Really disturbed by response to this horrible incident

Nobody is excusing the behaviour posters are offering possibilities of the reasons behind the behsviour ,that is very different to excusing the behaviour.

Whle I'm sure the OP is attractive etc, she didn't see it as a compliment and it probably wasn't a compliment either from a clearly unhinged man. The man is dangerous.

PPs are assuming that it's a MH problem because it definitely wasn't a normal thing to do .

The reason you're posting in here about it is because you don't think it's normal behaviour either .

You're away from there now, try not to worry any more about it .

It wasn’t intentionally to be a dick, being ND, I can often come across that way unfortunately.

The women (I presume) on this thread falling over themselves to excuse this behaviour is depressing.
The internalised misogyny amongst women needs so much work.

I get that, I was just explaining how it comes across to others. My friend uses a couple of emojis in a way that unintentionally makes her seem like she’s being a dick.

I also can’t believe the comments.

Great victim blaming mumsnet. Ops only crime is being a woman.

The excuses are bollocks.

I actually can’t believe some people on here are still wanging on about a ‘compliment’. Jesus Christ I thought we’d moved on from the 90’s. How depressing

it feels really gaslight-y to assume bad behaviour= mh issues.

From what I've read, no-one has really made that definite assumption - they've just offered that as a possible reason.

So they're not saying he did or he didn't.

"Im not saying he did or didn’t."

Why is this ok for you but not for the previous posters?

Good grief. It's really not. Cat calling never is. It's unwanted male comment on a woman's appearance which makes women feel uncomfortable and intimidated and they fucking know it.

it was meant more of a shrug as in “I don’t know?” “maybe?” “perhaps ?” kind of context

'There were two men poised and primed to restrain him at any moment. It wasn't his first rodeo.'

Jesus wept. This thread has morphed into Jackanory.

I hope the OP gets off MN asap. Because I doubt any of this is remotely helpful.

This was my thought too.

Is this just bots posting at bots with the odd actual person?

This is what I thought. He wasn’t actually offensive and they reacted instantly to prevent anything inappropriate?

I hate the shrug emoji and often think it comes across as really dismissive and passive aggressive. It might not be meant like that.

Women are always socialised to be ‘nice’, be ‘kind’ and self sacrificial too. To make excuses and endless excuses for men.

Why is it that male prisons are full?

The go to question is always what would men do. What would men do if they were being treated like this by an identifiable group?

They would recognise that they were at war with that group.

There were two men poised and primed to restrain him at any moment. It wasn't his first rodeo.

Normal men without learning difficulties don't lunge at women they find "beautiful" - they are in awe of them, shy around them, etc, and would approach with extreme caution, trying to impress.

Creepy men without learning difficulties lunge at people they think they can get away at lunging towards - ones that they consider vulnerable, because they are alone or just unlikely to put up a fight for some reason. They make disgusting and intimidating comments.

So to me, this sounds like learning difficulties or something similar.

An ‘inconvenience’?

I think you mean a sexual threat.

And yes they should stay indoors. Why should women and girls have to deal with out of control men?

Reminds me of an incident at London Bridge 30 years ago. It was very busy and I had my daughter's(aged 6 and 4) by the hands one on each side. My husband had a rolly case and his briefcase, the rigid sort.
An old man grabbed my 6 year old's other hand saying how beautiful she was (still is). I kept hold and we were all yelling for him to let go as he dragged us all three through the crowds. My husband ran back and joined in, eventually he brought his suitcase down on the man's arm.
Before he let go. A young woman was apologising, saying he was harmless, but we were scared stiff and swept away by the crowds before we could engage. He could have broken the man's arm, and I still feel guilty, I realise now that the man was probably not well. But it was terrifying at the time.

That’s just what I was thinking. Some do need to have 2 carer for their own safety and the safety of the general public.

@Xoxka but only 5 ft 3

Not sure what the relevance is.

If (as the post suggests) this mans behaviour made the OP fear for their safety then an assault - a criminal offence - has possibly been committed.

Assault is a common law offence in England and Wales that occurs when a person intentionally or recklessly causes another person to apprehend immediate unlawful personal violence.

Whether the (British Transport) police are interested is another matter.