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I try knickers on in shops.

206 replies

Nevershoppingagaininjohnlewis · 01/02/2026 11:01

My other thread got derailed by this issue.

I, and the friends I saw last night, all try knickers on in shops. We do this over our pants.

We sometimes buy the knickers. We sometimes don't.

We agreed we don't have money to burn on buying knickers that don't fit or don't look lovely or cut your bum up. We try them on as most shops don't allow you to return them for a refund. (Although you can return online)

To clarify from my other thread, the JL shop assistant told me to try on the matching knickers to a bra I was purchasing, as she didn't want me to waste my money.

AWBU in trying knickers on in shops and sometimes returning them to the rail?

(And yes, this is one of those threads where my behaviour will not change as a result of your opinions)

OP posts:
Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 11:36

trousers aren’t up in your crack like knickers. I’ve never tried on or worn a pair of leggings in my life.

FourSevenTwo · 01/02/2026 11:35

I wash pants and Tshirts before wearing because of the residual chemicals, not because someone might have tried them

I belive shops should have some unpacked trying on pieces - especially if they sell several different colours of the same model, they can just have an example dor each cut and size.

UncannyFanny · 01/02/2026 11:35

So let’s go a little further here. When exactly are you and your friends all doing this? Obviously there is a certain time of the month where you already know that even over your pants that’s a bit gross especially if you’re going to put them back for someone else to take home and wear. Personally I wouldn’t want to pay full price for knickers someone else has already opened then tried on over their own pants regardless when they did it because they will now be second hand and no longer unworn.

NuffSaidSam · 01/02/2026 11:35

Damnd · 01/02/2026 11:29

No this is grotty and can't believe people think this okay, discharge can leak through knickers, smells can transfer. Pls don't do this

How do you approach buying leggings or trousers? You know other people will have tried those on and they'll have touched their dischargy knickers too? Are you skirts only? Make all your own clothes?

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 11:34

TittyGajillions · 01/02/2026 11:32

I'm assuming you didn't catch it from buying knickers that the op had previously tried on 🤷‍♀️

I have no idea where I caught it from. I’ve had it all my adult life.

im gonna start trying on knickers over my pants. It’s fine sure so it is.

🙄🙄🙄

GETTINGLIKEMYMOTHER · 01/02/2026 11:33

HashtagShitShop · 01/02/2026 11:08

I get it's not great and not hygienic, even tried on over pants, but also surely people wash them before wearing them anyway?

I don’t wash new knickers before wearing them. But they’re usually packaged, or else 3 on one of those M&S hangers, with thin plastic threads holding them together, so nobody could ever have tried them on.

I dare say some dreaded Pervy Bloke might have heavy-breathed on them though…😱😂

ChequerToRed · 01/02/2026 11:32

KimberleyClark · 01/02/2026 11:28

And have a wide enough gusset. I remember buying a matching underwear set from Next and the knickers were wretched scratchy little scraps of material with a 1.5 inch wide gusset. They looked ok on the hanger.

Oh, that’s bad. Who needs a poorly designed skivvies that don’t keep your flaps in?
I did have the opposite problem once, bought a three pack that had gussets like hammocks.

BlueJuniper94 · 01/02/2026 11:32

KimberleyClark · 01/02/2026 11:03

Would you be happy to buy a pair of knickers that someone else had tried on over their pants?

Surely safe to presume so?

NuffSaidSam · 01/02/2026 11:32

As long as it's over the top of your pants I don't think it's any different to trying on swimwear. Crack on.

TittyGajillions · 01/02/2026 11:32

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 11:31

I have recurrent thrush. I have had 3 doses of the 6 month course of fluconazole.

wanna take the risk of getting mine?

