New boyfriend snapped at me

He should have had his eyes on the road. The responsibility is on him, he's the driver

Sounds as if your previous relationship was unusually polite and gracious. Many people would have cursed under their breath if their instruction to turn off the road came almost too late. He apologised later so it sounds as if he's willing to admit to occasional bad temper.

This was such a non-incident.. i don't think it was worth 200+ posts of naval gazing about a tut and a FFS that he apologised for.

It’s what you are willing to put up with. I wouldn’t put up with that as find it very disrespectful (respect is massive to me) imagine 10 years down the line and your in the same situation. So would he speak like that to you I front of your kids? Would you want your son to speak like that to their girlfriend or wife? His showing you who you with, what you do with that is up to you. Different strokes for different folks.

You were supposed to be directing. He was a bit annoyed you weren't. You didnt like being told off even when you were in the wrong. Doesnt sound like you are suited.

I have given wrong instructions to the driver precisely because the satnav looks confusing and I only realised it meant the first turn as we drove past. I definitely prefer to navigate myself when I'm driving and let the other driver use satnav or whatever method they prefer. Luckily the odd detour doesn't bother us too much.

I think we all have our own attitudes to what’s acceptable. I would hate being spoken to like that however long we’d been together. Don’t doubt yourself. It wasn’t a huge mistake you were just double checking.

Things not great because he swore after being with her for 3 months? Sounds awful please leave this mad man.

If there are things that are not great three months in, then it’s more than reasonable to think about whether you want to continue longer term.

We’re hardly talking about ending a 25 year marriage here 😊

In fact, we could say the opposite, that long-term relationships are more likely to be the successful ones, if people make wiser choices early on.

For sure. It doesn't feel like real life sometimes what I read on here tbh.. People get irritated by others, nobody is perfect 100% of the time. As long as it's not the norm, it's just one of those things surely? Tbh, I would probably have snapped too at the OP in this situation.

So he’d been driving for 12 hours and nearly missed a junction ? I think muttering fucks sake at the situation is understandable. It sounds like he was fine afterwards and I don’t think i would’ve given it another thought. No one can be angelically perfect all the time .

This.

I have no sense of direction. Its a real issue, and one I am quite frank with people about it as it can cause me and other people issues. I think it is a borderline learning disability, like dyscalculia or dyslexia, but seeing as you don't need to find your way around independently as a child it isn't relevant to the education system and doesn't get picked up.

There are people on this thread acting as though the OP has committed some grave sin and moral failing for not being 100% on the ball when approaching a motorway exit. Its not ideal, but it is a rectifiable inconvenience caused by human fallibility, not something she needs to be piled on for.

Basically, you need a SatNav. The world is going to hell in a handcart, but this is something that technology has easily enabled and you should use it. You can get phone holders so you can follow Google Maps on your phone, that attach to your dashboard, windscreen quite cheaply if a Sat Nav is a bit of an outlay.

FWIW I think the OP's boyfriend was stressed at the situation, and the fact he brought it up afterwards suggests he realised he realises he behaved a bit out of character. The OP did well to refer to the situation as the problem, rather than insist it was necessarily a relational one.

Christ. No wonder relationships don't last these days... literally making something of nothing.

Fucking hell you sound precious and incredibly hard work. I’d also snap in that situation (as would most people!) and I wouldn’t take kindly to someone lecturing me about it - in fact I’d probably be dumping them! Expressing irritation is a very normal behaviour! A red flag would be if he continued to sulk or be unpleasant but he in fact did the absolute opposite. It’s clear from this thread that there are people out there who pride themselves on controlling their temper and being zen 100% of the time, I’m definitely not one of them and nor are many people so perhaps you’d be better off dating one of these never-angry superior beings.

Like a robot and not a human 🤦‍♀️

The bar for men on MN is, as ever, in hell.

I’m not suggesting she goes no contact with him? Just to watch out how he speaks to her as she said this relationship is very new.

Also, I never understood why drivers have to have navigators…does he not have a phone or a Garmin? I’m a driver myself and I don’t understand putting the responsibility on the other person to also watch the road with you for 12 hours…but that’s just me.

After Years of being the navigator for my husband I sympathise. Before Sat Nav, the first time on our honeymoon through Germany, we fell out at the roundabout in Dover before the ferry about directions.
He let me struggle with the foreign signs, and town names while trying to find the right page in the map in silence….that’s equally miserable.

After we got to Cologne (with a K) I had quickly learnt German road signs he softened when I stopped him from going down a one way street the wrong way.
He said he was testing me……
We then sat in a bar and planned the route on paper so I knew the junctions well in advance and he had an idea of the direction. We never had problem afterwards.
The invention of SatNav now gives me a little rest, until 5 minutes before the destination and he ‘knows a quicker way!’ I then have to get him out of a mess.

BTW the second we arrived at our destination in Cologne I discovered , not only he knew the route having done it numerous times, but he spoke fluent German!!

Pre plan, have a satnav and I’m sure your journeys will still have the odd blip.

Put it behind you…,…..and perhaps buy him a satnav for Valentine’s Day

God what a knob!
He actually said that to you?

Im staggered daily at the idiots women marry

He sounds rather ok actually. If this was the first time he snapped and had the grace to apologise, excellent. Just keep an eye on if it becomes regular... then rethink.

12 hours driving is flipping hard. It's a long slog and I should imagine you were both very tired.

Well....Im going to have to warn about use of Satnav. I love it as a help but my husband hates to have what he calls some womam telling him directions. Driving with someone is so difficult. OP you do need to improve yoyr navigation skills. Admit it if only to yourself. I often say after a long journey "We are home. Safe and sound" isnt that all that matters ? Then one if us puts the kettle on.

I find bizarre the fault finding on this thread. In life, love snd directing I will make lots of mistakes and still don’t need to be spoken to rudely. I am similarly tolerant of accidents and errors. It’s how people behave under pressure that hints at how they will do with bigger things. I would be clear that you don’t mutter swear words at me again. I might be mindful that some are used to different styles of communication but I would be watchful.