sacked as ambassador, a commentator on the BBC said Mandelson was notorious for loving the high life while being in no position to afford it.

OP posts:
TheGander · 01/02/2026 23:12

Fingalscave · 01/02/2026 22:57

Many years ago, my aunt was a friend and neighbour of one of Mandelson's relatives. The relative told my aunt he was fed up of Mandelson asking for loans. He wanted to borrow enough for a deposit for a house. He's obviously used to begging.

I remember the whole kerfuffle over Mandy’s mortgages and loans from back in the day. He liked the high life but seems the day job didn’t pay enough https://www.independent.co.uk/news/mandelson-hid-mortgages-from-lender-1103632.html?test_group=lighteradlayout
Oh and he’s just resigned from the Labour Party 🎉

Mandelson hid mortgages from lender

PETER MANDELSON took out four home loans worth almost pounds 600,000 and failed to tell his mortgage lender about three of them, a Commons committee revealed yesterday.

https://www.independent.co.uk/news/mandelson-hid-mortgages-from-lender-1103632.html?test_group=lighteradlayout

Gahr · 01/02/2026 23:11

Fullmoan · 01/02/2026 23:03

It's staggering to read.
I have some staggeringly wealthy friends. I never asked for money even when I was skipping meals I was so short of cash.

I think it's clear though that these were transactional relationships not friendships.

Edited

It's all one big grift. I despise people who bow and scrape to the Royal Family. All those idiots who queued to see the Queen! What a lot of delusional, braindead sheep.

Eyesopenwideawake · 01/02/2026 23:09

Weird AMW photos but they don’t look in any way sexual - more like a demo of life saving/cpr.

Fullmoan · 01/02/2026 23:03

It's staggering to read.
I have some staggeringly wealthy friends. I never asked for money even when I was skipping meals I was so short of cash.

I think it's clear though that these were transactional relationships not friendships.

EasternStandard · 01/02/2026 22:57

AbbaDabbaDooh · 01/02/2026 21:58

The amount of amnesia that seems to be affecting the people involved - insane.

Yep and @peanutbuttertoastypost on code words

Fingalscave · 01/02/2026 22:57

TraitorsLantern · 01/02/2026 22:31

I found the Mandelson’s now husband one odd. How did Mandelson not have £10k?

Many years ago, my aunt was a friend and neighbour of one of Mandelson's relatives. The relative told my aunt he was fed up of Mandelson asking for loans. He wanted to borrow enough for a deposit for a house. He's obviously used to begging.

StrawberryJamAndRaspberryPie · 01/02/2026 22:54

They’re not friends… Epstein wanted their Royal influence and they wanted his cash. It’s a classic status /fame for money exchange. Not friendship.

Cyclebabble · 01/02/2026 22:53

Epstein had money. Andrew and Fergie wanted/needed it as did others. In giving what they needed he purchased influence and prestige. What we are not seeing is this happens in numerous relationships between rich people and unscrupulous officials. It is very clear Andrew lied and did not give a stuff about exploited women. If he was not the Queen's son he might well have been extradited.

Wafflesandcrepes · 01/02/2026 22:52

So pissed off with Labour right now. Oh so moralistic. Oh so judgey. But any occasion to get their grabby, grubby little hands on someone else’s money and they’re right in there. They disgust me. (I am - was - a Labour voter)

Pollyanna87 · 01/02/2026 22:49

I don’t understand why you’re expecting this particular group of people to behave in a manner which is at all recognisable to the average person. They’re keeping each other’s secrets, and those amounts of money were pocket change for Epstein.

plentyofsunshine · 01/02/2026 22:49

AngelinaFibres · 01/02/2026 22:37

It's a trade off. Maxwell grew up with money and status. Then her father died in dodgy circumstances and left them all with no money. So she attached herself to JE. He had huge amounts of money but he wanted the trips to the Royal enclosure at Ascot and she knew/ had been to school with the right people. He wanted the upper class 'shine' and she wanted private jets and houses and designer clothes. Andrew and Fergie had the Royal connections that made JE respectable but everyone knows that British Royals below the heir and the spare are far poorer than they'd like to be but can't earn their money in conventional ways ( thick, unqualified, vulgar to work like us common folk) so they cultivate rich people in exchange for photos and favours and contacts. If those rich people have houses with multiple hidden cameras in then they're trapped.JE lends money to Andrew in exchange for a trip to Balmoral, an invitation to Buckingham palace. He gets what he wants and AMW maintains his lifestyle. When you're in that deep asking for money is probably the least vulgar thing you've ever done.

Yes beautifully put.

Epstein knew exactly what he was doing, he encouraged it.

He was secretly filming guests with the sex workers and holding that over their heads.

That is one weird photo of AMW leaning over that women. It looks like he's in a CPR training session.

