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Husband says he doesn’t like me planning things on his days off

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anonymous51937171724 · 31/01/2026 13:00

Bit of a back story partner gets two days off a week and when something needs done that will take two of us I usually plan it on his days off so we both can go.
this being going furniture shopping, painting or building stuff, or I ask him to go a tip run these don’t happen often.
also going for meals or a date I plan for his days off as they are also my days off too.

feel like it’s at the point I don’t even want to ask him if we can do these stuff on his days off as he says that they are his time he should be deciding that he does, which I get but somethings do need the two of us to do.
feeling like it’s an inconvenience asking him.
i also have said in past to him I won’t bother asking him to do anything and will just do it all myself but think why should i

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ToKittyornottoKitty · 31/01/2026 13:04

Do you also work? Do you drive? The way you’ve worked it is that you plan thing and then let him no, rather than it being a conversation, for example at dinner saying ‘I’d like to go furniture shopping this weekend, what do you think’.

anonymous51937171724 · 31/01/2026 13:03

Auroraloves · 31/01/2026 13:02

Do you plan these things before speaking to him about doing them?

I speak to him first about them and plan in advance

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Auroraloves · 31/01/2026 13:02

Do you plan these things before speaking to him about doing them?