Would you bother with this man?

You’re both doing the same thing except you think because he’s the man he has to ask you out. For goodness sake just ask him!! And if he stalls then you’ll know it’s a dead loss!

I can't really tell if you like him or not!? You've not really said if he's fantastic etc. If you really like him, just ask him straight, if you're not bothered either then let it go. He might be shy and your apparent lack of interest/replies are making him think you want to take it slow or aren't that bothered. He's probably matching your energy. Just voice your thoughts gently and see what you get back (unless you aren't really that into him, in which case don't bother). I think early days of dating are like trying on clothes - if it doesn't make you jump for joy, it's not the one, because things always look worse down the road when you get to know all the annoying habits (not clothes tbf!)

Sounds like you both can't be arsed. Forget it.

You're being childish. Stop trying to make men play games that only exist in your mind. You'll never find out what they think if you keep giving them challenges they don't know exist, and have a conversation! Ask him (and any future men) if they are interested or want to go out again or not.

Total timewaster. It would be a ‘no way’ from me.
Sorry OP and better luck next time.

There is no point in you playing games with a man that isn’t interested in you, and he clearly isn’t.

It sounds like you’re a time waster as well. Neither of you seem particularly interested so just move on to Dave wasting any more time.

How did you get on when you met up? Did you feel like there was a spark?

Could you both be playing it cool? If you are taking 2 days to reply to his messages you certainly aren’t sending him the signal that you are interested either so maybe he is feeling the same frustration.

I wouldn’t ask someone out who took days to reply to a text I sent and always expected me to message first and initiate all three of the first dates despite getting literally zero effort back….

If you’re interested, act interested. Stop playing games or making men chase you.

I wouldn’t bother messaging someone who takes days to reply to me.

I wonder if men get fed up with having to read women’s minds to figure out if they should ask them out again - particularly when they take 3 days to respond to a text message…

Be honest, you're leaving it several days to reply to him because you want him to chase you. He'll have presumed that you aren't interested or possibly he's sussed that you're playing games and decided not to bother.

Jeez. Stop playing silly games and expecting him to do all the running. If you like him, ask him out again. And don’t assume that men are all the same in the way they behave and react. They’re not.

Stop playing games. He's given up on you because you don't reply for a few days. He thinks your not interested.
If you are interested you need to show it. Don't wait days to reply. If you would like another date make that clear.
If you are not interested you need to end it.

Stop over analysing, overthinking and making comparisons with how you think people behave and their intentions. If you like him, reply to his messages and ask if he wants to meet up. If you’re not interested, move on. Simple. The angst and second guessing is pointless.

You haven't said anything about how the two dates went or what you like about him that explains why you're bothered he hasn't asked you on a third date.

I doesn't look like it's meant to be. Forget it and move on.

If I was messaging someone who took 3 days to reply back, I’d assume they weren’t interested in me!

OP…grow the fuck up!

If neither of you are that bothered, just tell him thanks but no thanks. If you met online, I'm sure he's chatting to other people to - that's kind of how it works. Playing games is just really immature.

Honestly you both don’t seem that interested or you like to be chased or validated a guy likes you.

taking days to respond would be off putting to me and I would assume the other person is not interested, so I would put less effort in.

when I was dating and interested I would just say let’s meet again. It’s modern age where women have reuse rights. If you want to see him ask. If your nog bothered leave it.

I can guarantee he isn't giving this the same headspace as you are!

If you think he's an interesting person / someone who you'd like to get to know better then message him and say you're interested, but it sounds more like you are interested in being pursued / validated than actually into him!

Is this what you actively want from a relationship? Confusion about whether he’s even interested? I don’t mean that harshly but honestly, if this isn’t what you want then don’t settle for it. Put this one down to experience and move on.

You're both giving each other the impression of not being interested. So, it's either the slow-burner love story of the century, or it's time to just let it go. 👍

It works both ways, it’s not the 1950s. You don’t even need to ask him out, just stop playing games

Neither of you are interested in each other. Move on.

He's probably interpreted you taking days to respond as lack of interest, so isn't sure whether to ask you out again.

Do you WANT to see him again? Did you fancy him, have fun? If yes, ditch the games and just ask him out. If he dithers, you have your answer to move on.