ComedyGuns · 01/02/2026 22:47

peanutbuttertoasty · 01/02/2026 22:20

They are surely code words being used for something nefarious?

This is what I was thinking, as the blatant requests for money seemed so bizarre and rude.

MsSmartShoes · 01/02/2026 22:47

LittleLapwing · 01/02/2026 21:48

Well, I mean - all the people listed very obviously have no shame.

I think that’s on them personally though, rather than a generic ‘friends of rich people’ issue.

Spot on - these are very transactional relationships.no one worries about losing friends because of the moral depravity, complicity in exploiting others. These are the “devils darlings” and capitalism made it possible.

Dweetfidilove · 01/02/2026 22:45

AngelinaFibres · 01/02/2026 22:37

It's a trade off. Maxwell grew up with money and status. Then her father died in dodgy circumstances and left them all with no money. So she attached herself to JE. He had huge amounts of money but he wanted the trips to the Royal enclosure at Ascot and she knew/ had been to school with the right people. He wanted the upper class 'shine' and she wanted private jets and houses and designer clothes. Andrew and Fergie had the Royal connections that made JE respectable but everyone knows that British Royals below the heir and the spare are far poorer than they'd like to be but can't earn their money in conventional ways ( thick, unqualified, vulgar to work like us common folk) so they cultivate rich people in exchange for photos and favours and contacts. If those rich people have houses with multiple hidden cameras in then they're trapped.JE lends money to Andrew in exchange for a trip to Balmoral, an invitation to Buckingham palace. He gets what he wants and AMW maintains his lifestyle. When you're in that deep asking for money is probably the least vulgar thing you've ever done.

All of this.

Dweetfidilove · 01/02/2026 22:43

They are shameless.
They are equally perverted or paedophilic themselves.
Many folks have zero morals and see nothing wrong with underage sex or other debauchery.
They are greedy enough to turn a blind eye to anything, if it means they can collect.
They are as exploitative as the exploiter, who they know will happily buy their collusion...

Gahr · 01/02/2026 22:42

AngelinaFibres · 01/02/2026 22:37

It's a trade off. Maxwell grew up with money and status. Then her father died in dodgy circumstances and left them all with no money. So she attached herself to JE. He had huge amounts of money but he wanted the trips to the Royal enclosure at Ascot and she knew/ had been to school with the right people. He wanted the upper class 'shine' and she wanted private jets and houses and designer clothes. Andrew and Fergie had the Royal connections that made JE respectable but everyone knows that British Royals below the heir and the spare are far poorer than they'd like to be but can't earn their money in conventional ways ( thick, unqualified, vulgar to work like us common folk) so they cultivate rich people in exchange for photos and favours and contacts. If those rich people have houses with multiple hidden cameras in then they're trapped.JE lends money to Andrew in exchange for a trip to Balmoral, an invitation to Buckingham palace. He gets what he wants and AMW maintains his lifestyle. When you're in that deep asking for money is probably the least vulgar thing you've ever done.

Beautifully put.

AngelinaFibres · 01/02/2026 22:37

NotDarkGothicMama · 01/02/2026 21:43

Reading about the Epstein files, the first thing that struck me was the awful photo of Andrew kneeling over what looks like a very young woman, looking extremely pervy.

The second thing was the emails from people like Fergie and Peter Madelson's husband asking for money. "I need 20 grand for rent, today." "I need 10 grand for an osteopath course." Have they no shame whatsoever? Surely if you're friends with a rich person, you're very careful not to mention financial needs so they don't think you're only after their cash? Let alone actually ask for handouts!

It's a trade off. Maxwell grew up with money and status. Then her father died in dodgy circumstances and left them all with no money. So she attached herself to JE. He had huge amounts of money but he wanted the trips to the Royal enclosure at Ascot and she knew/ had been to school with the right people. He wanted the upper class 'shine' and she wanted private jets and houses and designer clothes. Andrew and Fergie had the Royal connections that made JE respectable but everyone knows that British Royals below the heir and the spare are far poorer than they'd like to be but can't earn their money in conventional ways ( thick, unqualified, vulgar to work like us common folk) so they cultivate rich people in exchange for photos and favours and contacts. If those rich people have houses with multiple hidden cameras in then they're trapped.JE lends money to Andrew in exchange for a trip to Balmoral, an invitation to Buckingham palace. He gets what he wants and AMW maintains his lifestyle. When you're in that deep asking for money is probably the least vulgar thing you've ever done.

Gahr · 01/02/2026 22:33

This is a bizarre way of looking at the issue. You're judging them for cadging when the real issue was that they were friends with a paedophile!

TraitorsLantern · 01/02/2026 22:31

I found the Mandelson’s now husband one odd. How did Mandelson not have £10k?