Dh often works very late. We have a 7 month and 2.5 year old. We both agreed that we would do our best to keep the boys out the bedroom (7 month is with us and wil be for a few more months as I ebf).
I have to admit I have gone back on my word. I have started bringing in the 2.5 yo into my bed as he has got into a very bad habit of waking up. He gets himself so upset that I worry he’ll wake the baby. So I just bring him in to bed. I enjoy the snuggles and I have to say I felt guilty that he was alone whilst ds2, dh and I were all together.
Dh does get annoyed. He thinks it’s making things harder for ds1. But also it means we are not having much of an intimate life. As we definitely most intimate at night when he gets home (both our preferences).
I am a SAHM for now and I really need the routine of being up and out of the house early with the kids and dogs for a walk. Works well as it gives dh time to sleep in.
The only thing is we don’t agree on who should take ds1 back to his bedroom. Dh has a sore shoulder (surgery) so finds it uncomfortable . Whilst I think it’s DH’s preference to not co sleep so the onus should be on him. im quite happy with our current arrangement.
I know it’s petty. But who do you think?
I really struggle to fall back asleep if o get up and move around too much.