Am I being controlling?

^ funny and a jolly good point!

I have a lot of men like this over years who are stuck on the wannabe rock/ film star mode and usually really fancy them selves to hilt.They dress as the fantasy

A bit sad really.

However you did marry him after all.

As for David Beckham.Dear Me

He probably has an army of stylists and dressers who advice him on what to wear to grab publicity. Plus he is married to Lady Vic. Enough said.

If your husband is really bugging you. Stop moaning Dump him and find someone else.

The difference in age is more than half of your entire life so far. That is not "slightly".

I think it is okay to give men advice if they want it. And some do, ime. But giving advice to another adult, man or woman, an adult who dresses the way they want to, telling them they dress all wrong, I think is tantamount to telling them you don't respect them for who they are. Especially if they haven't asked for your advice. Even more so if they are your partner.

Did you start doing this before the marriage? Because if not, it might be hurtful that you waited until after marriage to say you didn't like it.

How would you feel if he told you how to dress?

I have never had a say in what my DH wears. Tbf if sounds like I dress like your DH and my DH dresses how you want your DH to.

DH likes how I dress even though it's not at all his style.

If this was a woman posting about her DH’s constant remarks about her choice of clothes and how he preferred her to look, there would be outrage and people would be advising her to look closely at the relationship.
Regardless of how you are phrasing it, you’re criticising your DH’s appearance, I assume he has always worn the same so you are being totally unreasonable, why do you get to pick how he expresses himself?!
For his Sister to notice it on an infrequent visit means you are over stepping…. Your DH is not a child for you to mould into something/how you prefer…

This made me sad OP. It’s one thing if he just can’t put together an outfit, but it sounds like he really identifies with the way he dresses (a bit of a rocker) so by trying to change it you’re actually curbing his self-expression. I suspect that’s why his sister snapped at you. It’s his signature look, part of who he is. And it’s a part of his past that he happily looks back on, you really want to edit that out of him?

So you don’t like how the “rocker” dresses, but I bet there are parts of his personality where this shows up which you do like. Focus on those and appreciate that it’s a package deal with the t-shirts. You can’t just pick the good bits.

His sister was correct. Leave him alone. If it bothers you then leave him.

Leave him alone ffs you sound like a right pain in the arse !!! Absolutely nothing wrong with how he dresses

If you like the clothes then you should wear them. He isn't a dress up doll - he's a real human being with his own tastes and preferences that you should respect. Also, if you buy something for someone you are largely supposed to buy them things they will like, not that only you will like. The fact that he is not wearing them suggests he does not like them.

Surely he dressed like this when you guys first met & started dating ?

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I don't tell my partner what to wear (unless he asks for my advice) and I would hate for him to tell me what to wear.

You are being ridiculous. I could understand if he had started dressing that way after you married but not when he has always dressed that way.

If you wanted to marry someone who dressed like that then you probably should have done. You should never get into a relationship assuming that you can change the bits you don't like about them.

It would give me the ick op but that said I wouldn’t have married him because of it.

what did he wear when you were dating? I went on 2 dates where the person wore white trousers and that was enough to end it for me

I'd it's particularly chilly outside I might suggest my husband grab a warm coat, but I don't control his clothing choices. You sound a bit shallow and your ideal clothing choices seem bland and boring

And if he turned it round and asked you to wear outfits that you didn't feel comfortable in,but he wanted you to wear, would you oblige. If my husband said he'd like me to wear skin tight black jeans, band tees ( never owned one) and a leather jacket I'd tell him to sod off. You married him. That was silly

I could imagine them as being wet lettuces. That's something your 70 year old Uncle would wear because his wife, who wears cardigans and slacks, has bought his clothes from M&S.

When I met my husband he dressed dreadfully. Over the years I encouraged him to dress better!

I’ve never made any suggestions about what my DH could wear - he’s an adult and can dress himself. He has also never suggested anything for me to wear for the same reason.

You asked if you are being controlling. Well, you are.

I don’t see the issue with suggesting something more smart if you’re going out to a nice restaurant or something and he wants to wear shabby jeans and band t shirt.

BUT other than that he is entitled to wear what he wants day to day and if the roles were reversed and he was shaming you for your preferred style of clothes, imagine how frustrating that would be to you and how upsetting to think your spouse didn’t find you attractive wearing what made you comfortable?

This hilarious, I’ve just read your post and realised this is exactly how my husband dresses. I make an effort with my clothes and he just chucks skinny jeans, leather jacket and a band T-shirt on. We’ve been married for 18 years and it hadn’t even occurred to me to care - because it’s HIM and I married HIM!!! Get over yourself- more important things in life

I cannot stand my partner's glasses. All I see when I look at him wearing them is Ronnie corbet
They are truly truly awful and I have never said a word
He does have a pair I like and I make sure to praise them to high heaven when he wears them but it has not seemed to encouraged more use!
But yes I think you are being controlling

If a man was telling a woman what they should be wearing they’d be flamed.