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What would you do P6 hit my P2

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Mummy2both1991 · 31/01/2026 09:09

So yesterday my DD told me a P6 hit my DS hes 5 years old in P2 (hes ADHD) he was lining up at breakfast club and a P6 boy was trying to make him drink this thing he made at home containing blue and green food colouring salt and sugar (shouldn't even be in school) my son told him to stop many times ( sister saw this and shes a big tout lol) and when he didnt my son pushed him away then the P6 boy hit my DS in the face. School never told me this happened. The boys is big for his age and obviously alot older than my son.
I know my DS pushed him away but should I be furious he hit him on the face. How would you mums feel? Should I speak to the principle. Conflicted cause my son did push but he shouldn't have been trying to make him drink something.

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Mummy2both1991 · 31/01/2026 11:54

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Nopenott0day · 31/01/2026 11:53

WhatSharonSaidNext · 31/01/2026 11:20

For goodness sakes can we not speak normally anymore? What in gods name is a P6 and a P2?? Are there P5’s and P4’s in between? Honestly do people make this stuff up just to be deliberately vague?

Prep 2. So year 2 in state school.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 31/01/2026 11:53

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Mummy2both1991 · 31/01/2026 11:52

Bite me🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

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LoveSandbanks · 31/01/2026 11:50

Don’t speak to anyone, put it in writing so there is a paper trail. Schools will sometimes do very little with “conversations” but once it’s in writing there’s “evidence”

napody · 31/01/2026 11:46

JellyRolling · 31/01/2026 10:03

Those of you who say you should “speak firmly” and let the school know you “mean business” are just not going to get OP anywhere constructive.

Schools are incredibly busy places, worked in by humans. Simply ask for a discussion with the teacher to find out exactly what happened and point out that you would like to be kept informed of any incidents like this in future. Express your concern that there was no communication about the incident and your concern about how behaviour incidents are managed (as trying to get a younger child to drink something is, quite rightly, a worry). Ask for close supervision of interactions between the older child and yours.

If you’re unhappy with the response from the teacher or a further incident happens, then request a meeting with leadership.

Being clear about your concerns and asking for a specific outcome (i.e. review behaviour policy, improve communication and supervise the children closely) should get you what you need. If not, then escalate.

There is absolutely no need to fly off the handle in order to resolve something with school.

This is all true and helpful, but as a teacher I'd say in this situation straight to the Head, not his class teacher who then has to either report to the Head or go and negotiate with the y6 teacher. It didn't happen in class- go to the Head and you can always mention to the class teacher that you've done that.

Hobnobswantshernameback · 31/01/2026 11:44

Oh and calling people a "Karen" tells us all we need to know

Hobnobswantshernameback · 31/01/2026 11:43

What were you hoping to get from this thread op?

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Mummy2both1991 · 31/01/2026 11:38

Thank you for asking normal

Primary 6

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TheActualQueen · 31/01/2026 11:33

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Chill out love.

TheActualQueen · 31/01/2026 11:32

What’s a P6?

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PloddingAlong21 · 31/01/2026 11:21

OP your son has done nothing wrong. Anyone posting otherwise are quite literally morons.

Why should a 5 year old boy, being pushed to drink something by a 10 year old boy who isn’t listening to ‘no’ NOT defend themselves? Him pushing him away is after saying no? That isn’t ’starting’ anything, that’s him defending himself and telling the boy to respect his space. The over reaction is him then smacking him in the face.

Never tell him he did wrong or should not have stuck up for himself. He reacted, not acted, there is a difference. Imagine if we teach girls that “it doesn’t matter you said no, just take it”.

Defo raise with school.

WhatSharonSaidNext · 31/01/2026 11:20

For goodness sakes can we not speak normally anymore? What in gods name is a P6 and a P2?? Are there P5’s and P4’s in between? Honestly do people make this stuff up just to be deliberately vague?

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Mummy2both1991 · 31/01/2026 11:17

Don't care what people think. My kids are taught stick up for yourself. He was crossing my sons boundaries and was told to back off and didnt. My son is tiny the P6 in a massive kid!

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Mummy2both1991 · 31/01/2026 11:15

Prancingpickle

Dont agree with you at all. My son made it clear and told him no and he didnt listen. So don't dare sit there and try and blame my child when hes someone is trying to get him to drink something. What if my son did push him away and ended up drinking something? You think about that!

I tell you more than once to leave me alone you bet im going to push you if you dont listen

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Prancingpickle · 31/01/2026 11:12

Firstly you tell your son not to put hands on anyone first; regardless of whether he feels it was justified or not. He should tell the grown up in charge!
Secondly obviously talk to the school!

FreyaW · 31/01/2026 11:09

Nah..The slapping is bullying tyranny...but making a concoction and trying to force/persuade younger children to drink it is dangerous behaviour, needs addressed pronto. What if there was something in it that people are allergic to?...doesn't bear thinking about.

Strugglingforanamechange · 31/01/2026 11:01

I would be livid! Straight to head teacher and if you don’t get a satisfactory resolution I’d be taking it further. Rough and tumble is one thing but that’s outrageous trying to get him to drink something is almost worse to me than the hitting. That could have been so dangerous.

IamGrout · 31/01/2026 10:49

A year 6 pupil wil be 10 or 11 years old. Bullying a 5 year old to drink something that may possible be toxic and then hitting him in the face is a serious incident. The school need to deal with this as it is a serious safeguarding failure. How has a yr6 child got access to 5yos? Your son was assaulted and could have been poisoned and there were no teachers watching what was happening. Massive failure.

I would speak to the Headteacher first thing on Monday morning (or the Safeguarding Lead if Head not there) and would expect an investigation to be carried out with assurances that your son will be kept safe. If the school do not take the incident seriously, I would report that a 10yo tried to poison and assaulted your 5yo to the police. Your son

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Mummy2both1991 · 31/01/2026 10:48

Dont see why people responsed to peoples post if your going to judge people on that post 🙄
Mind boggling

Already explained more than once I overreact at times!

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MatronPomfrey · 31/01/2026 10:44

You start by speaking to the class teacher to find out if they were aware. If teacher didn’t know they can make enquiries with supervising staff. You would only escalate to the principal if you weren’t satisfied with the teacher’s response. I’m not sure why you need to post online about a logical process.

Bumbelinaaa · 31/01/2026 10:12

In my head I’d hunt the kid down, in reality I’d complain to the school and maybe give the kid evils in the playground

JellyRolling · 31/01/2026 10:07

PS: your child pushing the other is totally understandable in that circumstance. I would ask them to clarify that they know why he did it, as they should be reinforcing the message that “no means no.”