New boyfriend snapped at me

She said she hesitated because she wasn't sure of the exit and because they were talking, even if maps was lagging, the instructions tell you the exit number. I read the instructions ahead of time and then know the exit number in advance. But either way, he tutted and said for fucks sake, which is hardly snapping at her and I think it's a pretty typical response to the situation, especially given as she said : In fairness before we got on the motorway I also made a wrong call which cost us about 30 minutes as we ended up in this random town so I do see why he would have been irritated
He has fairly expressed his irritation in a minor way, it's not like he called her names or behaved in an aggressive or intimidating manner.

A singular "for fuck sake" wouldn't really bother me.

Unless it's part of a pattern of rude language and an unpleasant demeaner...just watch he's not masking who he really is, it being early days in the relationship.

Not remotely.

Fine by me.

You seem disproportionately angry. Let's not continue to engage each other.

We're not talking about running a red light or speeding though. Yes those things would be the driver's fault. Not paying attention and giving the wrong directions is the fault of the person navigating.

If he snaps again then get rid.

Hardly an essay - you insinuated that I have low standards in a two word pass agg post - all I did was clarify my position.

Name calling? I didn't call you a name.

I didn't write an angry essay at a stranger....
You seem to be looking for a fight with the name calling

You ppl all are seriously werid or you just like to echo other weird posts... you can give instructions and know what you are doing and still get confused the odd time. Both dh and I are confident drivers and with maps or reading signs but in the moment ive been unsure or not spoken up in time, its called being a human being. He certainly hasnt got mad or said fucks sake. He knows it can happen.

Sorry petal and after you were so polite as well!

Yikes - no need to be so rude! 😱

No one I have dated has ever sworn at me - which is also what didn't happen in this case. My bar is incredibly high - but I am also understanding that someone who is tired, fraught and stressed after a bloody long drive might just possibly have a moment of frustration. Because they are a just a person and not a cardboard cutout without emotions, feelings and humanity. I bet you've never once in your life ever got frustrated and sworn under your breath - I imagine your medal must be in the post now and your local town is getting ready to do a parade in your honour because you've never, ever lost your temper for a second.

Low bar?

My parents have been very happily married for 47 years. The only bickering they really did was if my mum Was navigating and made a mistake or was too slow at telling him of a turn off. The invention of the sat nav made travel much more peaceful. 🤣🤣

What scolding? It wasn't a rebuke or a reprimand. It was three words in a stressful situation that weren't directed to her. Hardly the telling off of the century. And after doing ALL of the driving on a mammoth journey. And he apologised, unprompted, once the journey was over.

Guess the milk of human kindness only flows in one direction?

How someone handles themselves and treats others in mildly irritating and inconvenient situations shows their character. Three months in and OP gets a frustrated FFS and a scolding then acts completely normal after? 🚩

So do I - I don't let anyone navigate for me though, ever. But they clearly agreed between themselves that was the plan - maybe it was a trade off for her doing sod all of the driving?

You say basic navigation, but no one knows the route - it's not been shared - and it could have been through dire weather through unfamiliar terrain when having an extra pair of eyes helps. Also presumably there was a reason why a navigator was needed - doesn't make him a crap driver necessarily.

So you are not good at map reading he should get a satnav if he can't navigate himself. This should be the honeymoon period, you should be laughing together about little mistakes, roll forward a few years... Not looking good.

Well you would… you wanted to say ‘get over it’ which would have made him feel shit.

In what universe could a quick FFS under his breath in this situation be called a tantrum? No wonder so many people find it impossible to have lasting relationships. We are all human, which means we're fallible and make mistakes and are certainly not always perfectly in control of our emotions and reactions. It's as though people have never heard of compromise and give-and-take.

He sounds like an impatient tosser

If Google Maps was lagging, what was OP supposed to do? Why is she to blame?

This is what I said upthread, as the driver, I ensure I am prepared for long journeys without relying on others for basic navigation.

But for some reason the boyfriend seems to be being absolved of any responsibility and it’s all being blamed on the OP.

Most people who navigate that distance don't just rely on the technology. I've got an integrated satnav in my car but I check out the route beforehand on AA route planner and print it off. And my phone with Google Maps is the back up. That way if anything 'lags' I have alternatives - it's called being prepared isn't it?

There's nothing in her post to say that he's too cheap to buy a satnav, you're just making an assumption with no evidence. I think he was frustrated with the situation more than anything else. Which is normal - there have been lots of comments on here about expecting her to be a 'robot', the irony being that he is expected to be a 'robot' by not reacting at all after a mammoth drive which has already been extended through no fault of his own.

I'd still like to know whether she did any of the driving or not - strange she won't answer that question.

I think what he said was a perfectly normal response and hardly snapping at you! You'd already caused one big delay, and then could have had another, on a very long drive. He hardly said anything, and then apologized later. I don't think he's wrong at all.