New boyfriend snapped at me

I didn't ask that. Nor did i say i was perfect.

I asked where the misogyny was.

Try answering the question asked rather than going off about something never even mentioned.

So why is it solely OP’s fault they were talking?!

So why is it solely OP’s fault they were talking?!

If the app was dodgy from the get go I would have said that at the time. I would have found an alternative. I'd have looked at the steps / written directions. And if none of these things were available to me, I'd have made it very clear from the get go that I couldn't do what was being asked of me.

What I wouldn't have done is continued to do it badly and then been pissed off that this made it harder and irritated someone else. Had I done this, I'd expect to be called incompetent because I would have been.

But, most of my job is problem solving and forward thinking. So these things come naturally to me. OP didn't seem to have considered other ways of being useful, made a lot of mistakes and made her colleagues (to stick with the analogy) job a lot harder and more stressful.

So in this instance, she was incompetent. It's nothing to do with her being a woman (as I know you think we're being misogynistic). It's just that she didn't do her job well, didn't find alternatives to the dodgy tools and didn't communicate that there was issues with the tools, and allowed mistakes to repeatedly happen on her watch. That is incompetence. If I'd done that, I'd be incompetent too.

OP also said it was because they were talking, and she'd already misdirected him once that had taken them 30 minutes out of their way on a 12hr drive.

A second offence would definitely get a 'ffs' out of me.

I can read signs, map read etc. but the sat nav is useful for traffic, if there's a road closure or diversion I wasn't expecting etc

It doesn't have to take away from your skill set. It's just an additional support tool. There's a route I do regularly between home and my family, it's a good distance/time driving. I could probably do it in my sleep (never would) but only if there's no issues, which these days is rare. Rather than having to try and find an alternative route on a map, which may also be experiencing issues I can't see, the satnav has the ability to reroute me and if I decide I don't like this route I use signs and a map to decide for myself.

They don't just make us all sheep doing as we're told (although there is some people who follow blindly and they scare me). They can just add to your support tools.

And you're never to old to use something helpful.

OP has told us she had a dodgy app. So what makes you different to OP? Why is she stupid and incompetent?

OP has told us she had a dodgy app. So what makes you different to OP? Why is she stupid and incompetent?

If I was given dodgy tools I'd raise it as an issue before it got to the point it was my fault.

Because I take accountability for things that are my responsibility.

However, can you REALLY compare a job someone does professionally to a relationship?

I meant it annoys me when he puts it on when we're going somewhere we've been before. It absolutely is a useful tool.

So you never make mistakes? Because by your logic every time you make a mistake at work, your colleagues should call you stupid and incompetent to your face.

Could do with your opinion. FWIW I am happy to be told AIBU. Im just trying to make sure I dont ignore anything important.

I was driving down the motorway with my boyfriend of 3 months. He was driving and I was supposed to be giving directions. We were talking and then he asked whether he should be taking the exit and I kind of hesitated for a few seconds as wasn't sure abd then said yes. He tutted and said for fucks sake and then quickly switched lames to exit

Now totally get why that would be irritating 😅 Its just that I was with my ex for 10 years and for all his faults, I dont think we ever snapped at each other once. We had massive bust ups about the big questions but irritating things like this we were both very generous with each other so im not sure what's normal. But I felt like a child being reprimanded and felt like saying "jesus get over it"

I meant it annoys me when he puts it on when we're going somewhere we've been before. It absolutely is a useful tool.

I can read signs, map read etc. but the sat nav is useful for traffic, if there's a road closure or diversion I wasn't expecting etc

It doesn't have to take away from your skill set. It's just an additional support tool. There's a route I do regularly between home and my family, it's a good distance/time driving. I could probably do it in my sleep (never would) but only if there's no issues, which these days is rare. Rather than having to try and find an alternative route on a map, which may also be experiencing issues I can't see, the satnav has the ability to reroute me and if I decide I don't like this route I use signs and a map to decide for myself.

They don't just make us all sheep doing as we're told (although there is some people who follow blindly and they scare me). They can just add to your support tools.

And you're never to old to use something helpful.

Meaning an otherwise lovely longterm established partner tutting FFS after I gave tardy instructions on a long drive? Not a big deal.

A boyfriend of 3 months who I am still getting to know and who is presumably still trying to manage his brand image somewhat?

Yeah that gives me pause for thought and im going to do a quick temperature check with other women via MN, if thats okay with you FishFingerSandwichs

I totally agree with you

If you’re a nervous driver, you should use a sat nav.

Even given dodgy tools?

Oh I should add:
It was a 12 hour drive and when we got home he said "im sorry, I think i was harsh back there" and I said "i understand, it could have been dangerous" but now I regret not making a point

One mistake, no. Multiple over the course of a project that made it much harder, yeah I'd expect them to tell me I was rubbish.

So you never make mistakes? Because by your logic every time you make a mistake at work, your colleagues should call you stupid and incompetent to your face.

I am a nervous driver going to new locations and there is nothing worse than someone who gives wrong directions off a roundabout then fails to tell in a reasonable time that they are exiting the motorway so i would also be very frustrated and say FFS. He has apologised I would let this go and see for future reactions

Absolutely. That reminds me of the first time I used a sat nav. Son was visiting a friend in the middle of an estate so dd put it in her sat nav it was brilliant until it came to going back home. I knew the way but couldn't shut it up and had to take the battery out 😂 I don't do well being told what to do.

pray tell.. what exactly is misogynistic about calling a woman stupid and incompetent, when they were being check notes stupid and incompetent?

A man would also be called stupid and incompetent in a similar situation.

Gender related prejudice has zero bearings on it.