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Should I just pay

55 replies

Wilst23 · 31/01/2026 19:00

What would you do?

My SILs car was hit by a neighbour who has since passed away (unrelated). They had agreed to pay the costs forgoing insurance company at around £600 for the repair. He passed the following week.

Given this was immediately before Christmas, we felt it best not to push for this.

I'm now being asked to enquire with the neighbours adult child who has since moved in, as to when this would likely be paid back.

I'm fairly uncomfortable doing this and am tempted just to pay myself to avoid the awkwardness. I also feel its probably too late to enquire through the insurance. I can afford the hit more than my SIL can but he reminds me that this wouldn't really be an issue if it wasn't a neighbour.

Not sure what the best course of action would be..is it unreasonable to ask?

OP posts:
saveforthat · 31/01/2026 19:06

Do you have anything in writing or was it just a verbal agreement? If nothing in writing, I don't see how you can pursue this.

Comefromaway · 31/01/2026 19:05

I’d go through insurance

ChavsAreReal · 31/01/2026 19:04

I'd tell my sil I wasnt prepared to speak to the neighbours, and advise her to contact her car insurance company with the information.

This isn't your responsibility.

Chattanoogachoo · 31/01/2026 19:03

Surely it's a claim on the neighbours estate, why should you pay it.

Catladywithacat · 31/01/2026 19:02

If you can afford it then just pay the family probably going through enough