Asking for an apology AIBU

You’re focussing on the wrong thing here.

If this had happened to me I’d be living alone (with my kids if necessary) and doing everything I could to come off all medication if possible, not hyper focusing on social workers.

Everything about this story sounds very concerning, and I agree with others that it sounds like there is a big piece of the picture missing. The OP is very cool about the meds overdose, much much cooler than I would be. I would love to know what's really going on here.

It sounds as though there are much much bigger things at play here; rather than asking for an apology from a professional who is just doing their job.

there are so many questions too… why as an adult do you have a social worker - do you have a disability or mental health condition. That means you are vulnerable or at risk? Given that the social worker has previously visited you at home it clearly wasn’t a result of this hospital visit.

you get trays of drugs from the pharmacist which again suggests the amount/dose of drugs you have cannot be issues more than a week at a time, again suggesting vulnerability.

if pcp can come up as tramadol I’m sure the professionals will know this and either double check or take a more cautious approach - they have not and are sufficiently concerned for your welfare.

i know there are some bad’ums around but quite frankly most professional won’t want to make their lives harder by making these things up. They have cause for concern, they can probably evidence it and it’s unlikely that an apology will be forthcoming. You’ve made the complaint and they will investigate.

whilst there absolutely should be accountability, this sort of shite is why people don’t want to go into these professions any more. And then you’ll complain that you are getting the support you ‘deserve’.

Well quite. So the question has to be how?

would he benefit in any way from your death?

It's pretty clear she had overdosed though, isn't it? Not from her own legitimate supply, but from somewhere.

I think you should be thanking them rather than asking for an apology.

But OP is adamant that she didn’t take an overdose ( one that put her into respiratory arrest) of her tramadol?

PCP I have now read is a dissociative anaesthetic drug. OP certainly sounds dissociated with this whole situation.

@MyLimeRaven none of the professionals you have mentioned could have anything other than your best interests at heart, is it not worth considering they might be correct?

This is true, but the OP must have taken a significant overdose of tramadol to have depressed her breathing enough to cause an arrest.

That means that she's ingested a lot more than the contents of the dosette box. Tramadol are easy to get on the streets all over Scotland (and everywhere).

It does sound like the BF has managed to give the OP some extra tramadol.

Since my stroke I'm on a handful of tablets & hate the weekly task of putting them in the weekly/daily organiser as I struggle getting them out of the packaging.(even with a pill popper thing & a small knife).

However, I don't trust a service to do it for me & as the pills vary in size/shape & colour frequently it's impossible to know if they're the right pills or not - so your relative was lucky, but you can't rely on them looking the same.

i get a months supply at a time and there is never a month where the tablets are the same as the previous month, at least 2 will be different.

A quick Google will confirm that tramadol overdose will often test positive as PCP. It's very likely the PCP is a complete red herring.

The PCP could be a red herring as there are prescribed and over the counter medications that will give a PCP false positive. But it would mean you must also be prescribed those medications or bought them OTC and taken them
the concern is you have somehow taken enough to overdose which you are maintaining is not intentional and if so you have ingested them in another way, which is what your SW is concerned about.
They are right to be concerned and I wouldn't apologise for doing my job

Someone else has told the police he's trying to kill you.

You've taken an overdose of drugs which are easily obtainable in most towns, which you didn't have in your possession.

Two sets of professionals have told you that your life is in danger.

You won't even look at the possibility that might be true.

If I believed in God I'd be praying for you OP.

Sounds like it, certainly. A GP will mandate weekly, even daily, dispensing of meds like these (usually given in monthly instalments) if she fears or suspects misuse of any kind.

My the time this conversation was over my partner had left as he knew from the look that something had been said against him.

Don't you think this odd behaviour OP?

Clearly there's stuff you're not telling us and until we know what it is, there's not much we can say except: don't you want to know how you got such a massive overdose and how to ensure you don't get another?

Very good point

I get a month’s supply at a time, in 4 boxes.

Whilst there is obviously a lot of background missing the fact that @MyLimeRavenuses a dosette box system for her meds isn't cause for any concern. A lot of people use them for convenience, especially if they have a number of meds that need to be taken at different times during the day. Having a 7 day dosette isn't particularly unusual either, especially given the diazepam etc, it allows swift changes in dosage if the GP deems it necessary.

Do you feel able to talk about your situation in more depth @MyLimeRaven? We are all concerned for you and trying to help...

Yes. But as PPs have said, to only be supplied with a weekly supply, rather than monthly, shows that something else is going on here.

Why do you have a social worker?

Obviously none of us know you or your partner but from the outside I can certainly understand your social workers concerns

Sorry OP but your story doesn't stack up. Something untoward has happened to put you in hospital, having had to be given CPR. You really need to think hard about what could have happened, not put complaints in about a person who is doing their job. And possibly saving you from worse than a stay in hospital.

You can't explain the overdose and don't seem to be very focussed on getting an explanation. Something is not right at all here. But in answer to your question - there should not be an apology, no, and it's frankly mind boggling that you even ask. They have done nothing wrong. You need to get to the bottom of this, just as they were trying to do. For your own sake.

I suspect you are already classed as vulnerable OP, as you have a social worker and weekly dosette boxes. I appreciate you feel the social worker was rude, but it sounds like they have very real concerns for you. Please take this seriously and keep yourself safe.

You do know PCP is a class "A" drug and therefore highly illegal?
I think you have your suspicions but won't face them.
Some are saying it could be a mix up at the pharmacy (highly unlikely) so have you returned your meds to them for analysis? I find it very difficult to believe a professional pharmacist would accidentally put PCP into prescription meds