Please or to access all these features

AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

To turn down a job when the interviewer talked solidly at me for 1.5 hours

130 replies

PeacockPalace · 31/01/2026 20:09

And wouldn’t let me get a word in edgeways? He is the company owner so I’d be working directly for him.

He literally talked at me for 90 minutes. If I tried to speak he just carried on talking. Even at the end where he asked me if I had any questions, I went to ask a question and he cut in, finished what he thought the question was going to be and carried on talking.

He offered me the job within an hour of finishing the interview but I couldn’t work for someone like that. I’d find it draining and probably never get listened to.

He then emailed me to ask why I’d turned it down and I said I don’t feel that the fit is there for me. So he then emailed me again asking me to elaborate and why isn’t the fit right. I didn’t reply and he’s messaged me another two times in two days asking the same.

AIBU for turning down the job? WIBU to just ignore his emails from now on, as I don’t think he’s the type of person that would value my feedback anyway?

I’ve seen he’s still advertising the job on Indeed so others must have felt the same.

OP posts:
Jk987 · 31/01/2026 20:15

it’s fine to turn it down. I’m assuming there’s lots of other roles out there and you’re ok financially for now. Otherwise I’d take it for the money and worry about it later…

PeacockPalace · 31/01/2026 20:15

I couldn’t even get a word in during the interview to say ‘I don’t think this is going to be the job for me, let’s end things now’ 😂

OP posts:
FlutterShite · 31/01/2026 20:15

I had an interview exactly like that some years ago! The man could not stop talking about himself for a good hour and a half, and told me he’d lost three marriages to that business and expected total commitment from employees. When he called to offer me the job, he said we'd got on very well in the interview. (I declined it.)

TheIceBear · 31/01/2026 20:14

Jesus god. First post nails it. Imagine hours of meetings listening to this person enjoy the sound of their own voice .

Sausagescanfly · 31/01/2026 20:11

Bullet dodged!