New boyfriend snapped at me

you did a really bad job

Ok, Stig!

Everyone makes mistakes. It’s not easy giving directions for 12 hours.

I would much prefer to drive rather than give directions.

I’d have snapped at you if you’d kept cocking up the navigation so much.

Exactly... insane over reaction much?

You drive next time, OP. Let's see you do a 12-hour shift without any stress.

You are being defensive OP

you did a really bad job and he was frustrated

car journeys are definitely not the right place to decide boundaries of your relationship

I would have definitely swore at the situation - having to change lanes on motorway to get to exit is really dangerous

Look, if I was doing a 12 hour drive and had already had an extra 30 mins added because my passenger gave me the wrong directions, and then didn't direct me when asked I think I might have said a lot more than he did.

Also, he didn't sulk and did apologise...I think you are being a bit precious.

I would hate this too, OP. Of course people will sometimes get annoyed or frustrated with each other, but I would want my partner to show patience and kindness towards me, and vice versa. You were doing your best and so should he.

Having said that, he did apologise, so he maybe knows he was in the wrong. I think I would make it crystal clear that snapping and nastiness is not something I want or tolerate in my relationships, and so if that's something he thinks is okay, maybe we're not a good match. It doesn't matter that you've already spoken on this - it's okay to bring the topic up again. Tell him it's been playing on your mind and you want to clear things up.

Other people on here can tell you it's fine and that they and their partners speak to each other that way often. I can tell you the research shows that partners showing contempt to one another is virtually a guarantee that the relationship won't last. But more importantly, you have your own standards of behaviour and don't have to lower them just because pp on here do.

He didn’t snap at you ffs. He muttered his annoyance at your mistake (one of many it seems) and later apologised. You sound like incredibly hard work.

I always want the person navigating to give clear indications of what is coming up. I may well be able to see the signs etc, but there is a lot to concentrate on when you're driving, so if someone has agreed to navigate, it takes some of the stress off. Having to make a quick lane change on a motorway is not ideal.

If I have a navigator, I do expect clear warnings. It's not difficult. I, too, would have muttered FFS, especially as it wasn't the first wrong direction you'd given him.

He was in the middle of a stressful drive, you weren't. He sounds like a nice guy for apologising, because, tbh, his annoyance with you was totally justified.

People have asked repeatedly - no answer.

Jesus christ, I wonder how both you and most of the respondees on her actually manage yo get through life if you create so much drama over such a non event.... and if you clearly can't cope with someone getting mildly irritated or slightly snapping.
God help you all in your lives

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They walk amongst us.

Get help.

After 12 weekends together? Hell no. Red flag.

Perhaps after 12 years and two kids together (and in the thick of life) it may be more understandable as life is stressful but the early months should be bliss! You should be wanting to please each other, be extra kind.

If that’s how he speaks to you now. What’s it going to be like once the honeymoon phase goes?

I would have answered with an “excuse me? Do that again and you can make your trips solo from now on”.

OP - if you’re getting bad vibes, end it. A wasted 12 weeks is better than getting too deep in and realising after a year that you’re with a nasty bully.

You were navigating. You should be the one watching where you are not him, he's concentrating on everything else that driving requires - and for over 12 hours.

And you could have driven to give him a break

For fucks sake, let the poor man go and find someone lovely to date.

You don't deserve him

Then after hours of driving, use a sat nav.

And why not ask OP why she didn’t drive.

And would that have gone down ok with you or would you then have been sniffy/sulky with him at the perceived notion that you're a crap navigator? Because you do seem touchier than the average bear.

I would keep an eye on that. DH is a “snapper” over little things and I fucking hate it. Puts me right on edge. I used to be quite submissive about it but perimenopause and twenty five years of tutting, sighing and fucksaking has given me a real low tolerance for it and I really bite back which funnily enough seems to shut him up quite quickly. Should have told him to shut the fuck up years ago.

So either prepare beforehand with a map, or use a sat nav, or app. Don’t start ‘for fuck’s sakes’ ing the passenger.

Are you like this man, relying on others instead of technology?