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To think this was rude!!

129 replies

Whatsmyusername85 · 01/02/2026 13:47

I’m going to keep it short and sweet, I live close to another family member. Said family member had their sister over today, she visits often enough. Sometimes she pops over to say hi, I don’t mind this at all. I love a visitor. So she calls over and I’m offering her a cup of tea. She turns and says “Jesus do you actually live here or what? This place is way too tidy and clean!!” Just laughed and said “well you know me I love being organised etc” she said “no seriously though, like nothing is ever out of place it’s weird!”

AIBU to think this was rude!! I mean think it all you want but there’s no need to say it like that!!

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NewYearNewMee · 01/02/2026 13:54

I’d be thrilled with that, it’s my aim!

She must be just trying to make herself feel better about however she chooses to live at home, potentially it’s messy and she’s just convincing herself you being clean is the weird way 😂

Quinnny · 01/02/2026 13:52

I’d have taken her words as a compliment until she used “weird” which I think reflects badly on her.

SamorDean · 01/02/2026 13:49

It's not weird. I have people judging me because my house isn't like that and my answer is " excuse the mess, we live here" I feel like that when I visit people's houses where it's pristine. Makes me feel a bit inadequate.

pinkyredrose · 01/02/2026 13:49

It's not weird, you need a thicker skin if stuff like this bothers you.