New boyfriend snapped at me

Were your lives at risk from the ticket purchase allocate and delete and reallocate?

Had the driver not asked you on the motorway at the time if the approaching exit was the exit to be taken, when might you have given him notice to prepare to take that exit?

A potentially lethal situation.

So not the same as swithering over theatre tickets at all.

At 3m in, a “keeper” would not have even snapped…

Your EX-boyfriend, surely @Snappyg666 ?

he’s showing you who he is. He’s like this and you’re only 12 weeks in?

nope… he’s got to go.

I'd have been so irritated with my Dh and vice versa. I think we both would have snapped at the other in that situation and then quickly forgotten about it. Having said that, 3 months in, I wouldn't have tolerated it.

@Snappyg666 good grief! You’re on busy roads, “you’re” navigating, you have to have your wits about you! If you can't, you need to tell him. I’m not surprised he was exasperated with you. You could have potentially caused an accident. If there’s another long trip planned, buy a sat nav, or use the one on your phone, OR, maybe drive yourself!
Poor bloke 🤦🏼‍♀️

I can understand why he got annoyed but why would you agree to being sally satnav, tell him to use Google, a driving app or a satnav the next time, it sounds mentally draining, it not only tells directions but speed and hazards

I'm sorry @Snappyg666 but what the actual?

He didn't 'snap' - he muttered
It wasn't 'at' you - it was to himself, expressing frustration at a situation that would test the patience of any sane human
He drove for 12 hours in one day, a timeframe extended by your ineptitude at navigation. You then almost fail to prevent a situation that could have extended that timeframe even further
He then apologised, unprompted - an apology I don't even think was due seeing as he didn't actually snap at you.

How on earth some people function in day to day life when they're taking offence at some of these non issues is actually beyond me.

You should be making it easy on yourself

No because whoever says the words fiddlesticks in a pissed off tutting way at someone else? No one. If I say fucksake at someone I’m most certainly snapping at them and showing my immense irritation towards them. If I say fiddlesticks I’m mildly annoyed with myself.

I swear like a trooper but not wanting to be snapped at or swore at so early in a relationship isn’t really pearl clutching.

The posters on here pearl clutching over him apparently 'snapping', i wonder is it just because he used 'The F word'? Would you say the same thing if he had gone 'oh fiddlesticks'?
Most adults say the word Fuck, especially during times of frustration.

My dh gets annoyed if I get distracted from naviagating cos we've been chatting. He expects me to keep an eye on the navigating as he does with the driving whilst chatting.
In our first 3 months of dating, back in 1983, I sent us north instead of south on a motorway. That didn't go down well 🤣
You wait til you've had 38 years of wrong turns/traffic jams/getting lost then you'll really know swearing & snapping!

That’s bonkers
they should ask before every junction if they’re coming off or not?

Totally disagree. On a motorway, the driver does not need to be saying to the navigator at the approach to each junction "are we coming off here". A competent navigator, especially one that has also passed a driving test, should be able to advise in plenty of time that the next junction is needed and then give a reminder say half a mile to a mile out when the signs start.

It is the driver's responsibility to check with the navigator in enough time before a junction so that they don't have to swerve across lanes to an exit they saw coming a mile ago.

I agree.

I think you're the red flag and he should run for the hills.

Apologies. I misread your post.

But when your adult kids can't continuously give you perfect directions for 12 hours with a laggy app, will you be 'for fuck's sake-ing' them? Or will you be treating them with more kindness?

Having said that, I think all the posts telling OP she deserved worse treatment, that she's incompetent and stupid and lazy, that she's a 'princess' and overly sensitive, all from people who describe swearing and tutting at each other as a perfectly acceptable part of life, are very telling! Funny how you think nothing of swearing and tutting at your loved ones, and also nothing of namecalling strangers online.

Exactly, well said. I wonder how many of these perfect people have given navigation directions for 12 hours.

What's her gender got to do with it? If it was a man he would still get a telling off for adding 30 minutes to a journey a woman was driving. What an odd way of thinking

Driving is tiring and when the passenger has said they are in charge of directions you need to trust that they are and not have to ask at every junction if you’re coming off. Last minute changes on a motorway is dangerous.
Mild irritation sounds very reasonable to me, plus he apologised

People are different. I don't like being sworn at, whether that's muttered or yelled. I don't swear at people as a general rule, and even when they have made an annoying mistake, I consider it a personal failure if I can't have patience and a sense of humour about it. I try to treat others as I would like to be treated.

That's not to say others are wrong or bad if they don't mind swearing and tutting at one another. But it isn't how I like to conduct myself or to be treated, and it sounds like OP also prefers not to be treated in that way.

Having said that, I think all the posts telling OP she deserved worse treatment, that she's incompetent and stupid and lazy, that she's a 'princess' and overly sensitive, all from people who describe swearing and tutting at each other as a perfectly acceptable part of life, are very telling! Funny how you think nothing of swearing and tutting at your loved ones, and also nothing of namecalling strangers online.

I couldn't live with anyone who's that sensitive to a muttered "FFS" about an objectively annoying situation. There's a huge difference between muttering FFS when your partner has done something annoying versus a pattern of berating, disdaining and making them feel small (ie abuse) and it's absurd to equate the two.

I've read all the "things your husband does to annoy you" threads and I would bet large sums of money that the majority of MN users have said FFS (or worse) to husbands who haven't bothered to take the laundry out of the washing machine or failed to load the dishwasher or whatever. I myself say FFS to DP at least weekly when he fails to screw lids on things properly. He says FFS to me weekly about my chaotic messiness. It's fine! It's no more cutting than a sigh or a roll of the eyes. When you live with someone you can thread the needle of expressing your annoyance when they're doing that annoying thing they do, but also letting it slide. "FFS" is perfect for that.

Luckily my kids are able to cope with a person muttering for FFS (especially when it's not even aimed at them) because I didn't bring them up to be incredibly sensitive.
i just can't believe someone swearing under their breath about a situation is such a big deal to so many.
I know people on here like to criticise men but this is getting ridiculous.

Well if he can't keep his sense of humour when he drives a long way, he shouldn't have committed to such a long drive all in one go. We all have to be responsible for ourselves and understand our limits.