New boyfriend snapped at me

Look, if you insist that this was a gravely disturbing bit of behaviour, then by all means bin him!
You are clearly not of a mind to allow for regretted outbursts (even very minor, non-personal ones) under any circs, so you may as well LTB and rub your hands together in satisfaction.

Wow there you go then! You did a bad job at directing him. He was driving for 12 hours. He swore.. not at you, he didn’t call you a fuck wit! He then said sorry!
You are massively over reacting!

I don't really argue at all with my husband but in the car when someone is supposed to be giving directions is probably the one time we might get snappy. You should have already said surely 'its off at the next junction' so the fact he had to ask and even then you weren't sure is annoying!
He's already apologised anyway, so I honestly wouldn't think any more about it. Maybe just use the sat nav next time!

I’m a bit on the fence, as we’re all only human, and I can imagine snapping at someone towards the end of a long stressful journey.

But then, it can’t have been nice from your pov either.

I do think satnavs save a lot of stress and hassle!

I think this is a red flag, 3 months in. It’s how my DH would respond to me now but we’ve got a foundation of 10 years of marriage and nearly 20 together now. If he’d done that 3 months in I would have been rattled. You’re meant to be on best behaviour at that stage!

You can end a relationship for any reason you like, of course.

Personally I'd also have been annoyed at you for giving wrong directions and then not giving any directions when you'd agreed to navigate.

The drip feed on here was a little irritating too tbh.

The driver is ultimately responsible, male or female. If he ran a red light or speeded or did an illegal turn, HE would be legally responsible as the driver, not the OP.

Navigating in a car is a very common reason for couples to argue. Don’t judge him just on this but be aware for other instances

Really. How can any couple get through life without snapping at each other. My husband and I will both occasionally snap. It is what it is. We always make up and accept that it is part of being a human!

Why didn't he just use a sat nav!

As he said sorry I think I’d move past this. I’m with you though OP - as they say ‘Love is patient, love is kind’ except after a 12 hour journey

SHE should have been prepared as the navigator. if this was the other way round I bet you'd still blame the boyfriend.

People are not robots, people make navigation mistakes.

Are you always perfect?

Why don’t you ask OP about the journey instead of making assumptions.

If you agree to navigate you agree to navigate. Not agree to navigate and make mistakes constantly. Why should he plan the journey and drive? Not exactly sharing the load is it?

Or be sworn at by a new boyfriend?

What are you on about? Use your noggin, read the rules.

Key Rules for Using a Sat Nav (Phone or Dedicated Unit):

• Mount it Securely: Use a dedicated mount or cradle to ensure the device is not held in your hand.
• Positioning: Place the device where it does not block your view of the road or traffic ahead (outside the windscreen wiper sweep is ideal).
• Set Before Driving: Program your destination, route, and settings before you start your journey.
• Hands-Free Only: If you need to adjust the route, pull over to a safe place and stop the engine first.
• No Touching While Moving: Interacting with the screen—even just a tap to accept a route change—while moving is illegal.
• Stopped in Traffic: The law applies when stopped at traffic lights or queuing.

Nonsense, hands free is perfectly legal. Isn't this what most people use?

I'm guessing you aren't a driver! All navigation is done on the phone these days - the phone is on a holder. Perfectly legal.

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As the driver of your car, you should NOT be using your phone, it's against the law.

The fact he said he was a "bit harsh" means he was swearing at you personally for making a mistake, which yeah, would really put me off a person. But I was in an abusive relationship in the past, and I'm a pretty gentle, easygoing person, so I'm very sensitive to being made to feel stupid or inferior.

I think it's about compatibility really. It doesn't matter what other people think, because ultimately, you are the one in the relationship, so you are the one who needs to feel happy and safe with this person, you know?

In my opinion, you're not being too sensitive. There are people who would have laughed off a missed turning. There are guys who who have just said "lol you donut" and carried on driving. He's not one of those guys, apparently. Doesn't mean he's abusive or bad as a person - you'd really have to know him longer and see more of his behaviour to see whether you think you're compatible long term, I think?

He did apologise afterwards, but I don't know. Sometimes apologies can be a good sign, and sometimes people just apologise without ever really meaning it or changing their behaviour. So if you like him, just make sure he knows that you don't like being sworn at when you make a genuine mistake; and if you're not sure on him, well, don't force it :)

Possibly because he knew she was a bit upset.
He sounds OK to me, but then I am not in the OP's shoes, maybe there have been other signs and this is just one more to add.
As a stand-alone incident, it sounds very petty to me.

Yes, this. He didn’t swear at you, shout at you, call you a name, or tell you off in any way whatsoever. He was mildly irritated at a stressful driving situation. Hardly the end of the world. He didn’t ‘snap at you’. He was swerving from one lane to the other and it was stressful.

why not suggest that for the next journey, he sets up sat nav. Everyone has a mobile phone these days ?

Your being silly now