What would you do P6 hit my P2

Explicitly sharing your concerns (even following it up in writing) and, again, explicitly requesting specific actions is not passive.

Ok Janet x

I would go scorched earth on this. The kid probably found this prank online and decided your kid was a soft target. What if there had been bleach in it? Kids are stupid

Have you considered it was maybe the way you asked?

Maybe they are just reflecting your own energy xx

Well according to @Bumbelinaaa if you ask it means you’re a bitch.

Completely agree with you. Your child said "no" a number of times. The other child ignored this.
Your child needed to protect themselves and did so in an appropriate way. I would be praising him for not reacting after being hit.
Speak to their class teacher on Monday, make them aware what happened.

I would say the head needs to hear this. As others have said, it could be that no one apart from the CA knows. It might be that it comes out on Monday morning because messages got delayed. Either way, get in there and state your case. I'd want to know how they're going to change things to prevent further incidents. Sounds to me like the younger kids need a seperate line to the older kids to prevent this unsupervised mixing. I had similar at a school once. It wasn't malicious in my case but the older kid gave something they'd brought from home to the younger kid to eat. Both children were spoken to by the head, both parents were called, it was discussed in a school assembly and new measures were put in place to keep the older children further away from the younger children's play ground. Its scary stuff!

In terms of the hitting - It's concerning to think that given it was *dealt with" at the time by a member of staff that a message wasn't passed to teachers... but that's definitely a possible reason why a message didn't get home. So if that is the case then I'd be asking if it's just the member of staff that wasn't aware/ made a mistake or if some kind of change in policy for reporting incidents from breakfast club to the teaching staff is necessary... Or whether they need to look at the way physical altercations are reported in general.

Strong disagree. This sounds like Scotland where violence in schools is absolutely rife and schools have no meaningful ways of controlling it.

By making yourself ‘that parent’ the school will get the message that you’re a pain in the backside rather than a walkover and won’t try sweeping something like this under the carpet in future. They also might keep a closer eye on your child in future if they know that they open themselves up to a load of whining if anything happens to your child in the future. Passive is definitely the wrong approach.

You absolutely have to address this with the school. Apart from the blatant bullying, it’s incredibly dangerous that one of the oldest kids in the school, is bringing in homemade concoctions of drinks and trying to force other children to drink them! Say your child felt more intimidated and did drink it! It could’ve been poisonous! Who knows whether there could’ve been chemicals in it for example. I’m sure you have, but I’d 100% be praising my child for being brace and sticking up for myself, this could be so dangerous - please update on what the school says! The older boys parents absolutely need to know what he’s done so they can stop this from ever happening again!

It’s quite simple. P stands for primary then the number. Her son is in primary 2 and the older kid in primary 6

complete under reaction I feel. Your child has been bullied by a child twice his age and the adult in charge has done absolutely nothing. A proper meeting with teacher, head and LADO or equivalent seems reasonable. So many mumsnet threads where schools put kids at risk and the parent is made to feel like they are over reacting.

OK so you might have over reacted to the hit (you didn't) cos your son pushed but honestly the hit is the least of what the boy did. He tried to force your kid into drinking a concoction of god knows what. A smack or push or thump without injury is ry insignificant compared to what might have happened. My kids are the same age, and probably would have been soft enough to drink it

I think you meant,
Oh I've never heard of P6 etc. Are you outside of England? What ages are they?

Can people not ask things in a more reasonable manner, for goodness sakes? 😏
In Scotland and Northern Ireland primary school years run from Primary 1 to Primary 7 (P1-P7). The kids in the year groups mentioned will be around 6 and 10 years old.

OP I don’t think you are overreacting at all. Your son was being pressured by an older child to drink something that quite frankly could have been anything. He pushed in self defence as I think anyone would have if they were in the same situation. The older child trying to make him drink something and hitting him in the face was wholly unacceptable and the school need to be made aware. They have a duty of care to protect all children attending the school and in my opinion they failed to do that so need to act appropriately and take firm action with the older child to ensure this doesn’t happen again.

I am guessing that the OP is from Scotland or Northern Ireland as primary school years there run from P1, primary 1, to P7, primary 7. And to answer your question yes there are P4 & P5 too so no one is making stuff up or being deliberately vague.

If you were unfamiliar with the term there was a much better way of asking

how very rude. P6 is perfectly acceptable. P1-P7 is standard in primary schools in some parts of the UK

Northern Ireland perhaps?
Certainly not Ireland.

You don't need to overreact, don't worry.

Go into school on Monday and say your dd told you this.

They may not have seen it, they may have a different view on it.

My dd could sometimes be very overprotective of her younger brother although she tended to react at the time rather than coming home and telling me (she could also be a horror to him at times - siblings!) and she hadn't always got the situation right.

I think your ds pushing away was totally fine and no one should get worked up about that. But if he has no mark on his face and he wasn't the one to tell you, I suspect the hit was less than you are envisioning - doesn't make it right that he hit him, but a little comforting.

I'd go straight to the deputy head or head. In my school, the DH would be the one dealing with day to day school issues.

I'd not talk to the teacher because they weren't there, won't know the P6 pupil and will be very limited in what they can do about things in breakfast club. I'm a TA who runs breakfast club - there are often 2 of us to 50+ kids and things definitely do get missed/not dealt with how they would in class time due to necessity. I have definitely regrettably had to deal with a hit with 'don't do that again' because I'm also dealing with someone in a seizure, or meltdown, or an actual full fight, or an aggressive parent, or, or, or... I do always follow it up, but I am aware not all my colleagues do (which is fair enough. I stay unpaid to do it). Every school that is internally staffed for BC I've been in has been the same.

It's fair enough your DS pushed him away. Better that than cower and drink whatever it was. You do get very reactive kids who will always hit when someone touches them with no age filter for the little ones, which is difficult though when you teach to push back. Teaching them to scream loudly when people do things to them will typically work better in school.

Definitely follow it up. Your DS needs to feel safe at school. There's every chance no-one has dealt with this or knows about it beyond club.

He tried to poison your son ffs! Enough said

Yeah I'd not be happy at all. I think there's a few issues;
It's very strange that a child that age wants to force a younger child to drink something weird they made at home- why is this older child really interacting like this with a littler one, why have they been allowed whatever it is in school? What if it had been something really nasty?
The hitting is definitely not ok, sure your son shouldn't push but I can see why he did in the circumstances and an older child like that should know not to react and walk away

I'd also be worried about how this older child will interact in the future with your son, why was he singled out to drink the weird drink in the first place? I'd be worried this will escalate.

I would talk to your sons class teacher, explain the concerns, explain the situation- for me I wouldn't be looking necessarily for a consequence, I'd be more focussed on how the school is keeping your child safe in the future. Children bringing in weird concoctions and asking smaller ones to drink them is a huge safeguarding risk and they need to work out how it doesn't happen again.

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