Too late because I’ve done it. You’ll all tell me I’m a terrible mum! Bridgerton.

I haven't RTFT because I can see people have been arguing about fuck all, but I don't think you're a bad mum. We judge our own kids and asses what is appropriate and what they can handle. At my daughter's age I couldn't handle Jaws, whereas she found it very easy to take and quite cartoonish and didn't end up with the same lifelong jumpiness about sharks despite living in the middle of a city as I did 😅

She's 10 and I've just allowed her to watch Stranger Things on the proviso that I will stop it is I think it's too much. I have found some of it OTT and I am sick of some of the human on human violence as I usually am, but she's doing a good job of intercepting a lot of those scenes herself and looking away. Much of it she finds more cartoonish like Jaws thanks to the 80s vibe which is good. She pretends not to look at the smoochy scenes but I don't make too big a deal of it as I know these are some of the interactions she's interested in at her age. I wouldn't let her watch full on sex scenes. I know other parents wouldn't let their child watch it at all and that's just life. We don't make the same decisions for different children.

Do you find that you often make social faux pas @BridgertonBadMum ?

I don't see anything awful about Bridgerton.

A friends mum took her and her twin to see Rent when they were 8 so I reckon you're not so bad 😬

Two Girls One Cup! What a blast from the past! 😂

Sorry OP, you commenting on his bum would be my red line too. My DD would be running for the hills if I commented like that 😂😂 In fairness my DM sometimes makes comments to me about attractive men and it still makes me want to die from the inside out 😂😂

I do get the need to break up the awkwardness with your DD though. When there have been awkward scenes in anything we’ve been watching we’d make comments like “oh god they’re at it again!” Anything to make it a bit daft and non-sexual really.

My DC are both a bit older - they’re 16 - but they’re both autistic with pretty high care needs. So they’re quite young for their age. They both refuse categorically to watch anything with the slightest sexual content. Nudity is fine - they’re not really bothered by naked bodies - but for some reason they are REALLY bothered by seeing anything vaguely sexual.

DD will hide her face in a pillow or groan - I’m not talking sex scenes either, just a bit of kissing.

DS approaches it differently - he shouts “KISSY-KISSY!!” at the TV screen 😂😂

I think it’s fine to sometimes disregard the age ratings. You know your child. You know what’s right for them.

I was just going to say the same, brigerton is incredibly tame and if people think their kids haven't heard much worse in school, they are deluding themselves.

My parents were quite strict about this stuff and had a whole list of things I couldn't watch, I definitely managed to watch them all anyway. So no, I see nothing wrong with letting your kids watch game of thrones, if they want to watch it they will anyway.

Quite agree. It’s so inappropriate from a parent who is always in a position of power. You are not equals.

It’s Bridgerton, not Two Girls One Cup. It’s fine FFS.

People on this thread are talking about a teenager as if she’s 5. “She won’t understand it’s not real”??? Of course she will, because she’s 13 and aware of the concept of fiction. Jeez.

YANBU. I was allowed to watch anything I wanted from the age of about 12 or so. We treat children like babies in this country, it is absurd.

You do you! 🤦‍♀️

Apparently that’s very vanilla and boring and completely fine for a 13 year old. Beginning to wonder if this tread is weird or whether my DD is the odd one because she’s never shown any interest in things like this and I’m very glad.

I think season one was dodgier in the sex department. Episode 4 has a sex scene that might make you cringe though Op. Look out for that.

totally agree. the stuff I watched with my mum

the guy was fingering the maid in the last episode. Why would you let your daughter watch that

I feel a bit sorry for tweens these days. They want romance and fairytales, but "spice" has taken over everything and is getting harder and harder to avoid. Kids try hard to seem cool with sexual content at that age, but it's often a front. I can't imagine how uncomfortable they really are with some of it.

Sometimes I see younger people worrying about being "asexual" or "a prude" because they want a love story without explicit sex scenes, and I feel sad for them. It's like they don't know that used to be perfectly normal. Not everything needs fanfiction levels of smut in it! Sometimes less is more.

I'm not anti sex scene, but fatigue is definitely setting in. We need to bring back the good old fade to black. Some romances where gymnastic sex is not the literal climax of the plot? Maybe? Just mix it up a little! I wouldn't feel comfortable watching Bridgerton with my mum or a thirteen year old.

I agree, thought “the f am I reading here!?”.

Thanks , yes brand new information for me !

Some really strange replies to a really strange thread. 🤔

It's an anime/manga term. It's literally a genre in its own right in Japan.

And yes gay male pairings. Boy love is usually romance orientated. Yaoi is a similar thing, but usually more sexual.

(Source: I don't read boy love, but was a huge anime/manga nerd when I was younger!).

I don't know if that's what the PP meant, but I can't imagine what else BL means. If I'm wrong, well, at least you've learned something today 😂

Wtf is boy love ???? Do you mean gay?

I think BL usually means boy love. Unless it means something else here in which case I have no idea 😂

I personally think it's fine. It's raunchy but it's raunchy in quite a female focused way. It's not porn. A lot of it is about desire and people in love exploring each other. There is a lot of focus on fun and pleasure. It's nothing crazy though, just normal sex and a lot of moaning.

13 year olds absolutely know about sex. If she wants to watch it, she would probably find a way regardless. I was reading some crazy fanfic at that age. My parents never spoke about sex. My first exposure was a boy showing porn to me aged 11. Bridgerton is a far better intro imo.

People get mega pressed about sex scenes, but a lot of people have no issue with teens being exposed to violence on TV. Sex scenes at least open up conversations about important topics.

Eh?

I think the rules are there for a reason. If a certifying body whose job it is to do this says it’s inappropriate for someone aged 13 to watch, I go with that. Seems logical to me.
i think Bridgerton should be watched after the classics it is based on/mimicking/making fun of. My daughter will enjoy it more when she is 15 after watching Emma/Pride and prejudice etc. which to be honest are better language and plot and actually educational.
I think the sex scenes and overall emphasis in Bridgerton are often about women obsessed with matchmaking and this idea that sex is wrong. Yes this is within the obvious confines of that fictional society, but I don’t think my 13 year old would get that at all. There’s so much more to watch together that doesn’t make it all about romance, I prefer action adventure or comedy with women in powerful roles or the classics as a foundation for now.

also whilst the sex scenes are relatively vanilla, the bodies in it are so beautiful and it is so stylised I don’t think it is an accurate or helpful representation of what sex is for an impressionable child at a body conscious age.