New boyfriend snapped at me

You were chatting and not on top of the directions - after you'd already added half an hour to the journey with a mistake? I'd let this go, but it's not too late to say you want to be clear that's not the way you expect to be spoken to in the future.

What was new boyfriends reaction to the 30 minute detour due to your misdirection ? You are a poor navigator. You should be offering him an apology and admitting you hadnt been the best navigator. Its hard to drive navigate and maintain safety for 2 people all at the same time. Cut the poor bloke some slack for driving you about for 12 hours solid.

FFS. What a princess.

So how long do you have had to have known him for it to NOT be too early to get frustrated at a very frustrating situation when someone else hasn't been concentrating enough to have gone wrong twice and extended your 12 hour journey by an extra 30 minutes? Six months? A year? Where's the arbitrary line?

Changing two seat bookings a handful of times is not even remotely the equivalent level of stress to the journey you have described. Plus you could very well have said: "Maybe it would be better for you to book the seats once you've worked out your diary." That's what I would have done.

I don't use Sat Navs and I'm not a shit driver. By that logic, every single driver prior to this technology was a "shit driver". Just ridiculous. Some of us actually spend time preparing and planning out a journey using these things called a map. Then follow these things called road signs during the drive. It's not hard. At least we then don't get distracted by technology and pay attention to the actual road and road signs, like we're all supposed to.

When you're driving and somebody else is navigating, there is nothing more annoying than the other person not knowing exactly where the car is at all times.

@nomas
Maybe after hours of driving he was happy to have the op giving directions?
And you could equally say ‘what kind of shit driver doesn’t share the 12 hour drive’.

I think you are being over sensitive - you have drip fed a lot of details that would justify his reaction - it does not necessarily mean it was focused on you and if it were well things do become irritating - you really weren’t doing a very good job - and he apologised so that’s good

Driving can be stressful especially if you aren’t sure which way you’re going.
I’d let it go this time but if it becomes a habit then it’s a problem

What kind of shit driver doesn’t use his own sat nav or an app on his phone on the dashboard?

Ditch this loser.

I think the problem here is that it's 3 months in. This is the best he is ever going to behave. Most people would be able to contain their annoyance at the 3 month mark, because you are still being your 'best self' to impress your potential partner.

It's good he apologised, but I'd be wary.

Tell us you’re single without telling us you’re single…

If you miss the exit on a motorway, it can take forever to correct the mistake plus it is horrible to have to change lanes quickly as it is dangerous, so I get why he snapped. However he should be in the first flush of love/lust. It does suggest he might be starting to find you a bit irritating.

It was probably about 2 hours before OP starting giving directions 😂😂

Not all cars come with them, and some haven't got anywhere to safely put a phone to use that one.

@Snappyg666 You're annoyed because someone said "for fuck's sake"?

OP, you are in for a real shock once you finally get a job and find out how people, and managers, speak to you in the workplace. It's a hell of a lot worse than that.

A man without a SatNav is worrisome in this day & age.

A 12 hour drive and you added 30 mins to it? The man is a fucking saint

12 hours! Lands End to John O'Groats is a 14 hour drive

Just use the satnav next time.

I'd have pulled over, made DH drive instead and had a nap 😂

Neither of us let's the other navigate unless we've gotten somewhere a bit confusing or the satnavs lost signal because it results in bickering. Driving long distances is tiring, it can be stressful depending on the traffic/weather conditions etc. and a bad navigator just makes it harder.

Btw a lot of women on here give me the ick acting like they are constantly right.
Clairs law - just because he muttered the F word.
He snapped at me could be a sign of abuse.
Honestly its all getting stupid.
On a different thread someone thinks its rude to have the word weird said.

Stop the planet and let me get the fuck off.

Edited to add a grown woman using the word ewww is ick your not 4.

He should have thanked you for not phoning the police to tell them you were trapped in such a hostile environment. Have you contacted his exes? It may be worth finding out if he has form for this. It may also be worth letting him know you’re incredibly sensitive to the word fuc….oh I can’t even bring myself to type it. What a wicked brute.