To worry this will end up with social services involved

Yeah, him saying 'I'm not waiting here all night..' doesn't sound like he's thinking about DC, it sounds like he wants to get back to whatever he was doing and it's a big inconvenience for him.

If he was really concerned he'd be saying 'please tell me how much longer, I'm really worried he might be concussed etc..'

So he didn't give a very good impression.

Hours*

I wouldn't worry about it. Questions will be asked but it won't come to anything. His behaviour is the same as most dads who have no patience and finding sitting in a hospital for house a waste of time. Whereas most mums would wait for a week of they had to just to make sure their baby is ok. Honestly, you can stop stressing.

You can advocate for your child without being a twat.

I dont think being rude to staff helps anything and ive said that to him. He thinks people on here are being unfair and that he was advocating for DS.

You can advocate without snapping and being stroppy. He had no idea who was there for what and who needed to be seen as a higher priority.

If all men are beyond useless at looking after children, it was extremely negligent of you to leave one in charge of your children. Why were you so careless?

I remember taking my then-13-month-old to A&E in grubby pyjamas covered in breakfast, with a massive bruise and graze all down her face from where she had fallen the day before, headlong, first time walking in her new shoes up her grandparents' drive. The reason we were there was because her dad had accidentally dislocated one of her elbows playing Row Row Row Your Boat and we didn't know what else to do!

It must have looked awful, and they did ask a few general questions, but nothing further happened. I think you'll be ok. Even if SS did get involved, if there's nothing there, there's nothing there.

She's 11 now and thankfully appears to survived our less than optimal parenting unscathed, despite her dad also accidentally bashing her eye into a car door when she was in a baby backpack, the pair of us losing grip on her during a game of 1, 2, 3, Whee and hurling her into a muddy puddle ... and don't get me started on her younger sister. Garden, raised decking, flagstones and a crawling baby spring to mind. 😒

Accidents happen. It's ok.

no Red flags for me. Unless there is a history of DV? History of social services? But from what you’ve said here partner has acted appropriately.. got a little frustrated with worry.. you will
be fine

It’s standard practice for the Health Visitor to phone you as a follow up to any trip to A&E with a small child so of that happens some feel singled out or anxious about it.

I think this is unlikely to make it to the social care front door. If it happened on a week day you should know if social care will be involved by now - you have to be informed by the medical staff that a referral is being made to social care, unless doing so puts a child at further risk of immediate harm, and in that case, the emergency duty team for your Local Authority (who you pay council tax to) would have made contact. It sounds like you are worried about your partners behaviour. Is there more going on here?

No ‘anyone’ does not get snappy in a&e. It’s not ok to treat healthcare staff like shit.

Everyone wants their child to be seen asap, but it’s not ok to shout at staff.

We wouldn’t do a referral for a bumped head unless we were concerned about the story, it doesn’t add up or match, or the injury doesn’t match what happened. You’re more likely to get a referral for Dad’s behaviour. Depending on how he was. Or he would be asked to leave.

The accident could just be an accident. It happened to me, my son bumped his head and needed it glueing back together.

But I was polite and nice to the medics. The rudeness to staff is awful; I would be so embarrassed.

Why are you pussyfooting around speaking clearly about/around your husband? You sound almost scared to speak the truth on his behaviour, which actually explains your extreme anxiety. Sometimes anxiety is misdirected and exacerbated by smaller situations. In this case, your fear of your husband kicking off, is making everything else compounded.

I see so many women on here with such low standards and self-respect, raising their tolerance to put up with cowardly males who have 0 respect for them and have 0 grasp on appropriate behaviour as a man. If you're too scared to put your husband right and pull him up on his behaviour, then you need to have a long think....and so does he

It’s possible SS may follow up, but if you have nothing to worry about and all in order at home then I wouldn’t worry about it. My 10 month old fell and hit his eyebrow on the edge of a coffee table, I took him in they glued it and there was no follow up, however it was mentioned at the 1 year health visitor check so it had obviously been passed on to them. Your partner is an arse for being like that to the staff though, I would be pissed off if mine acted like that in a children’s a&e department.

Your DH took him to hospital which was the correct thing to do, he is his parent so it doesn’t matter if you were there or not, I don’t know why this is bothering you. It sounds like he was being a bit of a dick regarding the wait time, but they will probably have experienced far, far worse and in itself is not an indication of being an unfit parent. There would have to be more safeguarding issues surely for them to involve SS.

Don't worry. If SS do become invloved they just want what is safest and best for your child.
The outcome will likely be what's best for your child.

Even if they dislike the aggressive behaviour of your husband, the outcome will be what is best for your child - husband does anger management training etc.

Under a certain age its standard for the HV to be informed, we’ve been a few times, one was when I hit our toddler on the head with a radiator. Its standard and nothing to be worriee about. Aggressive verbal behaviour however isn’t normal and really isn’t acceptable.

It might be flagged and you might get a SS visit, as long as there is no red flags and the baby is being cared for by the parents, it’ll be cased closed.
i know a friend years ago got angry and left due to the long wait. They called the next day, saw the child was warm fed and her head had been cleaned and bandaged by mam, that was the end of the visit.
Do you have concerns about your partner’s behaviour otherwise?

Not ok for him to have been rude but the staff will absolutely understand that parents in A&E are going to be stressed and snappy. They won't report to social services for that.

Valid point. I am asking OP to consider why her worry is so high that it has jumped to Social Services, does her gut tell her to be worried?
Either deep down she has concerns about her partner or her anxiety is an issue and maybe she needs some guidance/support.
I've spent far too many hours in A&E with my kids between their health issues, illness and accidents, but I've never said I wouldn't wait or be rude to the staff. His behaviour was unacceptable. In all the time i have soent in hospital I've only seen one parent behave as OP describes. And if I didn't have doubts about my partner caring for our children before, i would now be mindful now I know he struggles in a crisis. Moving forward if I received that call from him I would possibly change the way I spoke to him- calm him down first so he can support our child in the best way possible (not saying OP didn't do that).

I'd be more worried about your child growing up with an angry father.

Truthfully and honestly if your partner can be abrupt and loud with the staff and was very defensive what is to say that he didn't do anything to the child now I'm not blaming him but the way you're saying it you also have that thought in your head too. Social services may get involved if the hospital said that your babies dad was abrupt and loud even if they do they can't just take that child away unless he is in great great danger I'm not going to say try not to think too much about it because clearly you're a mother and that's what we. The social services may want to do a follow-up and come out and see your baby's dad and the baby together

It's absolutely normal to get a follow up call after a visit to A&E with a small child. I had that twice (and the accidents happened under my watch) and it was no biggy either time.

I’ve been to A&E with quite a few injuries with both my children. I even had to call the police when my abusive ex partner came to my house and was being abusive with my children there. I’ve never once had a call from social services. Never even a follow up. However, a few mums I know have had a call but that was it.

I fell down the stairs carrying my dd when she was 11 months and not walking. She broke her leg. I was convinced SS would be on my case. The nurse practitioner that plastered her leg said that I might get a call but it was unlikely as he had written in her notes that she had no other bruising and was a happy, healthy looking child. She was up to date on her jabs, all developmental check ups had been attended, she was a good weight and generally appeared to be thriving.
I never did get a call but would have been open to it if it had happened as I had nothing to hide.