Am I being controlling?

Did you not see him clothed before you were married OP? Maybe just show him this thread so he can decide what to do next? A change is certainly needed but his fashion sense isn’t the problem here.

Oh you have, it’s coming.

You’ve made your suggestions, he obviously isn’t interested so leave him alone, I’m guessing you sounded awful by his sisters reaction.

Yes, you are being controlling.

As I'm sure people have said, 16 years older is not "slightly" older - it's a different generation! My partner is 9 years older than me and frankly that is MORE than enough, but at least he's not old enough to be my dad.

Let the man dress how he likes ... unless of course you are going to let him dictate what you wear?

Why are you with someone so much older?

I don't think there is necessarily anything wrong with making a few suggestions but it seems as though you want to completely overhaul his look. The suggestions you've posted are a 180 of what he is currently wearing so no wonder he isn't keen!

My DH is 61 and half Italian and extremely handsome but he’s an absolute scruff. I would never tell him what to wear though. He wears what he’s comfortable in and that’s fine by me.

The divorce came out of nowhere... I'm glad his sister put you in your place. You sound terrible.

DH and I have been married 27 years. My style has changed a lot over the last 10 years. I’ve started wearing the band t shirts that I like and wearing DM’s
DH hates piercings. I’ve got my nose pierced and lots of earrings including an industrial.
None of this has changed who I am as a person. It hasn’t changed how he feels about me.What has changed is that I no longer give a fuck about what other people think about how I look.

Ok, when I first got with my husband I thought it was ok to buy him clothes I like to change his dress sense. 26 years ago it was seen as socially acceptable I guess. Now I realise I was being controlling so I don't complain when he walks around in jogging bottoms and tee shirt all with bench in huge letters down the leg and on the chest. I simply ordered the tops he wanted from the website "80s casuals classic". I even don't cringe when he wears his spurs zip up tops (well, I do inside but he wears what he wants, as do I)

Poor bloke! He should be able to wear what he likes. Why would he want to dress like David Beckham? Surely you knew what he was like before you married? YABVVVU.

I'm afraid I don't see this marriage lasting long OP. How does he react to you trying to change his style? If I were him it would drive me nuts.

This. He is who he is, you knew that when you married him.

And yes, glad someone said it. 16yrs is not SLIGHTLY older (unless there’s a typo somewhere…)

You and your husband have a significant age and generation gap and you judge his clothes and style as inferior to what you want him to dress like.

He's a middle aged man and he can dress how he wants. If you don't like it, find someone you can dress up like a fucking doll.

You're being controlling. You want to change the way he dresses and that's a part of his self expression.

He can wear what he likes and it sounds like he's been wearing it since the 90s. Did you think now you're narried you can boss him about?

Oh god they are awful imo

He isn't a doll for you to dress up

You cant change him. Suck it up or divorce him

I kinda of hope the husbands sees this post and realises the red flag that his wife is waving!

he’s a grown man with his own style and personality, not a toddler you need to dress!

Grow up OP. His style doesn’t align with yours, that doesn’t make him wrong. It makes him happy. Accept that.

16 years isnt slightly older! It’s almost a generation

you cant teach an old dog new tricks. Stop trying to change the way he dresses

it is controlling and no way would anyone accept a man trying to change how a woman dresses

Christ let him be..he doesn't pressure you to wear a biking jacket with him and join him at the local greasy spoon does he have comments on your attire?
I feel sorry for him because it seems very important to him, this is him asserting his individuality.

Now turn this backwards.... Husband tries to tell wife what to wear..... Saying she didn't look like say.. ...Sydney Sweeney..... Then how did it sound.
I've been with my Mr 16 years n never thought to try to change how he dresses, love all that he is etc

You’d hate my clothes too - I retired a few years ago, and now only wear clothes for comfort, jeans and (yes, shock, band t shirts), converse and sweatshirts.

i retired from a job when suits were not always necessary but I dressed as smart as I needed to, hated it and I don’t need to now, so I’m just me.

Also, ‘looks like a man child’ - you can’t look like one, you can only act like one. I had a very responsible career, was a very responsible parent for our two kids, and was/am a good husband (my wife agrees, but you’ll just have to believe me!).

You can be a grown up, without conforming to whatever stereotype mature clothing has, you can be a good person without being tailored and ‘presentable’ to your standard.

its kind of obvious but you seem more bothered by his appearance than his substance, which is just a road to relationship failure, however much you do or don’t try to control him.

I would say that is controlling. If it was the other way around and one of my friends or sisters were getting told what to wear by their partner/husband, I'd think it was a red flag and tell them to leave. Surely you knew what he liked to wear before you married him? You can't change someone.

Also I wouldn't say 16 years is slightly older. You can't change him. He's nearly 50 and will by now know what he feels comfortable wearing.

If you wanted a dress up doll you should have bought a Barbie. He's a real life man with thoughts and ideas of his own. Quit telling him what to wear and get another hobby, or divorce papers.