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My child is asking to join the scouts and I’m in two minds.

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Dagda · 31/01/2026 23:39

My child is very keen to join our local scouts group. I’ve read a lot about the many abuse issues within the scouts and I’m feeling a bit conflicted. If I did let her join what kind of questions can I ask to assure myself that they take child safeguarding seriously?

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JustGiveMeReason · 01/02/2026 19:16

Well said @RedToothBrush

The OP is being really obtuse if she thinks there is a greater issue in Scouting than there is in any other organisation when young people spend a lot of time.

This is clearly a one sided smear campaign.

Of course there have been occasions where people with awful motives have managed to infiltrate organisation where there are young people. ALL organisations. It is a terribly sad fact of life. Plenty of posters on here have pointed out how Scouts have been at the forefront of reviewing and modifying their Safeguarding policy and training on a regular basis. Others have suggested conversations that might help her dd (in the World generally, not just at Scouts). Many have pointed out how belonging to a good Scout Group have benefited their children and teens.

However, as it is entirely voluntary to join, she does not have to send her dd there and everyone, except her dd, will be happy.

Alpacajigsaw · 01/02/2026 19:05

Dgll · 01/02/2026 18:54

I don't think they are.

Thanks - I knew they had stopped male children joining but didn’t think it applied to adult helpers

Dgll · 01/02/2026 18:54

Alpacajigsaw · 01/02/2026 18:26

Are they not still allowing trans women to be leaders then?

I don't think they are.

RedToothBrush · 01/02/2026 18:53

The big one at the moment is actually abuse by tutors.

RedToothBrush · 01/02/2026 18:51

TheNightingalesStarling · 01/02/2026 18:40

Then you must be aware that Sports teams etc have similar historical issues?,

Let's pretend that schools don't have issues that are current too.

It's all about Scouts though and how awful they are even though the OP hasn't the foggiest idea what has changed and couldn't be bothered to read the article they quoted.

🙄

TheNightingalesStarling · 01/02/2026 18:40

Dagda · 01/02/2026 18:27

i don’t at all. I’m literally trying to figure out if the safeguarding is as robust as it can be.

Of course I know that the vast majority of volunteers leaders are not involved with abuse. I am concerned with the scouts themselves as an organisation. As a volunteer in a youth activity myself, I appreciate volunteering.

Then you must be aware that Sports teams etc have similar historical issues?,

cadburyegg · 01/02/2026 18:37

Both of my sons did beavers. I helped out a few times. Never had any safeguarding concerns.

Some of the leaders were great, others weren’t very switched on IMO. Luck of the draw. Round here they all seemed to know each other so getting into scouts was a “who you know” kind of thing and not necessarily because they were any good at it. No point making a complaint to the GSL because they were best buddies with half of the leaders.

The other thing I noticed was that the behaviour of the kids wasn’t great. Seemed to be a fashionable thing for parents to send their badly behaved kids to scouts to get them out of their hair for an hour. Very cheap babysitting. The leaders spent half of the session just doing behaviour management. It was a shame because it did mean ds2 quit beavers before he “graduated”.

trelawney59 · 01/02/2026 18:31

Zippizipoli · 01/02/2026 06:00

I don't blame you, I feel the same about Scouts in particular, having been witness as a child myself to abuse in more than one of these settings as well as at school - but that is another thread altogether. Others will brush this off as paranoid but I don't care.

Perhaps can you look for other similar clubs where you could stay for the session? I don't believe scouts and cubs allow this.

Parents can volunteer their time and stay at sessions in the Scout Association. They won’t be allowed to be in a 1-1 situation with children or young people and will remain under the supervision of leaders who have been DBS checked.
It might be worthwhile to read the Scout Association policies online to clarify the safeguarding policy of the UK Scout Association rather than make assumptions.

MissMoneyFairy · 01/02/2026 18:31

How about guides instead

Dagda · 01/02/2026 18:29

@TheFallenMadonna thank you. That is very reassuring that they changed their policies after this campaign.

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Dagda · 01/02/2026 18:27

RedToothBrush · 01/02/2026 18:15

Let's be honest. This thread is because you have a grudge against the scouts and are trying get publicity.

This isn't because you are remotely considering letting your daughter go to Scouts.

This is dishonest shit stirring to smear the good character of all the hard working volunteers who aren't remotely involved in this.

You just want to destroy Scouts.

I thought as much from your initial posts.

i don’t at all. I’m literally trying to figure out if the safeguarding is as robust as it can be.

Of course I know that the vast majority of volunteers leaders are not involved with abuse. I am concerned with the scouts themselves as an organisation. As a volunteer in a youth activity myself, I appreciate volunteering.

