To worry this will end up with social services involved

Im going to answer honestly because its anonymous and thats why I posted. He is DS dad yes. No diagnosed anger issues or anything like that but he can be snappy and defensive when stressed and doesnt always think before he speaks. Hes not violent. Hes never hurt DS. I want to be clear on that because some replies feel like they are reading a lot into it. But yes he does get impatient and that is something we argue about.

He was watching DS. He wasnt on his phone or out the room or anything like that. He was literally right there and DS tripped. It happened really fast. I know people are saying why wouldnt he wait all night and I get that but what he meant (badly worded I know) was that if they were going to say its fine then he didnt want DS sat there for hours overtired and distressed. He wasnt saying hed leave him untreated. I wasnt there so I cant fully explain it and thats part of why im spiralling.

I dont think being rude to staff helps anything and ive said that to him. He thinks people on here are being unfair and that he was advocating for DS. I can see both sides but I also cringe thinking about how it looked. Thats where my worry is coming from. Not that DS fell because kids do fall. Its the whole picture together and me not being there.

To the social services stuff. I think reading replies has helped a bit. I didnt know HVs sometimes get notified anyway so if that happens I will deal with it. Theres nothing to hide. House is fine. DS is happy and loved. I think a lot of this is guilt because I wasnt there and now I cant stop imagining worst case scenarios. I know that sounds dramatic.

Im not ignoring the comments about his behaviour. I am taking that on board. But I also dont think this is some huge dark thing. It was a stressful situation handled badly. Im asking if im being unreasonable worrying this much about SS specifically. Im not saying hes perfect. Im saying im scared and overtired and probably catastrophising.

We usually are but young kids with croup can go from okay at triage to suddenly struggling to draw breath and unfortunately, sometimes, the staff in a&e will completely ignore you once you’ve been triaged. I was trying to empathise with the OP because no one intends to get short with doctors and nurses but fear for your child makes everything heightened especially if you feel like your concerns are being dismissed.

Sorry but no need to get short you can ask respectfully - you get further that way

I thought when under 5s present at A & E they just informed a health visitor to ring a few day later to check everything is okay.

sorry if this is all over the place its my first post and im really nervous posting on here so please be kind. i didnt sleep much and my head is a mess so apologies in advance.

My DS is 19 months. Yesterday afternoon he bumped his head while with my partner. I wasnt home at the time which is half why I feel so awful about it. From what I was told he tripped and hit it on the corner of the coffee table. There was blood. Not loads like pouring but enough that it was running down his face and soaking a tissue. Partner rang me at 3.42pm and said it wouldnt stop bleeding and DS was screaming so he was taking him to A&E.

They got there about 4ish I think. I met them there later once I could get someone to cover me. By the time I arrived the bleeding had stopped and DS was calmer just very tired and clingy. He had a small cut and a bump but no stitches needed. They cleaned it and said to watch him overnight and sent us home.

This is where my anxiety is coming from and I know how this sounds and maybe im overthinking but my partner apparently had words with the receptionist because he felt they were making him wait too long. He also told the triage nurse he wasnt waiting all night and that it was ridiculous. I didnt see most of this myself but I did see him being quite abrupt when I got there and I could tell staff were frosty. I keep replaying it all and thinking it must look awful. Young child head injury. Mum not there. Dad angry and defensive. I feel sick thinking about it.

I know accidents happen and kids bump their heads all the time and the doctor literally said that. But im now panicking that they will think something else. Or that his behaviour flagged something. Or that because DS is under 2 it automatically gets logged. I cant stop thinking social services are going to get involved and im terrified. I know how dramatic that sounds but im genuinely scared.

Partner says im being ridiculous and that he was just stressed and worried about DS and anyone would be snappy in A&E. I do get that. I also dont want to throw him under the bus because he does love DS and hes normally great. But at the same time I wasnt there and I hate that and I feel like im the one who will get blamed if anything comes of it. I feel guilty for not being there and guilty for even posting this.

Sorry this is long and rambly. I know MN can be blunt so im bracing myself. I just need to know if im being unreasonable worrying this much or if anyone else would be panicking too. Please be honest but gentle if possible.

sorry if this is all over the place its my first post and im really nervous posting on here so please be kind. i didnt sleep much and my head is a mess so apologies in advance.

