New boyfriend snapped at me

And yet, ironically you all expect perfection from the OP, even happy for her to be called stupid and incompetent for making a couple of navigation errors on a 12 hour journey with a dodgy Google Maps app.

I can read signs, map read etc. but the sat nav is useful for traffic, if there's a road closure or diversion I wasn't expecting etc

It doesn't have to take away from your skill set. It's just an additional support tool. There's a route I do regularly between home and my family, it's a good distance/time driving. I could probably do it in my sleep (never would) but only if there's no issues, which these days is rare. Rather than having to try and find an alternative route on a map, which may also be experiencing issues I can't see, the satnav has the ability to reroute me and if I decide I don't like this route I use signs and a map to decide for myself.

They don't just make us all sheep doing as we're told (although there is some people who follow blindly and they scare me). They can just add to your support tools.

And you're never to old to use something helpful.

This whole thread is such a mountain out of a molehill.

It has nothing to do with whether they are in a relationship or what sex they are.

It is about a tired and frustrated driver who didn't think to use their satnav, relying on a poor navigator. That's all. I would use a satnav on a 12 hour drive as well. It's common sense.

I think he behaved well in the circumstances, but if you don't like it then you aren't compatible and that's ok.

You've never met them because they're stuck on the motorway

Jesus Christ, people really do expect absolute ✨perfection✨ these days, don’t you?? Wow

Not always the case. Mine did snap 3 months in when I sent us north instead of south on a motorway. As it was a motorway I used regularly it was justified 🤣He has been a keeper.
Fair play to those who smugly claim they have a brain, are adults & can read signs. We'd both get lost in a hamlet so satnavs have proved to be one of the best inventions ever & have saved us time & petrol!

Get over it. Your boyfriend was under pressure as hw was driving and obviously you were approaching the exit and there wasnt time to dither over it! You sound like a snowflake to be honest and your making a big deal out of nothing!

I think context is important tbh. A 12 hr drive and you missed properly navigating, not once but multiple times and added 30 minutes to the journey by accident, which all put him under pressure. I think in that situation muttering fuck sake under your breath is understandable, especially with independent reflection and a genuine apology after.

I think there's a difference between a quiet 'fuck sake' when you're stressed and 'fuck you' and I also wouldn't class this as him snapping at you to be honest. I'd have been apologising for messing up the navigation so much.

If its a pattern of behaviour then that's one thing but as a one off I'd let this slide and I wouldn't be trying to make a point out of it. I completely understand not wanting to miss any red flags but he's only human as well. Plus people do have different attitudes about swearing in general. I wouldn't have minded a fuck sake but a fuck you and I'd be dropping him like a hot rock.

Agree 👌

Omfg are you even in a relationship if you’ve never snapped at each other? Where do these perfect people come from!

pray tell.. what exactly is misogynistic about calling a woman stupid and incompetent, when they were being check notes stupid and incompetent?

A man would also be called stupid and incompetent in a similar situation.

Gender related prejudice has zero bearings on it.

Fgs, grow up...you were supposed to be telling him where to go, when driving you need to know a little in advance what lane to be in, or when to turn etc.....

Good thing not driving and giving directions with my other half! He even shouts/ argues with the satnav. BTW We've been together decades.

Absolutely. That reminds me of the first time I used a sat nav. Son was visiting a friend in the middle of an estate so dd put it in her sat nav it was brilliant until it came to going back home. I knew the way but couldn't shut it up and had to take the battery out 😂 I don't do well being told what to do.

I use my phone as a satnav for traffic updates, especially when I am driving to work as the M1 can be a nightmare. I then know to divert through Wakefield.

Being able to memorise a map for a long distance isn't difficult when you are only driving on two or three interconnecting motorways, but it is often the fiddly bit at the other end of a journey where I am unfamiliar with the roads that can mean I need help from a satnav.

I can still map read though.

Me too. Dh has learnt how to use Google maps and because his phone is paired with the car radio it comes through there. Usually in good time but he always puts it on if we're going somewhere we've been before when I'm driving and I absolutely hate the thing. I too am old and pride myself on the fact I can actually follow road signs. I don't say anything out loud because he thinks he's being helpful.

Not the case in my circles. Guess that's why it's always good not to assume.

A long drive can bring out the worst in most of us I think.
I'd like to think I'd be patient and kind in the same scenario but I'd probably "ffs" as well.

Who are these saintly posters here who never swear or turn a hair? Blimey!

You are a sensitive soul. He has apologised, all good.

my partner and I always bicker when one of us is driving

Please don’t make me side with a man. Get over yourself. Fast.

What's ll this nonsense about men being on their best behaviour? That sounds like they ah e to out in n act as opposed to always being decent men.

Him apologising for swearing is suddenly wrong?

I wouldn't necessarily assume if someone talked about their partner that this was someone they shared a house or finances with, but I would assume it was someone they were committed to on a long term basis. Certainly not someone they had only been seeing for a few months.

He apologised, it wouldn't be the end for me at this point. If it happened twice more I'd know it was terminal.