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Do friends of rich people have no shame?

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NotDarkGothicMama · 01/02/2026 21:43

Reading about the Epstein files, the first thing that struck me was the awful photo of Andrew kneeling over what looks like a very young woman, looking extremely pervy.

The second thing was the emails from people like Fergie and Peter Madelson's husband asking for money. "I need 20 grand for rent, today." "I need 10 grand for an osteopath course." Have they no shame whatsoever? Surely if you're friends with a rich person, you're very careful not to mention financial needs so they don't think you're only after their cash? Let alone actually ask for handouts!

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Notsosweetcaroline · 01/02/2026 22:26

I also find it tacky op, it’s so embarrassing to get your hand out like that but they don’t seem to care,

guinnessguzzler · 01/02/2026 22:21

Agree OP, I find it so very odd. I suppose in the case of Fergie it was a less embarrassing option than the landlord going to the press about her not paying her rent but I would do almost anything before I begged a friend to pay my rent. And the osteopath course is just plain weird. Is that some kind of code or cover? Is it really a bribe or blackmail? Or do these people honestly not think they should have to save up or get a bank loan to be able to pay for their own career development?

peanutbuttertoasty · 01/02/2026 22:20

They are surely code words being used for something nefarious?

JuliettaCaeser · 01/02/2026 21:58

I’ve just spent more on her birthday present than I spent on dhs!

AbbaDabbaDooh · 01/02/2026 21:58

The amount of amnesia that seems to be affecting the people involved - insane.

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NotDarkGothicMama · 01/02/2026 21:57

JuliettaCaeser · 01/02/2026 21:51

God we find the opposite- Dds best friend is from a seriously rich international family we end up spending more to be reciprocal!.

Well exactly. You don't just invite yourselves to their house and ask them for ten grand between playdates.

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NotDarkGothicMama · 01/02/2026 21:54

PeonyPatch · 01/02/2026 21:49

I mean….. THIS is what you’re taking away from the release of the Epstein files…?

Quite clearly, not the most important thing. That would be the abuse of women and girls by Epstein, Maxwell and strangely unknown "friends" among the obviously rich and/or powerful.

Still, the lack of class displayed in less disgusting matters is surprising.

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upstairsdownstairscardboardbox · 01/02/2026 21:53

Some people are so shameful they will take money for favours from nonces. Some of those people are rich, some of them are not. This is how people are. Shameless people needing tens of thousands of pounds will cultivate and collect rich friends and ingratiate themselves.

NotnowMildrid · 01/02/2026 21:53

I agree, it’s absolutely cringeworthy.

lazybone1 · 01/02/2026 21:52

entitled people have no shame

JuliettaCaeser · 01/02/2026 21:51

God we find the opposite- Dds best friend is from a seriously rich international family we end up spending more to be reciprocal!.

PeonyPatch · 01/02/2026 21:49

I mean….. THIS is what you’re taking away from the release of the Epstein files…?

LittleLapwing · 01/02/2026 21:48

Well, I mean - all the people listed very obviously have no shame.

I think that’s on them personally though, rather than a generic ‘friends of rich people’ issue.

StrangerThingsHappenRoundTheTwist · 01/02/2026 21:48

Friends ask non rich friends for help with rent etc sometimes...