My DS is 19 months. Yesterday afternoon he bumped his head while with my partner. I wasnt home at the time which is half why I feel so awful about it. From what I was told he tripped and hit it on the corner of the coffee table. There was blood. Not loads like pouring but enough that it was running down his face and soaking a tissue. Partner rang me at 3.42pm and said it wouldnt stop bleeding and DS was screaming so he was taking him to A&E.

They got there about 4ish I think. I met them there later once I could get someone to cover me. By the time I arrived the bleeding had stopped and DS was calmer just very tired and clingy. He had a small cut and a bump but no stitches needed. They cleaned it and said to watch him overnight and sent us home.

This is where my anxiety is coming from and I know how this sounds and maybe im overthinking but my partner apparently had words with the receptionist because he felt they were making him wait too long. He also told the triage nurse he wasnt waiting all night and that it was ridiculous. I didnt see most of this myself but I did see him being quite abrupt when I got there and I could tell staff were frosty. I keep replaying it all and thinking it must look awful. Young child head injury. Mum not there. Dad angry and defensive. I feel sick thinking about it.

I know accidents happen and kids bump their heads all the time and the doctor literally said that. But im now panicking that they will think something else. Or that his behaviour flagged something. Or that because DS is under 2 it automatically gets logged. I cant stop thinking social services are going to get involved and im terrified. I know how dramatic that sounds but im genuinely scared.

Partner says im being ridiculous and that he was just stressed and worried about DS and anyone would be snappy in A&E. I do get that. I also dont want to throw him under the bus because he does love DS and hes normally great. But at the same time I wasnt there and I hate that and I feel like im the one who will get blamed if anything comes of it. I feel guilty for not being there and guilty for even posting this.

Sorry this is long and rambly. I know MN can be blunt so im bracing myself. I just need to know if im being unreasonable worrying this much or if anyone else would be panicking too. Please be honest but gentle if possible.

We attended a&e numerous times with our DS between the ages of 1 and 2. He got croup a lot which always resulted in an a&e trip, plus a handful of more serious illnesses and a couple of accidents. We’ve never had a follow up call from social services although we did from the HV on the first one I think. My DH did his fair share of a&e trips with him and he got very short with the staff on one occasion as DS was going downhill fast and I completely understand the worry that your child is not being seen fast enough.

Men are wank at childcare in my experience. I do the school run 10 x a week and have done for 18 months and the worst thing that has happened is one of them stood in dog poo. My OH did the school run once (so I could work) last week and one of our children slipped and hurt his back. WTF? They are beyond useless. I think you’ll get a call very shortly if they refer to SS, my instinct is they won’t if it’s an isolated incident and your child is at an age where this type of injury is likely to occur (walking with sharp objects at head height) I really wouldn’t worry (easier said than done) because you’ve nothing to hide so it would likely be a few questions and then case closed. As your children get older you do begins to realise that the old ‘better to be safe than sorry’ doesn’t always apply. For example in future if you can stop bleeding and the child is alert and well and isn’t sick or falling asleep then you might want to
wait a little bit before deciding whether to go to A&E. The wait times are horrendous and stressful for everyone and aren’t always needed (as in this case) I’m not criticising him in any way for taking him. I was at A&E a lot with my eldest and did get a SS call because there were a lot of banged heads, I was probably a bit over cautious in hindsight and with my younger ones I do a bit of observation before deciding what action to take.

Men are wank at childcare in my experience. I do the school run 10 x a week and have done for 18 months and the worst thing that has happened is one of them stood in dog poo. My OH did the school run once (so I could work) last week and one of our children slipped and hurt his back. WTF? They are beyond useless. I think you’ll get a call very shortly if they refer to SS, my instinct is they won’t if it’s an isolated incident and your child is at an age where this type of injury is likely to occur (walking with sharp objects at head height) I really wouldn’t worry (easier said than done) because you’ve nothing to hide so it would likely be a few questions and then case closed. As your children get older you do begins to realise that the old ‘better to be safe than sorry’ doesn’t always apply. For example in future if you can stop bleeding and the child is alert and well and isn’t sick or falling asleep then you might want to
wait a little bit before deciding whether to go to A&E. The wait times are horrendous and stressful for everyone and aren’t always needed (as in this case) I’m not criticising him in any way for taking him. I was at A&E a lot with my eldest and did get a SS call because there were a lot of banged heads, I was probably a bit over cautious in hindsight and with my younger ones I do a bit of observation before deciding what action to take.