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Alpacajigsaw · 01/02/2026 18:26

Dgll · 01/02/2026 07:24

The safeguarding concern that OP has is almost entirely caused by men. The lack of men in guides solves that problem more than any safeguarding policy will.

Are they not still allowing trans women to be leaders then?

Alpacajigsaw · 01/02/2026 18:20

My son was in scouts from the same age, he’s now nearly 20 and a leader. I suppose it helped that the area leader for my area was a very close and trusted friend. My son has had some incredible experiences and made lifelong friends. But as others have said you don’t have to send them on camps etc if you don’t want to

TheFallenMadonna · 01/02/2026 18:19

Yours in Scouting?
This is their current petition:

The Scout Association has responded to our campaign to address its safeguarding practices and take action to protect children under their care. They will be:

  1. Setting up a Lived Experience Board, comprised of people who have experienced abuse whilst members of The Scout Association
  2. Setting up an independently reviewed inspection programme responsible for monitoring the conduct of volunteers
  3. Changing the safeguarding escalation pathway so that concerns are reported directly to their national paid safeguarding team, not via volunteers in the local area

To further protect all children involved in youth organisations, particularly those run by volunteers, we are calling on the The Government to:

  1. Add volunteers and leaders from uniformed youth organisations to the ‘Positions of Trust’ legislation, making it illegal for them to have sexual relationships with 16 and 17 year olds under their care
  2. Require charities running residential trip for children to be subject to an independent inspection regime
Keroppi · 01/02/2026 18:19

Just as an aside but at 11 you absolutely should be trying to explain grooming to your child. They're old enough to have had sex Ed at school so you definitely should have broached it by now. Apologies if you have x

Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain · 01/02/2026 18:18

I think you either let your DD go but give her the talk about being aware of grooming, sexual abuse and so on or you don’t let her go and she misses out.

I agree with pp just because there’s safeguarding and DBS checks doesn’t mean abuse still doesn’t happen.

RedToothBrush · 01/02/2026 18:17

Oh look.
According to the association, 96% of claims related to offences that happened prior to 2013 - with many from the 1960s to 1990s. But some have happened more recently, including in the last few years.

But yeah do crack on with your thread.

RedToothBrush · 01/02/2026 18:15

Dagda · 01/02/2026 17:47

I suppose that is arguable. A campaigning group of individuals who were abused within the scouts have accused them of systemic failures in their safeguarding practices which continue to put children at risk.

My children’s school patronage has not been accused of systemic failures in safeguarding.

Let's be honest. This thread is because you have a grudge against the scouts and are trying get publicity.

This isn't because you are remotely considering letting your daughter go to Scouts.

This is dishonest shit stirring to smear the good character of all the hard working volunteers who aren't remotely involved in this.

You just want to destroy Scouts.

I thought as much from your initial posts.

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Dagda · 01/02/2026 18:13

titchy · 01/02/2026 18:08

Youll probably have to anyway tbh - just to give your kid a chance to get a place.

She has actually been on a waiting list for a few years and now a space has come up so I need to decide. I didn’t put too much thought into it. It was only when she got the space I started reading about them and saw this campaign group of people abused in scouts had said, just in 2023 that there were still systemic failures. This got me concerned.

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TheFallenMadonna · 01/02/2026 18:12

What are the current systemic failures you are concerned about?

titchy · 01/02/2026 18:08

Dagda · 01/02/2026 18:00

I’m a volunteer for a child’s activity two nights a week with matches at weekends. As well as working full time and having three children.

I will look into this as an option because it is a great suggestion that would ease my concerns but not sure if it is realistic

Youll probably have to anyway tbh - just to give your kid a chance to get a place.

titchy · 01/02/2026 18:06

Dagda · 01/02/2026 17:58

No I’m really not. I’m not talking about our school. I’m saying the body the school is under has never been accused of a systematic failure in safeguarding. However the overall organisation of the scouts have,

Hence me being concerned.

But has the specific scout group? And the scouting association have acknowledged previous failures in safeguarding and done something about them. Your schools trust may well have very serious failings in its safeguarding policy but been lucky enough for no child to have been affected.

Dagda · 01/02/2026 18:02

Needspaceforlego · 01/02/2026 17:56

Op you've made up your mind so why even ask the question?

No I haven’t. I’m in two minds and that is why I asked.

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Londonrach1 · 01/02/2026 18:01

Why, best thing my dd did was join the rainbows then the brownies....it be scouts if she wanted. The confidence and life skills and friends she has made ....