This is a recent example but there’s loads of the same.
I specifically asked my parents not to interfere with an issue I had with the council regarding bins. They took it upon themselves to call up and I got notified on the app. I’m 32. They have treated me like this all my life and I find it suffocating and controlling (I’ve told them this).
Instead of having a huge row, I simply said to my mum that I was really upset she had done that when I had specifically asked her not to. she immediately became defensive, put the phone on speaker so my dad could lay into me too and then began to tell me that im not so perfect myself and that how dare I criticise her. I said I would never do that to her and they both jumped in and said well no because I would never help them. And so it went on… all
i wanted was for her to understand why I felt annoyed and to recognise it and apologise.
I am so exhausted but as usual after they lay into me I question myself. Is this me? Maybe it is and I can’t see it?! I’m just exhausted by them