I'm assuming you didn't catch it from buying knickers that the op had previously tried on 🤷‍♀️

Fodencat · 01/02/2026 11:32

Coffeeishot · 01/02/2026 11:04

You seem overly keen to share your pant behaviour, couldn't you have not said this on your man outside changing room thread, i don't know anybody who tries on pants i buy them and wear them

Same. Order online from M and S. I know what suits me and fits me. I’ve never heard of anyone trying on knickers in shops

OttersMayHaveShifted · 01/02/2026 11:32

KimberleyClark · 01/02/2026 11:03

Would you be happy to buy a pair of knickers that someone else had tried on over their pants?

I mean... I don't try knickers on, but tbf people presumably try trousers and leggings on over their pants!

StrawberryJamAndRaspberryPie · 01/02/2026 11:31

KimberleyClark · 01/02/2026 11:03

Would you be happy to buy a pair of knickers that someone else had tried on over their pants?

Yes… why wouldn’t she? People try all the other clothes on over their pants too. That’s how clothes work.

People on MN are so weird sometimes.

SwingTheMonkey · 01/02/2026 11:31

Presumably people wouldn’t try on a form fitting garment like leggings, either then?

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 11:31

TittyGajillions · 01/02/2026 11:30

Why assume they have thrush, what a weird thing to say. Just because MN thinks everything under the sun causes thrush doesn't mean it's true!

I have recurrent thrush. I have had 3 doses of the 6 month course of fluconazole.

wanna take the risk of getting mine?

pizzaHeart · 01/02/2026 11:30

Itiswhysofew · 01/02/2026 11:07

Hearing that, I'm so glad I buy pants in the plastic packs.

it’s easily to open plastic pack, take out one pair and then put it back, you just need to fold them in a certain way. I can do it easily.
Just saying.
I never thought if you are allowed to try on knickers or not. I don’t buy expensive ones so maybe the rules are different for them but I always wash knickers (and other things) after buying in case someone tried them on or they were on the floor etc.

CharlotteStreetW1 · 01/02/2026 11:30

...most shops don't allow you to return them for a refund.

There's a good reason for that don't you think?

TittyGajillions · 01/02/2026 11:30

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 11:24

That is actually disgusting. I don’t want your thrush thanks.

Why assume they have thrush, what a weird thing to say. Just because MN thinks everything under the sun causes thrush doesn't mean it's true!

Overtheatlantic · 01/02/2026 11:29

If I did, and to be clear I don’t, I wouldn’t tell anyone. Because I have a healthy sense of shame when I do things I shouldn’t do.

Damnd · 01/02/2026 11:29

No this is grotty and can't believe people think this okay, discharge can leak through knickers, smells can transfer. Pls don't do this

BeefAndHorseradishSandwich · 01/02/2026 11:28

That’s gross. You seem keen to talk about pants so I call bullshit anyway.

KimberleyClark · 01/02/2026 11:28

ChequerToRed · 01/02/2026 11:25

I’m a big fan of practical grundies. As long as they wash well, aren’t scratchy (no lace!) and keep everything in, I’m all good.

And have a wide enough gusset. I remember buying a matching underwear set from Next and the knickers were wretched scratchy little scraps of material with a 1.5 inch wide gusset. They looked ok on the hanger.

fndshalom · 01/02/2026 11:27

Of course you do

AlcoholicAntibiotic · 01/02/2026 11:27

busyd4y · 01/02/2026 11:21

This intrigues me, how do you know the knicker buying habits of everyone you know?

Is it a question you ask your co workers, family, friends? Dont they think you're a bit of a weirdo? 😂

Yes, I was wondering this.

I can’t say I know whether any of my friends, family or random acquaintances try on pants before buying.

I’m with the others that say they’ll stick to packaged pants from now on!

MTOandMe · 01/02/2026 11:26

I buy the packet ones if I’m getting them form a shop, those are for every day! If I’m getting nice things I only only order from Pour Moi and Figleaves online anyway so I just get my usual size! I’ll be honest, I’d wash knickers that were bought off hanger anyway so I wouldn’t be arsed if anyone had tried them on in the shop.