Am I being controlling?

are you serious?
how would you react if he told you he hated your clothes and wanted you to look more like X celebrity when you go out with him ?

this can’t be for real

Hardly. His sister was down visiting. And I suggested what would look nice to the restaurant we were going to. All said in a nice, positive manner. Not putting anyone down.

There is no way to repeatedly tell someone you hate their clothes that isn't putting them down.

You're both controlling and lacking in basic manners.

Val Doonican!!!!!! 😂😂😂😂😂 I don’t know why but that’s really funny 😂😂😂😂😂

I’ve read all your posts and you haven’t once said why this has become an issue after you’ve got married.

Compromise is key here

Yes you’re a control freak. David Beckham. He’s my choice but I don’t expect my husband to look like him. I do envy VB.
anyway back to the point, I’m assuming he dressed like that when you met him.

Is he a rock star? I mean, mick j has been spraying on drainpipe skinnies for YEARS. He looks amazing and clearly doesn't give a fuck.

Please don't tell me you are married to a rock legend and want to turn him into Mr Marks and Sparks. It won't end well.

He's only 47! I mean, you're only slightly younger than him.

Currently 96% think she's being unreasonable so how can you say this?

He’s not “slightly older”, he’s old enough to be your dad.

I think you’ve made your bed, sorry.

ohh yes with the baking of muffins or something?

Presumably he wore this stuff when you met, when you were dating, got engaged and married. If you didn’t have a problem with it then, what’s changed?

Honestly, it sounds like you’ve got a bigger problem than skinny jeans and band T-shirts. You kind of brushed off another comment but, as a couple, you do have almost half a generation age difference. That works for some people but can be tricky---- in the long run.

if the clothes weren’t an ick before, maybe you are the one who has changed? It’s not a dig, most women change significantly from their 20s in to their early 30s. It might be worth having a think about that while you’re still young. The generational difference won’t go away as you both get older.

My DH would approve 😂

I am slightly baffled. OP wants her husband to dress in boring trainers, a nice pair of slacks and a woolly pully. Are we sure it's not OP who is 16 years older?
My DH dresses like Stig of the Dump most of the time which is fine because he's usually in the garden. He does scrub up very well though! I usually buy his shoes because I know what he likes so I just treat him to the more expensive versions which are of a quality to probably outlive us both.

You know that ‘casual’ smart style DB wears costs thousands? Zegna
or Cuccineli polo/t-shirt £300, custom made nice smart casual trousers £1.200, Loro piana smart casual trainers £750.

Who are you to dictate what he wears? If it was the other way round he’d be annihilated on here. Let him wear what he wants, he’s not hurting anyone.

Brown!! Not even beige..im a dafty! 🤣

Yup, this! I was a goth/rock chick in my youth. I still love the look, but dont dress like this any more. DH never met me in thise days, but I'm pretty sure if demanded he dress like that he'd tell me to fuck off! I think its controlling to tell another person hw to dress, yes

To be fair some men look wrong in skinny jeans. My ex used to wear his with converse and had huge feet, the effect made him look like a penguin. I never told him he had to change his style though.

The only thing is, its beige and not gray! 😂

Because it isn't? I've never come across the idea before. I think you're trying to bend the world to your view but, as you see here, very very few people don't think you're controlling so you won't succeed.

"All said in a nice positive manner" sounds patronising.
And if he's really handsome and fit, he should be able to carry off the clothes.
You do sound controlling, unfortunately.
Occasionally I will say to my OH "Are you really going out in that?!" And he will do the same to me. And we each get told to STFU! But it's an individual piece, like a certain top or something. But you seem to want to change his whole look, which is different.
I sympathise with you if you think he looks naff but ultimately he gets the final say. And you wouldn't like it if he tried to dictate to you. It's a situation where it's easy to have double standards.

This. OP does sound controlling and shallow but then not many stable, well-rounded 31 year olds would marry someone that much older. Husband should have seen someone that much younger being interested as a red flag and should have known better!

They aren't better for your controlling behaviour

Yes the school boy look is so grown up

My ex was okay until we lived together, and started to make comments on the way i dressed.
His comments i looked old in that, do you really like that, are you honestly going outside in that, you need to take pride in what you wear,you look like a granny, thats a childish look.
He got me clothes but they was just not me.

I like my comfy jumpers that have pitchers of sheep on and other prints, i like my funky color jumpers, my silly childish pjs, my baggy jeans and baggy slacks.

Finale straw was when he said you need to up your barr on the way you dress as its embarrassing.
I said yes your right i do need to up my barr pack your things and get out, that was 7 year ago.
Im going to change for any man or woman except me for all and who i am or fuck the fuck off.