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Really disturbed by response to this horrible incident

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Xoxka · 31/01/2026 15:22

Recently I was at Kings Cross. On my way to meet a friend. When this middle aged guy saw me and said something along the lines of “oh my god how beautiful, her face”. The two younger guys who he was with had to physically restrain him ans he was trying to walk in my direction. And they honestly were struggling. They were maybe 10 metres away from me but I was genuinely afraid. I’m 27 and incredibly active but only 5 ft 3. I was surrounded by people but worried I was going to be groped. Plus I really don’t like drawing any attention whatsoever if I can help it. Naturally VERY shy.

Ive recounted this incident to three people (all women of varying ages) and they’ve all mentioned the part about me being called beautiful. Like it’s a compliment. Ie that should be the takeaway. The man was physically intimidating to me! I was genuinely scared I was going to be attacked.

I just find this response very very depressing. Would the women around you not express sympathy if you were to tell them of a similar encounter?

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Wowsersbrowsers · 31/01/2026 15:29

Report to British transport police if you mean the station. What a weirdo (him, not you)

Mariocatgran · 31/01/2026 15:28

@Xoxka hi being pn your own I would be scared aswell but it is a compliment but obviously he should have kept it himself

Xoxka · 31/01/2026 15:26

CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 31/01/2026 15:25

Well the women around me would be supportive, but clearly the women around you are a bit dim and "pick me". You probably need better friends. It must have been quite alarming for you especially since the mans friends had to hold him back (was he lunging at you, or something?). Hope you're ok. Do something nice for yourself and try not to dwell on thus.

Not lunging but trying to walk to me. He was maybe 50 and stout. Very strong. The two guys holding him back were much leaner. I was very worried I was going to be groped.

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SliceofTosst · 31/01/2026 15:26

That's horrible and I don't know any man I know would find it acceptable in any way, let alone women. Are you supposed to be grateful for a comment that's precedes harassment?

Bonkers1966 · 31/01/2026 15:25

It sounds horrible. Welcome to earth.

Xoxka · 31/01/2026 15:25

FluffMagnet · 31/01/2026 15:24

Did you alert the police?

No I legged it!

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CarefullyCuratedFurniture · 31/01/2026 15:25

Well the women around me would be supportive, but clearly the women around you are a bit dim and "pick me". You probably need better friends. It must have been quite alarming for you especially since the mans friends had to hold him back (was he lunging at you, or something?). Hope you're ok. Do something nice for yourself and try not to dwell on thus.

FluffMagnet · 31/01/2026 15:24

Did you alert the police?

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